Not sure how he feels now?

[Dezireey]

My ex left me in October saying he didn't want to be a father and he wasn't coping well with loads of stuff in his life and said he would be a crap dad etc. He has shown no interest in baby and on and off for a while I went ballistic on him (threatened with CSA etc) and then went quiet. Whenever I have texted or called to say he is horrible, why is he doing this? etc he just ignored me.nice.

Latest thing was a few weeks ago, I went a bit cold on him and just said that we should make arrangements for child support, if not, CSA would get in touch. He responded with 'i have no money, I can't cope with life, I am selling stuff to make ends meet..you can see my pay slip, I am planning to move abroad as I may lose my home and to escape everything etc'

I backed off and said well that's that then, if he can't afford anything, he can't afford anything and I am also sick of the arguing (on my part) and I wished him well and good luck moving abroad. He responded quickly with 'I miss you so much, I think of you everyday. Things are just bad for me right now

Since then I have texted every now and again random stuff and he responds straight away. I also got a bit hormonal and said that he should just tell me he has no feelings for me anymore and I won't contact him again, his response was 'being silly again and hormonal are we?' Not sure if that was just avoidance of the question or whether he was saying I was silly for thinking he didn't have feelings?? (Bit difficult to see the true meaning in anything after a break up like this) There is no talk from him of reconciling nor does he initiate contact first. I just think.... is he missing me really? or because I started being nice to him and backed off about CSA he is now being all nicey nicey and just keeping the peace?

Would appreciate input on this as I can't make head nor tail of it and would like to see some glimmer of hope there but actions speak louder than words I guess

 

[BadassMom]

Would appreciate input on this as I can't make head nor tail of it and would like to see some glimmer of hope there but actions speak louder than words I guess

No one can tell what someone else really feels in their heart but I would look at his actions NOT his words. Men have a habit of saying what they think you want to hear just to get what they want, but I think their actions can't lie.

 

[Laura2919]

I agree that nobody can tell you someone else's feeling but if I was in your shoes I wouldn't go down that route, its like he is keeping you where he wants you and he know what to say just at the right time.

I'd think long and hard about even considering taking him back. You need to decide before the baby comes whether you two are ever going to make it or not.