OH doesn't want to try anymore :o(

[who's_mummy]

I had a chemical pregnancy last week after 4mths TTC. Now things have settled a bit more he has announced that he's been thinking and he really doesn't want another baby (we have three beautiful boys already).

I can't argue with his reasons, he's def got his sensible man head on but unfortunately I'm functioning with my emotional female head on. This has been such a big thing for me for the past few months, I have an irregular cycle so have been charting everyday to know where I'm up to.

I just really don't know how to go about getting my head around this .

Sorry, I know there's no advice because I know deep down that he's right, I just wanted to get it off my chest. I hope it's in the right section, it just feels like an extra loss to me after last week's.

Gemma x

 

[ttcbabyno.1]

Didn't want to just read and run.... you must be really emotional about all of that!! Have you told your hubby how you feel?? Do you think the chemical pregnancy upset him aswell and he just doesn't want to go through that type of thing again or has he done a u-turn on having a baby full stop. I wouldn't just let it go though.... talk it through with him it will give you both a deeper understanding of each others feelings.

BIG HUGS TO YOU! xxx

 

[MrsJD]

Sorry for your loss.

Maybe, the stress is putting him off! Your emotions will be all over the place. Why not ditch the charting and see what happens. If your relaxed about it, he will be too.

X

 

[leeanne]

 

[vickielm]

AH Gem,

Really sorry to hear that he has decided he does not want anymore chick. You never know time will tell hun. Keep stong.

Vik

 

[Jem]

Oh Gemma I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand your OH's reasons but unfortunately it doesn't help your want for another baby bless you. I really hope that maybe one day he will change his mind so you get your 4th but if not just remember the 3 beautiful boys that you have right now-and they are beautiful I have to say!!! Love and hugs xxx

 

[mammag]

i'd say that your husband is just hurt from the loss. i m/c two days ago, and my DH is upset about it as well. although he does want to keep trying. but he did express to me that the loss was hard on him, and he doesn't know how he would deal with another one. i think you should talk to your husband again in a couple weeks, after you both have had some time to heal. let him know how important another baby is to you. if he was ok with it once there is always a good chance that he will be ok with it again. good luck, and i am so sorry for your loss.

 

[bklove]

Its hard to know what to say, but maybe you should both take a break and see if you guys change your minds later down the road?

 

[aidensmommy88]

i hope everything works out...

 

[Tishimouse]

The MC I can't really comment on as I have not experienced it. I do think though that it must be an impossible time for you to think straight about making such a final and serious decision, so I think you should both wait to discuss this when you feel strong enough.

I was so relieved to read that you already have 3 boys because it made me feel that you are already lucky with a beautiful family, which in time will make whatever you decide a little easier (I hope). Wanting another one, I certainly understand and can't blame you at all with three gorgeous children already. It would make me want 5 or 6 if I'm honest.

However, having a certain size family I guess has to be a joint decision as you will both be responsible for all of them for a very long time to come. It's easy to say, but I think if you give it time, you will both come to the right decision at the right time, but NOW is not that time.

My thoughts are with you at this time and I truly hope you find a way to cope with such mixed emotions and sadness. We all have the inner strength, we just take different amounts of time to pull on our reserves.