justmeinlove
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I'm looking for peoples experiences either way I suppose.
As far as I see it, it breaks down to:
Cons:
- baby arriving might be as horrific and traumatising as dd. Frankly I am terrified that pregnancy would be rubbish and arrival would just be another giant crap heap (dd had her leg caught in the cord so was a horrible disempowering emcs.
- I don't think I could stand another reflux baby. I suppose I would recognise and know how to deal this time, but honestly dd has left me a bit traumatised for all that.
- dd Still wakes up every 2-3 hours and has Never slept through.....and I really do not deal well with lack of sleep
- we have no support network. We haven't been out in the evening since dd arrived, and alone maybe...7 times?
- what if #2 was a jerk! What if we dealt with all that and it made dd Less happy! :-\
- I am Terrified of doing this Incredibly Hard experience again, and putting my relationship through it twice
Pros:
- I feel dd maybe deserves a sibling? I don't want her to be shy, lonely or socially difficult like I was. Do siblings help?
- if would be lovely to have a Nice birth and baby experience...
- my husband is Awesome. His genetic code needs reproducing! ;-)
- if it didn't totally suck, maybe it would be nice?
Has anyone else dealt with this? Which way did you go, and for what reason? And how is it?
As far as I see it, it breaks down to:
Cons:
- baby arriving might be as horrific and traumatising as dd. Frankly I am terrified that pregnancy would be rubbish and arrival would just be another giant crap heap (dd had her leg caught in the cord so was a horrible disempowering emcs.
- I don't think I could stand another reflux baby. I suppose I would recognise and know how to deal this time, but honestly dd has left me a bit traumatised for all that.
- dd Still wakes up every 2-3 hours and has Never slept through.....and I really do not deal well with lack of sleep
- we have no support network. We haven't been out in the evening since dd arrived, and alone maybe...7 times?
- what if #2 was a jerk! What if we dealt with all that and it made dd Less happy! :-\
- I am Terrified of doing this Incredibly Hard experience again, and putting my relationship through it twice
Pros:
- I feel dd maybe deserves a sibling? I don't want her to be shy, lonely or socially difficult like I was. Do siblings help?
- if would be lovely to have a Nice birth and baby experience...
- my husband is Awesome. His genetic code needs reproducing! ;-)
- if it didn't totally suck, maybe it would be nice?
Has anyone else dealt with this? Which way did you go, and for what reason? And how is it?