November 2013 Babies!

Want: How much is daycare running out there? I think out here it's like $400/month, but I could be wrong. I'm thinking it could be more. I would want to send my kids to a center also, because too many things are happening nowadays in the home daycares. Just recently on the news, a home daycare was shut down after a baby came home feeling sick. Come to find out out, the daycare owner was smoking pot around the kids. So the kid had inhaled a lot of marijuana smoke which got the kid sick. Luckily the kid is okay.
 
I need you guys honest opinion. Okay my FIL is like 65yrs old and had a triple bypass surgery last year. I always encourage my hubby to spend time with him because you never know what can happen to him. Plus he is lonely since my hubby's mom passed away 20yrs ago. He is clearly not over her as he religiously visits her grave every Friday. Now that I'm in the hospital, it's like my husband is getting stressed out because he doesn't know how to split up the time between me and FIL. I told my husband to spend time with his dad during the day and make sure he is here in the early evening to see me as I look forward to him pushing me around the hospital for an hour as part of my daily priveledges. But sometimes I want him here all day with me to keep me company. I don't want to sound selfish because I know I'm not really sick, and that they are just keeping me here for precautionary reasons. Plus my husband has my step-daughter to look after two nights a week and my son. Like right now, he is at home helping my SD with her homework, then he has to come see me then get home at a descent hour to bathe her. Then he has to get up early to drive her to school which is like way across town. He is really being super dad/husband/son right now and I appreciate that but I miss spending time with him. Should I just deal with it while I'm in here and continue on letting him spend time with his dad? What would you guys do?
 
I know from experience that anything can happen with a loved one. I would let him continue to spend time with his dad. But maybe at less of a frequency until you've delivered. It can be pretty lonely in the hospital, so I can understand. I was there 24/7 for myself for a week and with my grandma who slept most of the time for 27 days. I think all needs should be addressed. Maybe just have a heart to heart with him to see if there is any wiggle room for more time spent with you, but still getting in that important time with his dad too.
 
Mama- I would have a hard time with my OH being gone so much too so try not to feel guilty. But yes u would probably let him spend whatever time he needs with his dad. Maybe just let him know how much you look forward to his visits. :) Good luck. Hang in there. I'm sure it's not easy being stick there. :hugs:

Ugh daycare is expensive. It's $300 a week here for infant care. We cannot afford that. Id like to stay home for a few months but ill definitely need to go back to work for my sanity. OHs mom is going to watch the baby, but hopefully not for long as I don't think she's capable (she's a heavy smoker and older) but we don't have a lot of options right now. Blah!

Dr visit went well. Evetything looks good. I can go back in 2 weeks! Yay!

Here's my 31 week bump :)
 

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$300/week, WHAT, that is too much. Maybe it's that high out here too. I have to check. Rockin, you look nice in that pic, and I'm glad your appt went well. Do they do an ultrasound at every appt now?
 
Rockin, you look great and might I say that your hair looks awesome? Glad everything went well at your appointment.

Daycare here is about 650-900 dollars a month. That's average for this area. If you want great care you're looking at about 1000-1200 a month. I'm going to be staying home and baby will be watched by his Nana (OH's mom) if I decided to go back to school soon after the birth. We've talked about up to three times a week for four-six hours, so I can get in at least three classes. But preschools cost so much here, when I finally graduate and get a teaching position, baby will need somewhere to go. Preschool costs about 800 a month and easily more.
 
Mama: I agree with rockin and whit. Have a talk with him but definitely let him spend what he needs with his dad. I've had two friends recently have their fathers pass away suddenly. You just never know and that time is important for both of them.

Daycares run about 200$ a week here too. It's a LOT of money. But they are watching your child for a large part of the day. I was talking wih DH and we were saying how we just couldn't imagine how single parents do it on even an income of $50000/year. It's half Your paycheck each month! I am so lucky that both DH and I have good paying jobs. I would be so stressed if we couldn't afford day care or Afford to be a sahm. Life is rough sometimes.
 
In so jealous of those going back to work. I really wanted to return to work after DD but childcare was just too expensive! For part time childcare here it was about £700 a month (which is about $1000 roughly)
It meant that I'd only have £100 a month left out of my salary and my travel to work cost more than that a month. So we would have been financially worse off if I had returned to work.
It was a huge adjustment for me and being a stay at home mum is hard. But then I remember how quickly my DD changes and grows and I'm glad I'm home with her.
Some of my friends are lucky enough to have parents who can watch their kids so they don't pay for childcare.
 
Love the bump and the hair Rockin...I can definitely see a change in your bump!

It's crazy how much we grow still at 30 weeks...omg! I'm a little scared!

Daycare here - we are looking at about 150 a week...god...its going to be tough! We already pay that for my husbands daughter every second week...as we have 50/50 custody.

I would definitely your hubby keep spending time with his father....you definitely want him to have that time and never look back and say "I wish I had spent more time with dad". I know it's hard when you are cooped up in the hospital all day but I would still let him do what he is doing there....he does sound busy!
 
I'm still getting the "your belly is so small"
It makes me nervous that I'm not big enough for 28 weeks. I know almost everyone pea through the worry of being too big or too small. Anyone else worries still about their bellies not being the "right" size ?? Am I crazy?!?
 
Okay here is a list from two books.

Black beans: 250mg of folate per cup. Helps break down sulfites. Rich in antioxidants.
Has maganese, thiamin, phosphorus, magnesium. Awesome for protein. May help with sleep if eaten before bedtime.

Celery: Rich in silica (good for skin firmness). Can help with swelling.

Coho Salmon: Heathy fats, DHA, Epa, AA. All essential for nervous system, retina, brain development. Helps with sleep patterns in newborns.

Cranberries: Helps release bad bacteria from the body. High in vitamin C.

Crimini mushrooms: Rich in folate, selenium, and b vitamins.

Eggs: Yolks have choline which is important for the brain. High in cholesterol, but during your pregnancy we have higher needs for cholesterol for the new cells that are constantly being made. High in protein. High in lutein, which is great for eye health (babys).

Evening primrose oil: Contains GLA, an essential fatty acid. Needed for joint, heart, and skin health. Helps with the regulation of inflammation, pain, blood pressure, fluid balance, and blood clotting. Has numerous good effects on many diseases and conditions. Helps prevent preeclampsia. It shouldn't be taken in large supplemental doses during pregnancy. But added to salad dressings, smoothies or other simple items is fine.

Fish oil: DHA essential fatty acids. Essential to Nervous system, brain, retina development. Also can help with producing smarter babies. Take with food. Look for a good quality, PCB free supplement

Garlic: Helps your cardiovascular system ease the workload from the extra blood in you system. Helps lower blood pressure, which may help prevent preeclampsia. Helps prevent strep b. Good for the immune system.

green peas: Great source of vitamins A, C, k, Thiamin, and maganese. Also protein, niacin, folate, iron, phosphorus. Helps with development of eyes, skin, blood vessels, muscles and tone. High in fiber.

Herring: one of the highest concentrations of EPA and DHA. Again brain, eye, and nervous system development.

Molasses: Helps with constipation. Has magensium, maganese. May help with swollen ankles and feet, Blackstrap molasses are the best choice.

Nuts: high in protein, healthy fats, selenium, and fiber.

Papaya: rich in vitamin C, fiber, potassium, vitamin A, folate. Needed for eyes, last minute cell growth. The enzyme papain is good in helping aid digestion.

Parsley: It's like a multivitamin in plant form. Too many to list! Can help with labor.

Peppermint: Good source of niacin, phosphorus, and zinc. Good for skin repair, health. Fiber, vitamin A, C. iron, maganese, magnesium, potassium, riboflavin, folate all in small amounts.

Red raspberry leaf tea. easier labor, supports healthy blood vessel dialation, healthier uterus.

rhubarb: Super high in vitamin C, Silica.

Sesame seeds: calcium, iron, fiber, copper, maganese. Also good for thiamin, vitamin b6, folate. Good for baby development and help with keeping energy up.Nerve development, nerve transmission, muscle contractions. Helps aid digestion in mom and prevention of anemia.

Swiss cheese: 75% daily calcium needs. Teeth, bones, may help control blood pressure, preterm labor. Good to eat during breastfeeding too.


There's a lot more. I'll edit the post, so check back. I've only done one book so far.
 
No, you're not crazy want. I'm too big for 28 weeks, lol. But you were super fit pre pregnancy and you've stayed super active. It's typical for those who were active and remain active stay smaller. You're ab muscles help things stay strong and keep things in. You're truly all baby. Besides, it is most probable that you'll be the one in our group that bounces back to weight the soonest after babies are all born.
 
30 weeks :) I had an appt yesterday and baby is measuring spot on.We have our growth scan at 32+1.Ignore the granny panties in the pic.I'm at the point where being comfortable is way more important than style
 

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Want - I feel like my bump is too small as well! I was heavier before I got pregnant so even now that I am down to 67 days people tell me all the time that I don't even look pregnant. I feel like sometimes people look at me and wonder if I am just faking it.

Mama- I know how lonely it is at the hospital but you OH still has to try and keep his balance. Do you have friends or family that you can schedule to come in at a different time? When my MIL is in the hospital I try to go and sit with her in the mornings, my BIL comes in for lunch/afternoon and then my FIL comes around dinner.

I had an appointment today and my blood pressure was way up so they made me lay down for a while and it came back down. At this point no protein in the urine so they said just to keep an eye on it but if I start feeling poorly I need to follow up on it quickly.

I am lucky that my DD is going to only spend a few hours, 4 times a week with her aunt and that OH and I are kind of staggering our work shifts. It sucks because OH and I won't see much of each other 4 days a week (no dinners together) but it is best for the LO for now.
 
Whitt-Thanks so much for the list, Im going to stick it on my fridge!

$300/week, WHAT, that is too much. Maybe it's that high out here too. I have to check. Rockin, you look nice in that pic, and I'm glad your appt went well. Do they do an ultrasound at every appt now?

Thanks! No more ultrasounds for me unless they think the baby is getting too big :(

Love the bump and the hair Rockin...I can definitely see a change in your bump!

It's crazy how much we grow still at 30 weeks...omg! I'm a little scared!
I dont feel like Ive grown at all. Im worried hes not getting any bigger, but the dr didnt seem concerned at all

I'm still getting the "your belly is so small"
It makes me nervous that I'm not big enough for 28 weeks. I know almost everyone pea through the worry of being too big or too small. Anyone else worries still about their bellies not being the "right" size ?? Am I crazy?!?

I get nervous Im too big sometimes and then like i mentioned above, I dont feel like my belly has changed much in the last month so I get worried Im not growing enough, lol. I cant win. You are super active and very fit before pregnancy, ive read in many places that that contributes to how your tummy grows. No worries :hugs:

Does anyone else who is working just have days where theyre tired. I have no real reason to not go to work other than Im exhausted :( I just want to sit on my butt for a few days
 
Thanks everyone. Sorry about for the horrible spelling, I always type on my phone.

I appreciate everyone's response. I'm always concerned. Baby measured 26.5 CM at 27 weeks and 3 days and I don't feel like my belly has grown at all. I can tell that my belly button is popping more so I guess he's growing. I guess I'll be happy if he doesn't end up being a 10 pound baby!

Love you girls!
 
Bump pic I just took. It's our 2yr Wedding Anniversary today, so hubby is about to push me outside around the hosp. I will catch up on these posts later.
 

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Okay, I lied. I couldn't help it. 28 weeks 2 days
 
Oh the bump size worry! My worry is that mine is too big...and especially since it is measuring further as well! I feel it and look it! My doctor measures my belly for growth at every appointment now and tells me what week I am measuring at. Do you doctors do the same?

Love the new bump pics girls!!!!!!!
 

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