Not Sure What To Do...

[Tamerik]

Heya.
I'm 18 and just about to take my really important A-Level exams. I should be going to university in September, but I think I'm pregnant. I havn't taken a test yet, but am about to. I have spoken to my boyfriend about it, and he says that he would stick with me and help me as much as he can if I am pregnant.
I know that my parents wont like the idea of me having a child at an early age, and will probably try to convince me to have an abortion. I don't want an abortion and feel that I could bring up a baby, even if my boyfriend decided he didn't want to stay with me. The only thing I'm worried about is that I wouldn't be able to go to university and take my life where I want it to go...
Could anyone give me their opinions on what they think I should do? I'm scared, and don't really have anyone to talk to, as my friends would all agree that I shouldn't have a baby.

 

[carmen]

Tamerik... don't be worried. Try and stay calm.

What makes you think you pg, did you miss your period?

If it is true, then your life isn t over yes, during your nine months maybe you cannot go to university ...i don t know (now thats probally won t be an option)

But your education can continue, you just have to take in some other options and plan abit different.

Also there is alot of day creches nowadays and alot of options for people in the same situation.

I think the best thing to do is to test first.

Then if you are remain strong and positive, and keep in your mind you can do it and you will do it and You will.

Test Darl!

 

[Rumpskin]

Tamerik... don't be worried. Try and stay calm.

What makes you think you pg, did you miss your period?

If it is true, then your life isn t over yes, during your nine months maybe you cannot go to university ...i don t know (now thats probally won t be an option)

But your education can continue, you just have to take in some other options and plan abit different.

Also there is alot of day creches nowadays and alot of options for people in the same situation.

I think the best thing to do is to test first.

Then if you are remain strong and positive, and keep in your mind you can do it and you will do it and You will.

Test Darl!

I agree with Carmen TEST xx

 

[nikky0907]

I'm sorry,I don't live in uk so I'm not sure how your system goes but I go to college and I'm having a baby in October...so it's possible.

Take the test and mane sure that you're pregnant and then make all the hard decisions...
Good luck

 

[Becki77]

I agree with the others here, take a test first then think about issues that may arise afterwards!
Most uni's here in the uk do have a nursey too so you can go to classes and still study. If you have a supportive partner than thats half the battle! And you seem to know what you want, always a bonus!
Test first, think about things later xx

 

[leeanne]

The best way to ease your mind is to take a test if you have a late period and think you are pregnant.

I am sure that being pregnant at this stage of your life is very scary. At the same time, dreams can still be fulfilled while being a mother.

Good luck!

 

[mBLACK]

Try not to worry yourself too much.. see if you are pregnant it doesn't mean you can't get an education, it just means that you may have to hold off for a couple of years, until baby and go to daycare during the day. I know this feeling believe me I'm 15 years old and pregnant, it's difficult but believe me you can do it, if you believe you're ready don't let anybody talk you out of it. This is a whole new little person in the world. Good luck and I'm here if you need to talk.

 

[katherin]

You are really really brave for sticking to your decision to keep the baby. You may have made a mistake but still a blessing has come your way. Abortion is surely not the answer and I am glad you have never thought of it.. This trial in your life will prove to you who really are your real friends and who really loves you unconditionally.

 

[lizzie52782]

Heya.
I'm 18 and just about to take my really important A-Level exams. I should be going to university in September, but I think I'm pregnant. I havn't taken a test yet, but am about to. I have spoken to my boyfriend about it, and he says that he would stick with me and help me as much as he can if I am pregnant.
I know that my parents wont like the idea of me having a child at an early age, and will probably try to convince me to have an abortion. I don't want an abortion and feel that I could bring up a baby, even if my boyfriend decided he didn't want to stay with me. The only thing I'm worried about is that I wouldn't be able to go to university and take my life where I want it to go...
Could anyone give me their opinions on what they think I should do? I'm scared, and don't really have anyone to talk to, as my friends would all agree that I shouldn't have a baby.

Hey girl whats up? well honey first let me say that you need to get your life stable before you can raise a child. most people that have children are not able to attend universities, because of the demand of the child. i feel like you are strongly against an abortion, in my opionion abortions are not the answer either. This may sound like an awfully hard route, but have you ever concidered adoption?? open adoption would give you the chance to see the baby and get to know it. hey, will you email me (email addy edited out - arcanegirl) we'll talk more
LIZ

 

[meg]

There are many different options for going to uni nowadays - part time, distance learning, college courses, open university.

yes, it will be a lot harder with a child, but if you really want to go to uni then you will find a way, regardless of your situation. (and i dont mean just with a child). and if it means that you take longer to achieve your goals, then so be it!

at the end of the day it is your decision, and only you know what is best for you.

 

[7WZ]

i want to go to uni and im thinking about open uni. couldnt you take a year out and then go to uni, by then the kid would be old enough to be able to be put into a nursery... There's nothing stopping you with going uni later on...

 

[Teri]

hey i found out i was PG and im doin a uni course as we speak until june and was going to be entering uni this september but im just taking a year out and returning to finish my degree in sept 09... with a nursery on site too my LO will be near.. plus most uni courses are only 3 days a week too...

good luck tho and like the others say test then you can decide once u no

 

[xarlenex]

Test and find out for sure. As everyone else said. Then see how you feel about keeping the baby. If you still want to and feel your able then uni is still possibly. Maybe just a year later?

My dad didnt want me to have my boy (im 18 too) but he dealt with it and now loves him to bits! My mum took a week or 2 to come to terms but loves being a young granny!

Lots of people think they cant achieve their dreams with a kid, but thats not the case. After having the child its up to you to keep those dreams in site and make them possible. Good luck in whatever happens and whatever you choose xx

 

[Blob]

You can go to uni, i'm going to finish my law degree and i'm having my baby in October (i hope aahh) Uni's want you to go so they will do what ever they can to help you, there are normally places for babies to go in the uni (there is in mine) also my OH mum works in the uni so i have a feeling will be making trips to her when i'm in lectures ha ha ha!!
But yea i def think test first worry later, i know someone with 5 children who is doing my course and one is under a year old. You can do it you just have to work hard.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Hey, first of all, you definately need to test, don't put it of because you'll just get yourself more and more worried =]
I'm 18 and started uni in september last year. I found out I was pregnant in October but carried on and told my personal tutor. To be honest they were rubbish about it at first because they never said or did anything but I suppose that was just the university's fault. Anyway I went back to them and talked to them and they were very nice about it and helpful too. I explained that I wanted to take a year out and maybe come back to do a different course next year which is the only reason I'm not finishing, because they said if I'm going back to do a different course my previous course won't affect me so there was no point stressing over exams that won't get me anything. Then they said that if I do go back they have certain benefits your entitled to and that there was a creche on campus to help me out.
It's up to you though really, you may miss out on the last few important months because of giving birth and then looking after a new baby but I'm sure you could get plenty of help. Would your boyfriend be able to help you?