Not feeling welcome....

[jess_smurf]

oh dear didnt see this and probably aimed at me and i wont go i am not losing this baby some people just cant face the truth its got quite bitchy atm

 

[Chaos]

oh dear didnt see this and probably aimed at me and i wont go i am not losing this baby some people just cant face the truth its got quite bitchy atm

huh? Aimed at you?

 

[jess_smurf]

meant the tread in 2nd tri

been posting a lot over there so must be me

 

[Seity]

I'd rather have information and experience from ladies that have had problems then be ignorant and risk my LO. Sounds to me like they want the 'Disney' version of pregnancy where it's all sunshine and roses. They're going to be in for a shock when they find out that parenthood doesn't necessarily come with a guaranteed happily ever after either.

 

[dizzy65]

awe

 

[Chaos]

meant the tread in 2nd tri

been posting a lot over there so must be me

What? This thread is about people being insensitive to people who have lost LO's when people post about said losses. I don't think you should start assuming the thread is aimed at you, when you have no idea if that was true.

 

[meldmac]

Jess the thread was not posted aiming at you....it was a comment that someone made that was insensitive to anyone in general who have lost babies and have posted in 2nd tri.

I don't want to dig up any more of it tbh as I've had enough pretty much of all the bickering and stuff. I don't think any of us need it really especially after what we have all gone through.

to you Jess

Thank you everyone for the support. I really needed it the last few days as I've been feeling pretty down about everything. It doesn't help that I'm not feeling very pregnant at the moment and worrying over everything.

 

[jess_smurf]

meant the tread in 2nd tri

been posting a lot over there so must be me

What? This thread is about people being insensitive to people who have lost LO's when people post about said losses. I don't think you should start assuming the thread is aimed at you, when you have no idea if that was true.

WTF sorry but i have had a loss and never hide him or ignore him, I felt like some of the posts they were describing were mine

think you have completely got the worng of the stick

I sure all the angels mummies felt the same way about that thread too , what is your problem

 

[jess_smurf]

i read the thread in 2nd tri and it really upset me

just saying i agree with meldmac about them being insensitive about their wordings and not the first time it was done either

may as well stick to stillbirth section in there but frightened i will upset ladies who are not pregnant yet and then come here and scare people that MC into fear of stillbirth, where do we belong. I need 2nd tri support but cant get it as my angel is with me do i have to hide him from them

I am nothing but anxious atm, frightened to do anything or go anywhere for fear of something bad, I dont know maybe just ramblings

just cant be bothered with all the shit anymore and it makes me so , i dont really now how i feel but completely screwed up atm

 

[meldmac]

I know it really does suck. However, I think tbh that there are way more supportive ladies on here than not it's just those 1 or 2 posts that seem to stand out more lately that cause all these issues.

 

[westbrja]

Meldmac - Remember you can always come back over with us in the 1st trimester post. You know that you and Devin are always welcome there. As far as I'm concerned if people don't like the topic of the post then don't read it. I can usually tell by the first few sentences that I am interested or uninterested in a post. Don't let other people bother you so much. You have enough to worry about. Opinions are like assholes, we've all got one lol. Hugs sweetie!!

 

[tickledpink3]

Don't you dare stay over here. If most of the ladies who have experienced losses stayed in those forums, alot of us wouldn't have the joy we do upon reading their progress. Jesse smurf was one of the first who responded to my bfp testing thread. I love reading about Jasmak in first tri. Drazic is just all over the place lol and so helpful. I'm sure that are some more wonderful ladies I don't know yet, but please go where ya want to on these boards and ignore those crazy folks.

 

[aliss]

Please don't feel bad there. You are VERY welcome to post there. People can be quite ignorant of the fear and pain caused by a loss. My own brother was still born (in 1980!) and my mother still talks about him to this day. 30 years. Your concerns and information are important to those with their heads on straight about the reality of childbirth.

 

[Chaos]

meant the tread in 2nd tri

been posting a lot over there so must be me

What? This thread is about people being insensitive to people who have lost LO's when people post about said losses. I don't think you should start assuming the thread is aimed at you, when you have no idea if that was true.

WTF sorry but i have had a loss and never hide him or ignore him, I felt like some of the posts they were describing were mine

think you have completely got the worng of the stick

I sure all the angels mummies felt the same way about that thread too , what is your problem

The way you worded your initial post, you came across as to say THIS thread was aimed at you when it obviously wasn't BECAUSE you have suffered a loss, which I AND the OP said. Before you jump down some ones neck who is trying to defend you and ask wtf their problem is, please read my reply in context.

 

[Chaos]

Please don't feel bad there. You are VERY welcome to post there. People can be quite ignorant of the fear and pain caused by a loss. My own brother was still born (in 1980!) and my mother still talks about him to this day. 30 years. Your concerns and information are important to those with their heads on straight about the reality of childbirth.

ITA!

 

[meldmac]

Yes but I know Jess and knew she didn't mean she thought my post was directed at her. I don't think anyone in this thread has meant any offense to others. So lets all just leave it at that as the last thing I think we all want is another argument.

 

[Chaos]

Yes but I know Jess and knew she didn't mean she thought my post was directed at her. I don't think anyone in this thread has meant any offense to others. So lets all just leave it at that as the last thing I think we all want is another argument.

 

[NG09]

I hope you don't mind me nipping over, but I just wanted to say that I really hope that you can all feel comfortable enough to come back over to 2nd tri. I also feel that with some people it's like walking on eggshells and can be quite intimidating to post if you have a different experience or opinion to 'the norm'.

I for one really admire the fact that you are all strong enough to be able to share your experiences and value your opinion. If I'm worreid about something I want the honest truth from someone who knows, who has been there.

Please don't feel shut out, as far as I'm concerned you are all always welcome xxx

 

[Drazic<3]

Thanks tickled, that was sweet

I think there was a bit of confusion there with those posts about which thread was aimed at who. Hope it's all sorted now.

Any angel mummy is welcome to say whatever they need to say anywhere - I am am pretty certain the powers that be would back us up on that. You have every single right to be here and not one of those girls has the right to suggest otherwise. It's not 'their' forum, it's our forum. You are mummies and wonderful people.

Heck, anyone say different you give me a shout, they can go through Drazic

 

[maybebaby3]

that is mad. i thought every1 was there 2 support each other, what is the point if you 'scare' people. the harsh reality is that sometimes things go wrong with pregnancy. probably the people who have told u this are people who have had no complications in pregnancy. i have suffered 2 m/c and know how hard it is 2 remain positive at times and how anything out of the ordinary can send you in2 a state. not every1 in the 2nd tri is so close minded