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My friend had a beautiful baby girl in oct. In jan of this year i saw that i had a missed call from her so i texted her and she told me that her baby girl passed away from SIDS. I was so sad because i was told by drs that i was mc so you can imagine 2 bad news in one week. :cry: . Well she is pregnant and before her scan she told me that she thought she was having another girl. @ the scan they told her that it was probably a boy. Now everytime i ask how her baby boy is doin she tells me WE DONT KNOW FOR SURE ITS A BOY. IM STILL IN DENIAL. So i just say OK WELL HOPE YOU HAVE A GIRL. And then she says IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT I HAVE. So my question is Is she dissapointed for it being a baby boy? To me it sounds like it. With her first pregnancy she always talked about the baby and now ever since the scan saying it might be a boy she hardly talks about the baby. Why? :(
 
Hmm, it sounds like your friend was probably hoping for a girl to kind of "replace" her first, if you know what I mean? It must be so difficult to lose your child, I can't even imagine how she must be feeling, so she's probably still feeling quite confused and upset. I suppose that, now that she's having a boy, it's making it clearer for her that it's a completely different baby, and a completely different situation, and she's realising that she's not going to be able to replace her baby girl. Look after her hun, it sounds like she'll need your support a lot xxx
 
It doesnt sound to me like shes going to be bothered about it being a boy -
It sounds like shes suffering due to the loss of her baby girl and is probably just waiting to make sure its a boy first. But she is probably struggling to deal with her loss and the excitement of another baby at the same time. She wont want to talk about another baby whilst being upset about the loss , its a emotional situation.

I think as long as shes eating and going to all her appointments with her GP i wouldnt be too worried about her. Let her grieve and then approach the subject of her pregnancy , she needs time
 
She has told me that she wishes that her baby girl could somehow be inside of the baby she is carrying. She always talked about the pregnancy up until they said it might be a boy. I guess she just shocked.
 

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