Not sure where to post this...

[eppgirl]

Just dealing with so much right now. I had a miscarriage Sunday/Monday, and today is Friday and my husband has decided he wants a separation. I have no where else to put this at the moment. I feel absolutely gutted and miserable. I honestly just feel so empty.

I’m trying to figure out what to do as I was a stay at home mom and obviously I can’t be that now. Im currently at my moms and the kiddies are with him since he’s off work. I can’t keep them with me at my moms because she literally doesn’t have room for them plus she just got a new puppy and my kids who have never really been around a dog they could play with before would torture the poor thing.

It seems that the kids will be staying with their dad until I get a job and a place. But we have to go through this big ordeal to get daycare settled again, and then actually finding the job which are few and far between. Especially for moms who will have to be out of work some times because kids have needs at times, they will have to be out of daycare for whatever reason. Ugh. I just don’t know what to do and I’m feeling so lost at the moment. 😭 thank you for letting me vent.

 

[becsboo]

 

[red_head]

Oh love I am so sorry this is happening to you. Is there anyway you can go home and get your husband to find somewhere else to be? I think legally if he has been supporting you while you look after the kids, he should be the one to move out and find somewhere else? He can't kick you out and expect you to find somewhere! How mean of him to do this now. Do you think there is any hope of you working things out? Losing a baby is such a big shock he might just be lashing out as he can't handle his emotions.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I know things feel awful now, they will get better
Xx

 

[Bevziibubble]

I'm so sorry hun

 

[cupolatte]

My heart goes out to you! You are dealing with a lot of things at a terrible time. Was the separation a quick decision or had the two of you been contemplating it for a while? I would suggest marriage counseling. Decisions made hastily during a period of crisis or grief are not wise. Do you have a pastor that you both trust? I know of an organization who can give you the contact information for a Christian counselor in your area if you would like it.

Also, I believe that you are the one who has a right to stay in the house with the kids, not your husband. A lawyer could tell you about that.

I know that you need to grieve over the loss of your baby. This is very important, but don't let yourself get lost in this steamroller of events. I am going to pray that God would give you comfort and strength and courage and that He would give you wisdom to know how to address your very complex situation.

 

[eppgirl]

This is something that has been ongoing for quite some time, I just think that he picked a really shitty time to do it.
He doesn’t even consider it a loss, since I was 4 weeks.
It’s just an all around though time.

 

[becsboo]

thats awful it is a loss at any gestation

 

[Agcam]

I'm so sorry, Eppgirl

 

[cupolatte]

You are right. He picked a terrible time. I am sorry that all this is going on in your life. I am still praying for you. Lots of love coming your way.

 

[PaulaR]

From a purely legal perspective I would move back into the family home ASAP with the kids or you may face difficulties with custody and property allocations