Now I'm totally defeated

[HearMyPrayers]

My younger brother announced him and his girfriend are expecting. He is 27 she is 23. She already has a 5 year old from a previous relationship. I'm excited for them dont get me wrong but its my little brother I thought for sure I had some time to spare (our sister older than us already has a baby) and that I wouldn't end up being the only one of my mom's kids without a baby. And I was annoyed by the girlfriend, she complained that she has to "give up" drinking and smoking now till the baby is born and the summer is going to be so boring not being able to drink and blah blah I wanted to smack her but I just smiled and nod!

Totally defeated totally discouraged totally hate everything about my infertility crap right now.

 

[heres_hoping]

Sending you some understanding xx

 

[xxshellsxx]

I know the feeling all too well! When i began ttc 11 years ago i wanted to be the first to give my grandmother a great-grandchild... my little sister became the first at aged 19! So i figured with 10 great-grandchildren being ALL boys i could be the first one to give her a great-granddaughter.... my youngest cousin put paid to that 2 years ago with the birth of her daughter

So now i'm just hoping that i can give her, her next one xxx

 

[Molae06]

I dread the day my younger brother announces that day. I have thought about it so many times and each time I start bitching about it (then dh has to remind me that no one is pregnant "yet") All of his girlfriends, in my perspective, are little crack whores anyway. They all do drugs, have had all their kids taken away at birth etc. I hope to something of a higher power that I become pregnant before any of his girlfriends. If not, I don't think I could ever talk to him again!

during this difficult time.

 

[nobump]

Can sympathis... my little brother only has to look at someone and they are pregnant, wife one has a son by him and another 2 to other people... wife 2 had a boy and girl by him and another 2 by others... his current girlfriend has not had any, but is abitious and started her own company so don't think kids are in the plans. Love my neices and nephews to bits! and try to spend as much time with them as possible, we live in a different city and wife number 2 is a complete bitch!!! currently banning everyone from seeing the kids!

It's not easy... keeping on trying and getting nowhere... and I can't say it gets easier, we been trying for over 4 years, both getting on a bit... time is running out!


Sorry taking over your thread didn't mean to!

 

[blackclayrose]

My younger brother 27 and his GF 20 announced at start of February that she is 5-6 weeks pregnant, they have only been together 8 months and are not financially stable.

OH and I have been together 7 years. Our TTC journey is reaching 2 years in april. I always thought I would give my mum and day their first grandchild, now I dont think i will even tell them till i cant hide it anymore.

 

[HearMyPrayers]

Thanks ladies I think the hardest was when my step mom shouted when we were totally "I knew it! I knew you'd be the next ones pregnant!" They all know my DH and are are being assisted in our ttc so it almost felt like they have no hope thaþ what we are doing to conceive will even work! Its so deflated right now.

 

[Briss]

sorry if I am speaking out of turn, I do feel for you but If my brother would announce that one of his girlfriends is pregnant I would be over the moon that at least one of us managed to continue the line. he is not financially settled but I would totally support him at this point I am so devastated by our infertility that I really want to see our parents continuing even if it's through my brother. sorry if I upset anyone, am on to the next cycle and the first few days are the hardest for me... just feeling so down and not seeing much hope ahead

 

[V2R]

Hearmyprayers.....I've spoken to you before on here.
Totally feel for you it's like a kick in the stomach hearing that any relative or friend is pregnant. I get very jealous & withdrawn when I hear someone else is pregnant, life is very unfair, something that we all thought would happen easily it's the most difficult thing in life!

 

[JViti]

Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to go through that! Ive been TTC since September 2011 and since then, 3 of my cousins have had babies, and while I am happy for them, sometimes, I cant help but almost envy them. It sounds awful I know. Its sooooo hard to be happy for someone who has what you so desperately want, but cant have. Infertility is a frustrating battle, but it is one that we WILL win!! Good Luck to You and if u need a TTC Buddy, let me know. We dont have to go through this alone!!