Not coping very well!!!

[victorial8]

Sorry, just needed to get this down in words a bit. I am really struggling with all the ttc. I am 25 (26 next week) and my oh is 27. We have been ttc for over 11 months now and we have lost 2 little beans really early on. I don't seem to be able to get over losing the little bean at Christmas though. I feel pathetic coz it was soooo early and Others lose their babies later than that. I feel like I shouldn't be Upset about it or class it as a miscarriage at all!

All I seem to do lately is cry, everytime I see Pregnant women or babies I cry, I watch tv and I cry. I'm sick of feeling like this and trying to act happy around others.

anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. Sending all you ladies baby dust! X x x

 

[Freakycactus]

sorry for your losses

 

[DancingDiva]

Hi ya I have been trying for 4 yrs and have never fell pregnant so I don't know What u must be going through I just didn't want to read and run. I do get the same feeling when I see pregnant woman now and ask myself why me.
If u need a rant or someone to talk then feel free to mail me x

 

[Housewife83]

I'm so sorry for your losses. You shouldn't feel guilty about your grief. Different people have different views about the stages of pregnancy because of various systems of belief. What matters is what you feel and what you believe.

I'm also sorry that your grief is getting you down and making it difficult to get through the day. Have you considered having some counselling or speaking to your doctor about your low moods? I know this can seem scary, but I know from personal experience that talking to a doctor about mental health issues can be very helpful.

I also wonder if you are punishing yourself a bit? Do you feel low because you don't feel that you deserve to be happy? You do deserve to be happy and just because you have some moments of happiness throughout the day, doesn't mean that you won't still be mourning your lost beans or that you have forgotten them.

Take really good care of yourself.

 

[PhoenixRising]

Firstly

So sorry about your losses.
I had one m/c in Jan and it affected me a lot more than I thought it would so I feel for your pain (even though I've only lost one).

And I don't like seeing pregnant women or women with babies either. You shouldn't feel guilty about feelling bad though, its really difficult and you do need to grieve. Have you let yourself grieve for your losses properly?
They were your babies after all (and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!)

If you are really struggling and really down maybe talking to someone might help? Even if its finding some other people who've had miscarriages (I didn't like it when I first started coming here but I took a deep breath after my loss and spent some time wallowing in the miscarriage support forum - it really helped me to know that it happens a lot, but it also hurts a lot!)

Hope you feel better soon.

Liz

 

[aimze]

Hey! Don't feel down :-*( It will happen soon When are you able to go to the DR's about TTC? xx