November 2013 Babies!

[wantb502]

As for boob jobs... I know that is in my future. I already told DH it would be happening my mom did a reduction and tummy tuck for her 50th b day. She said it was the best thing she ever did. She's super happy with the outcome and no longer has boobs that look like socks hanging to her belly button.

 

[bb1]

Miss Jenn- He did latch ok straight away but I had help from the midwife. My milk came in day 3 but by day 7-8 I had nothing. But that was because of my PCOS. So I didnt get to pump.

 

[The Alchemist]

I always hear women say their milk comes in at day 3, but mine came in day 5 or 6. I don't know why? At that time, I felt like a failure to my child because she would cry hysterically, like she was famished. Felt so bad during those 5-6 days. Once they did came in, it wasn't even engorged and painful like women say. And wasn't much either. I guess my milk at that time took a slow progress. When I was pumping, I would pump only 4 oz each boob. My friend who at that time was pumping 12 oz each side. I seriously was so depressed back then, thinking I couldn't even make much milk for my baby. I had to supplement with formula because she would always want to feed every 45min to an hour. I wasn't getting any rest or sleep at all. I seriously hope your ladies won't have any problems at all with milk. It was hell for the first 3 months.

Anyway, I'm skipping this week's bump pic. Nothing has changed. I'll take one next Sunday.

 

[cat123456]

I always wanted to bf but with my first was sooo painful i just couldnt i leakd quite a bit and my second girly was born with teeth!! So bugger that lol i didnt even leak with her im hoping third time lucky!!

Afm i am probably going to hav to go bak to hospital today as the pain relief just is not working at all!!! Doing my head in xx

 

[berniegroves]

BB1 - I had exactly the same issue with breastfeeding. I had to use one hand to hold the baby and one to hold my boob! I never found a way around it and I breastfed for ten months. As the baby gets older they have more control so they can re position themselves slightly etc so it's not such an issue. But I still had to hold my boob for a whole at the start of each feed.
The easiest position I found was the football hold. Really easy when at home, but pretty impossible when you're out.

Jenn - I didn't leak at all during my first pregnancy but I breastfed successfully for 10 months. So don't worry about that. Just make the most of non leaky boobs!!

I've told DH that if I end up with supper saggy boobs or a flap of skin on my tummy that I will be having surgery to fix it. He didn't argue, but I don't think he'd be particularly pleased if it came down to it as its a lot of money. But it's okay for them as their bodies don't change at all.

DH and I were together for 5.5 years by the time he proposed. It was important to me that we get married, so it would have been a big issue for me if he had said he never wanted to get married. My dad won't marry his girlfriend, they've been together 20 years almost. And it is such a huge issue in their relationship!!
But it isn't important to everyone.
I hope any of you ladies who want to get married have the chance to.

I think pain at night is normal for most women. I had it really badly with DD. i have it this time but its not as bad. I get really sharp pain at the bottom of my bump when I try to turn over in bed.

I'm seeing my midwife today so will hopefully find out what position the baby is in.
I've gained so much weight recently!!! I'm up to 29lbs now. I have a little over 5 weeks left so am hoping I can get the weight gain under control!
I just have to stop eating chocolate!!!

Those with children already - are you buying your children gifts from the new baby to soften the transition? We're going to do this but I'm just trying to decide what to get. We had bought DD a trike. But now I'm thinking its not the best gift as for her to use it we would need to go outside with her, and may not get a lot of chance to do that initially with a new baby.

 

[Rockinmomtobe]

I would LOOOOVE a boob lift or a tummy tuck. OH and I had talked about getting me a tummy tuck before I got pregnant because I have a lot of loose skin from all the weight Id lost prior to becoming pregnant. And my boobs have always been a bit bigger (although not as big as some of you) so when I lost weight they just sagged. Im sure thats what theyll do after BF. I also never thought of them being too big and smothering the baby!! This BF thing is getting really complicated.

Im not leaking anything either....in fact, if I hadnt gained so much weight Im not sure my boobs wouldve gotten any bigger, I was a 36C before I got pregnant and now Im a 40DD...but Im pretty sure its fat. The only change Ive seen in them is color. And not the color of my nipples, but of my actual boobs....they look reddish/purple. Hopefully thats normal, lol.

Alchemist- when your milk wasnt coming in you used formula? and then were able to bf? Thats encouraging, most everything about bf Ive read says its hard to do it that way, but the one thing Im learning is that women end up figuring it out. Im terrified of having a rough couple of weeks and then having to go back to work and not enjoying the baby

Whitt- I wouldnt worry about the registry. 35 things is def not too many. OH and I had about 100 on ours and people are going to buy what they want (usually clothes) anyway. We have so many clothes its literally unbelievable. I have no idea what to do with them all.

Cat- hope you feel better soon. Keep us updated

I know I havent dropped and I have this awful feeling that Im in this for the long haul 40+ weeks lol. Im not losing my plug, no BH, nothing. It sucks because Ive become SO uncomfortable this last week. Everytime baby moves I feel like I got sideswiped. I keep waking up at night and I know thats what it is. My mom and sister were both late with their babies, so, I should probably just settle in for another 6 weeks

 

[The Alchemist]

Rockin - no, i supplemented after. The 5-6 days, I feed her colostrum as its supposed to be enough for them as their tummy is very tiny. Just a few drops is enough. That was what the lactation consultant told me back then.

 

[whittnie117]

Rockin, I thought it was normal not to drop until later? I've seen quite a few women post on here that they are dropping around 36/37 weeks? Is that normal? Or should we be dropping earlier? Also, not losing plug is no indicator. Plug just can grow back. I think I've lost some twice, but I'm not worried about it. It's gross looking, but no blood or anything. I got woken up a few times last night because of baby moving. I'm not sure how he was last night, but when I woke up I have some serious right hip pain issues.

Bernie, don't worry about that weight gain. It's normal to gain 25-35 pounds in pregnancy and it's not your first. It IS my first and I've gained at least 29. I'll find out more accurately next week at my appointment. I don't even check at home anymore because that scale tells me different things. I have been eating a LOT better the last two weeks. I still eat whatever I want, but low in sodium. Which means I am eating at home every day now. OH made a zucchini cake from scratch for me, so I've been digging into that. So good. So, not good for me, but still delicious and low in sodium too. Good luck at your appointment!

Cat, I would be horrified, HORRIFIED if my baby came out with teeth and I wanted to breast feed.
As for your head. I hope that you get relief soon. Hopefully the doctors can do SOMETHING for you.

Thanks for the replies on the whole registry thing. I always feel weird asking or supplying a list for anything. I hope I don't get any more clothes, lol. I have so many clothes that I think I have far TOO many. There is not a single clothing item on that list. Hopefully, if anyone does buy anything they just go off the list. I know that is near impossible though.

As for boobs smothering baby. I never even thought about that possibility. I have HUGE boobs now. Ridiculous ones. It's funny when OH says, "BOOBIES" in a weird voice every time he sees them out because they are just that massive. I went from 42 DDD to a 46 I so far. I'm kind of scared to gain another size or two. I can't even find bras in my size. I am just sitting here imagining my boob smothering the baby now. One more thing to worry about.

 

[berniegroves]

Rockin - your boobs could look reddish/purple because of all the extra blood flow. My veins have gone crazy!!
Also with the BF, we gave DD her first bottle when she was 3 days old, my milk wasn't fully in and she was stressing! And I was crying! Lol! We continued to give her maybe 1 or 2 bottles a day for a few weeks. It gradually declined and by the time she was 9 weeks old we were exclusively breastfeeding. Early on the midwives told me not to give her bottles etc and basically said i was setting myself up for failure. But it worked for us. And honestly I needed a couple if breaks from feeding in those first 8 weeks or so.
Just go into it open minded and see what happens. BF might work straight away for you or it might take a bit more perseverance. Just see what happens when you're at that stage.

Whit - I agree that we probably shouldn't be dropping yet. In an ideal world you don't want your baby to arrive until at least 37 weeks. I think most women drop around that time.

Cat - I'm sure this baby won't have teeth when they're born. It's so rare you'd be extremely unlucky for it to happen twice. my DD got her bottom two teeth through when she was 4 months which was a shock, but it didn't effect breastfeeding at all. As her tongue covered the teeth when she was latched on. When we stopped breastfeeding at 10 months she had 6 teeth. But even then I think she only bit me on 2 occasions (ouch!!)

Hope all you ladies are enjoying your baby showers when you are having them. Am so jealous!! Lol!

My midwife appointment was good, all measuring okay and baby is head down!!! YIPPEE!!!

 

[Co_Cowgirl]

Whit - 35 is not that many! I registered at 3 places and we tried to pick 30 some at each place so that people would have options . . . . NO ONE bought ANYTHING off the registry. The good thing about it was that I thought about all the things I "want" and now I am able to pick out what we can't do without.

No Boob leakage over here! I haven't thought about smothering DD with my boobs. I was anywhere from a 36 DD - 36 G depending on who measures you BEFORE I got pregnant. I haven't bothered going out to by new bra's yet. I have just been stuffing them in the same old bras.

Um either little Kaylee turned this morning or she is using her feet to just push really hard downward this morning. I am quite uncomfortable this morning.

 

[wantb502]

As for he registry... People have been buying off mine but also buying other things too. Someone bought a nursing pillow and pink shoes! I'm have a boy and I already have a nursing pillow... That's why I didn't register for it! I wish people would buy from the registry or something unique. There's a reason I didn't put certain things on there... Because I have them already. I will just return and get what I need... But really?!?! Pink shoes????

 

[missjenn]

Rockin, I'm totally with you....I am ready to go now! But I also have a feeling I am going to be on time or late . I would totally love to go two weeks early!

My boob color has changed too...but mostly the brown has basically run through the boob...if that makes sense.

I have a ton of veins going on two....you can't see them in any of my belly pictures...but holy frig...in person...there are a ton and they stand out big time!

Thanks to everyone for responding on the "dropped" and the "BF" topic. I keep looking for signs of being close but like Rockin...I am not noticing any...damit!

I sure wish you guys had maternity leave like we do in Canada, I feel terrible that you wont have a year with the baby. I could not imagine!

 

[whittnie117]

Ahhhhh! This pain in my hip. This started a few days ago. Right now it's in my right outer hip, thigh and comes to my back. it's different than Sciatic pain. That I know what it feels like and it's much different and in a different place. When I walk now I feel like inner thigh, up in the pubic bone feel like they may fall to pieces. My lower back, very low feels terrible when I move too.

Anyone going through this? If so, what can I do to help it a little? I use heat sometimes, but then get too hot. Tylenol doesn't do anything.

 

[The Alchemist]

Missjenn - I know, you guys are pretty lucky over there. One whole year! I'll be a sahm for a few months after baby is born, then I plan on continuing education in the nursing field. Dunno how that will be with two kids and trying to study. Yikes!

Whittnie - that's me exactly! Does yours also crack and grind? It hurts in any position too nothing I do or take helps. Doctor told me I'm just one of the few unlucky ladies to be plagued with high levels of relaxin hormone. Plus, my boy is really low, I feel him. When I go to pee, just very little comes out and theres lots of pressure, feels like my vagina and anus is gonna fall. Oh my goodness...I know how you've been feeling. It sucks. I don't know how I will take it during l&d as laying on my back aggravates it. Ugh...

 

[whittnie117]

It doesn't crack in the general sense, but it does feel like it's grinding in the back near the sacroiliac joints. It's the outer hip pain that I can't stand and the pain near the pubic arch. That seems to be getting worse each day. I wonder if it's made worse because of the sciatica on top of it. I've gotten used to that being on the right side(I have had chronic sciatica of the left side since 2011). But oh...my...gosh...I wish I were a Mrs potato head and could just take off my leg.

I also feel like my baby is hanging out really low. All the punches I get are inside the lower pelvis and the very front of the pubic region (where the hair is). I didn't even realize until pregnancy that a baby could be THAT low. I also feel like he likes to head butt my cervix/bladder. Ugh, I wish there was SOMETHING, anything that I could do to help the pain. I don't want to go through this for the next 6-10 weeks.

Missjenn, I am jealous of a lot of things that you guys get in Canada. It seems like the US is going down the tube. I am really irritated with how things are going right now here. So many crazy things going on.

 

[berniegroves]

Missjenn - do you get paid for the year off? In the UK we're entitled to a year off but you don't get paid for much of it, so a lot is at a really reduced rate or unpaid. But still a year off is a year off.

Whit & alchemist - I get hip pain too. Always much worse at night when I'm trying to turn over in bed! I had it with DD and it was really bad then! It's not quite as bad in this pregnancy which is good.
Alchemist - do some research about labour positions and try some out. You will probably find lots of positions which are more comfortable than lying on your back. Have you tried a birthing ball? That was super comfortable when I was in labour last time and really helped my hip pain.

Missjenn - if it makes you feel better about looking for signs if labour etc. I didn't have any warning with DD that I was going to go into labour. The midwife said she was only partly engaged and that I wouldn't be having her anytime soon. My waters broke 2 hours later!! So sometimes there aren't any signs to look for, so don't be discouraged.
Xx

 

[The Alchemist]

Whittnie - few more weeks and let's how it all goes away!

Berniegroves - I'm gonna get that birthing ball online! Thanks!

On signs of labor, I didn't get any either. I lost some plug on the morning of labor but I didn't and still don't consider that a sign because you could lose the plug a couple of weeks before labor actually happens so it's not reliable for me.

 

[whittnie117]

Oh and if you get a birthing ball make sure it's a tall one. I have an exercise ball and the doctor said it would be the same. NO, not the same. It is super low and won't do anything but cause more problems during labor. You need to be able to sit so your knees are slightly lower than your hips. My knees came midway up the stomach on that thing...Holy moly. I am going to buy an actual birth ball in the next two weeks. I want to have it because it releases some pressure on the pelvis even prior to labor. During labor I think I will need it. There are all sorts of things you can do with it to help open up your pelvis so the baby can fit through easier and not to mention to bring the baby down into the birth canal.

 

[luna_19]

How.much we get paid here depends on your income, it's between 55 and 80% of what you were making for 1 year though I think you have to be pretty much making minimum wage to qualify for the top amount. There is also a limit of $500 per week, my hubby will be taking part of my leave (we can split the year any way we want) and will be getting the maximum which is quite a bit less than he normally makes.

There is also laws here that require your employer to give you back your old position or an equivalent one with the same pay as long as you don't take more than a year off.

 

[The Alchemist]

I just ordered my birthing/exercise ball online (Amazon). I should get it by Friday. I chose the 65cm size so that should be tall enough for me, I am 5'6''. I've always wanted one after I had dd for working out so this will be worth it as I can use it after I have ds. Yes!