Number 3. Yay or nay?

[Mummy2B1989]

I have a 3.5yo and a 9 month old. I am sooo broody.
I had been a bit broody but I've recently gone back to work after maternity leave and I work in a GP surgery and all the midwives and pregnant ladies and new babies have made it worse lol.

I've always wanted 3 kids. After ds1 I had the implant in and it was awful I felt so yucky I never ever felt broody again till it was out.

Basically id like to hear from people with a shorter age gap between kids and how u coped really lol. My eldest is more work than my 9mo at the moment haha

X

 

[AllyTiel]

Following this. I have a 3 year old and 9 month old. I'm not broody at all. I've adjusted well to having two kids. Going from 0-1 was a nightmare to me. I feel like a want a break before thinking of another. My 3 year old is still only half potty trained :/ want a nice break from diapers, some vacations with older kids, stuff like that. Plus my family lives 8 hours away and I haven't been able to go drive myself over there since baby was born cause it's just too much! We might decide that these two are all we end up having, but I sincerely doubt it. The baby years are tough, but I at least want 3 cause I know how fun it is when the kids are older and vacations and holidays are more fun! I have 4 brothers and we had so much fun on Christmas and bdays. I'm the oldest at 25 and we still have so much fun together.

 

[catty]

I had an 11 month age gap and I really like it. I have nothing to compare it too as its all I know but id recommend it. it can be quite chaotic at times and sometimes feel like you dont get much time to yourself but now there 13 months & 2 there honestly dare I say 'easy' I can make dinner and they sit and play blocks or il clean bedroom whilst they help sort dirty laundry haha. if I really want some peace when my daughter naps my son will sit and watch peppa pig so I can get a coffee. no idea how it would work another child aswell but im sure it would work great

 

[CaptainMummy]

When my dd3 was born, my eldest was 3.5yrs and middle was 13 months.
Honestly, I find it really hard! Dd3 is starting to walk, dd2 is constantly misbehaving (for lack of a better word) and makes such a mess, throws tantrums at every opportunity. Dd1 is constantly whinging for my attention as she feels left out (i dont blame her, I am always attending to the younger ones) and I find that I never really enjoy myself in the day because I literally dont get a minute to sit and breathe. I am a single mum, so maybe it would be different with someone around every day but Im just being honest... I struggle!

They are amazing girls, and I love them all to pieces, but I am absolutely sure that it would have been easier had there been a bigger age gap between 2&3. I am looking forward to then growing up together, and I think in a year or so it will be alot easier and more enjoyable x

 

[shinona]

There is 2 years 8 months between each of mine and I love that gap. Biggest was off to school. Middle starting nursery and big enough to be potty trained and good at communicating and entertaining herself when needs be.
I'm sure you'd cope with a small age gap though. You just deal with what you have, don't you?
Three is a lovely number though and my three already have a lot of fun together. They all adore each other xx

 

[minties]

I'm definitely a nay to 3 kids. 2 kids is too many most days! My OH does nothing so I may as well be at this alone. He never watches, feeds, bathes or does anything with them. He mayne changed 2 nappies when Sophie was a newborn.

I often get depressed and wish I only had 1. I think it's leftover postnatal depression stuff, because I love them both intensely but my life feels full of regrets.

 

[StranjeGirl]

I am glad you asked this. I have a 3.5 y/o and 7 month old and want another. DH says no way, so not sure it will ever happen, but I'm 40 so if it is going ot happen it has to be very soon! I'm curious to hear what others have to say!

 

[Cattia]

My oldest two are 16 months apart and it was hard for a while there. I now have a four year age gap between my middle one and my youngest and I have to say it's much easier. It helps that she is an incredibly easy baby which is just a stroke of luck, but also my older two will both be in school full time from September and they are a little more independent now, and more able to follow instructions and understand reasoning. I always wanted three and although I was hugely grateful for my two oldest, our family never felt complete before wheras now it totallyd does. I am so happy that we went for our third.

 

[confused87com]

I have a 4 year old. 2.5 year old and 6 week old. I found the transiting from having one to two quite easy. However in finding three hard. I feel like someone is always unhappy! I feel that things will improve once my first starts school. I'd third baby was planned I'd have probably made sure he was school age before this came along. It's tough but I can't imagine not having a third now

 

[CaptainMummy]

I have a 4 year old. 2.5 year old and 6 week old. I found the transiting from having one to two quite easy. However in finding three hard. I feel like someone is always unhappy! I feel that things will improve once my first starts school. I'd third baby was planned I'd have probably made sure he was school age before this came along. It's tough but I can't imagine not having a third now

This is exactly how I feel. My eldest starts school on Monday and I cant wait!! (awful, I know )

 

[Dolly84]

I have an 18 month gap between mine and love it. My ds is almost 2 and dd is 4 months. I have been blessed with "easy" children who love their food/milk and love their sleep. Don't get me wrong ds does have his terrible twos tantrums but they're few and far between. They are amazing together and ds loves his little sister so much. He "helps" any given opportunity with nappy changes and feeds 😂, I love the gap that much were thinking of ttc again when dd is 10 months so we have the same age gap again. Good luck xxx

 

[Buttercup84]

I have a similar age gap to you with my 2 girls (3.5y and 10.5m now) and i'm expecting our third in March when DD2 will be 18 months old. We planned for a smaller age gap this time and i'm really happy that we fell pregnant so quickly but I do have moments of wondering what i'm letting myself in for as the 2 I already have are hard work. However, we weren't keen on stretching out the baby years for too long for various reasons and i'm hoping that them all being reasonably close in age will be beneficial in the future

 

[Amber3]

My daughters are 2,4 years and 11 months. Only 17 months age gap. Man I find it so hard right now!!! They just have completely different needs and both seem "high needs" each in their way. I would not want such a short age gap again. I want to get to the point where I completely enjoy these two and feel like a smooth sailor and then when that time comes I am sure we would like at least one more

 

[Kirsty3051]

Stalking.

We'll have a 10 month age gap when this LO arrives and I'm dreading it. Our first was so easy going; loved eating, sleeping, rarely cried - we were extremely lucky. Even at 8 months he's still an easy baby. I'm convinced this one will be some kind of devil child because of how lucky we were the first time around

DH wants 2 more children so I'm interested to know how others found it. Personally, I could of quite happily stopped at 1 but thought dtd would of been fine unprotected at 6 weeks pp.