O /T Sorry totally fed up

[louise85]

I am so fed up of feeling totally alone in this pregnancy. When I first found out me and OH didn't speak properly until I was about 16 weeks, and since then I've seen him a handful of times. (he lives a fair distance away)

I don't know where I stand with him, if we are together or not, although he says he's moving in with me. He hardly ever makes the effort to text or call and just see how I am, and mostly ignores me when I do him.

Then the next minute he's all excited saying what he's gonna buy etc and that he hates missing out on the pregnancy and should be there to feel the baby kicking

But shouldn't he be making more effort? Or a I just over reacting? I know my hormones are prob all over the place but I just feel so alone and unsupported

Sorry for the moan

xx

 

[Bee26]

Oh hun, its horrid that you feel like this - he really should be supporting you at this time, but unfortunately some men just dont realise how emotional being preggers is for us girls. Someone on here once said to me (when my OH was being a bit selfish) that:

"Women become mothers the day they find out they are pregnant, men become fathers the day they hold their baby in their arms"

Try talking to him about how your feeling hun and let him know how much you need him.
Hugs xx

 

[louise85]

Oh hun, its horrid that you feel like this - he really should be supporting you at this time, but unfortunately some men just dont realise how emotional being preggers is for us girls. Someone on here once said to me (when my OH was being a bit selfish) that:

"Women become mothers the day they find out they are pregnant, men become fathers the day they hold their baby in their arms"

Try talking to him about how your feeling hun and let him know how much you need him.
Hugs xx

Thank you hun, I've tried telling him, I just get told that I'm over reacting and stressing him out! If I tell him I need him, I just get what do you expect me to do?!

Completely agree with that quote tho, maybe things will change when baby's here, just seems so far away at the moment

xx

 

[bump_wanted]

"Women become mothers the day they find out they are pregnant, men become fathers the day they hold their baby in their arms"

thats so true...i hope your OH gets his ass in check...try just talking it all thru and being totally honest with your feelings xx

 

[Bee26]

I bet it doesnt help that you live so far away from each other.
Him telling you your overeacting is really selfish and will only make you more upset. I know its hard but maybe a bit of tough love will do the trick, perhaps tell him you dont want to see or hear from him until he bucks his ideas up and puts some effort into the relationship. Tell him you cant care for TWO children and the baby in your tummy takes priority. He may then realise just wat an arse he is being xx

 

[louise85]

Yep I think maybe your right! I feel like everythings being put on hold, I wanted to do all the shopping for baby's things together, but I never know when thats gonna be!

I'm just gonna carry on, I know I've got a while left but I want everything ready, he just doesn't seem to understand.

I just wish I felt more supported not just when he feels like it

xxx