Hello all!
I am 43-ys old, This is my first pregnancy and we conceived naturally.
As we were not planning on getting pregnant I originally thought I had just gained weight over the holidays mainly in my midsection. When I started to notice the signs and skipped my period I went to a doctor immediately. (FYI: He is not an OBGYN)
He confirmed I was indeed pregnant and instead of being happy for me he seemed concerned. The only positive thing he said, (if you want to take it as positive) was "At 43 you should be happy this happened at all" His tone was not exactly uplifiting.
He scheduled the HcG test of which I had 23,000 levels and than I went for my first U/S. It came back with a yolk sack with no fetal pole or heartbeat at what he is assuming as 6-weeks. He immediately told me to get a D&C. Keep in mind all of this; the confirmation, testing, U/S and mention of D&C were done in just over 48 hours!!
To add insult to misery he said that at my age all my eggs are bad and that since the sack was empty that meant that myself and my husband must have chromosomal issues, and that even though I was lucky I even got to this point I should just do the D&C and realize it would never happen again.
We were devastated and shocked. To hit such high highs and low lows in less than 2 days is horrendous. I told him no I did not want to schedule a D&C and demanded a second U/S. I plan on scheduling that second U/S in the next 14 days and within that time I plan on getting a second opinion.
I feel fine - no bleeding, no dizziness, no other red-flag signs of miscarriage. I refuse to believe that I do not have a chance. I have gotten this far and this must of been meant to be. I refuse to give up on my baby at just 6-weeks, which by the way we are not 100% sure is even an accurate date as I cannot remember the exact day of my LMP or when I ovulated.
I know it is not common to get pregnant at my age, but I know it does happen and healthy babies are born.
I just need some reassurance from women my own age that have been or are going through this same thing.
Thank you for listening. I am trying my best to stay positive.
I am 43-ys old, This is my first pregnancy and we conceived naturally.
As we were not planning on getting pregnant I originally thought I had just gained weight over the holidays mainly in my midsection. When I started to notice the signs and skipped my period I went to a doctor immediately. (FYI: He is not an OBGYN)
He confirmed I was indeed pregnant and instead of being happy for me he seemed concerned. The only positive thing he said, (if you want to take it as positive) was "At 43 you should be happy this happened at all" His tone was not exactly uplifiting.
He scheduled the HcG test of which I had 23,000 levels and than I went for my first U/S. It came back with a yolk sack with no fetal pole or heartbeat at what he is assuming as 6-weeks. He immediately told me to get a D&C. Keep in mind all of this; the confirmation, testing, U/S and mention of D&C were done in just over 48 hours!!
To add insult to misery he said that at my age all my eggs are bad and that since the sack was empty that meant that myself and my husband must have chromosomal issues, and that even though I was lucky I even got to this point I should just do the D&C and realize it would never happen again.
We were devastated and shocked. To hit such high highs and low lows in less than 2 days is horrendous. I told him no I did not want to schedule a D&C and demanded a second U/S. I plan on scheduling that second U/S in the next 14 days and within that time I plan on getting a second opinion.
I feel fine - no bleeding, no dizziness, no other red-flag signs of miscarriage. I refuse to believe that I do not have a chance. I have gotten this far and this must of been meant to be. I refuse to give up on my baby at just 6-weeks, which by the way we are not 100% sure is even an accurate date as I cannot remember the exact day of my LMP or when I ovulated.
I know it is not common to get pregnant at my age, but I know it does happen and healthy babies are born.
I just need some reassurance from women my own age that have been or are going through this same thing.
Thank you for listening. I am trying my best to stay positive.
! Why we older moms are so mistreated like that!!! Your doctor is a very insensible person. I would give up on him and look for another one. You are not old to have babies. So many woman in here have babies over fourty. Even though I was 38 when I had my first I am thinking about maybe ttc again after I turn 40 this year. We have another thread in another area of bb for over 35 first time mommies, and one of the mommies there had her first with 44 years old. So perfectly possible. Like you I would wait and go to another u/s in two weeks. I have a friend that is 30 years old and she went to have her u/s at 7 1/2 weeks and they didn't find the heartbeat either. 6 weeks is early. 
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