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My OH broke up with my 4 hours ago and it’s mainly my fault. :cry: :cry: :cry: He says he just wants to be alone right now so he said that we’ll be separated. OH said he may even have decided by the end of the week if we shall be together :happydance: and I guess I’ll think about our relationship in the time being as well.
What I’m kinda weirded out about are the terms of the separation. We’ll still talk basically all night and call a few times a day, text all day, say “I love you,” and call each other pet names. The only thing we really wouldn’t have in our relationship is the title of “boyfriend/girlfriend” or “fiancé/fiancée” and he says that we may or may not doing anything sexual.
I don’t think that’s really how a normal separation works. What do you all think about it? I’m pretty torn up about this whole thing and my opinion is obviously slanted so I’d like your girls’ opinion. :blush: :flower:
 
aw hon! Im sorry. honestly he doesnt sound like he's worth it if he's beng so weird when you're so early in pregnancy and he's dragging it out, like he's using you for what he wants but doesnt want the commitment iykwim. sorry, prob not what you wanted to hear. look after yourself.
 
Sounds like he's maybe confused about what he wants. Or maybe everything's just a bit a bit overwhelming. Don't let him drag it out, you've got enough on your mind. Just focus on you and bubs :hugs: xx
 
Sorry hun, I'm not a teen but saw the thread title and it caught my eye.

That is plain man language for "I want to see other women but still sleep with you" and make you think that this is okay or normal. I'm sorry. Please do not allow someone to treat you like that.
 
Yes it seems to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it... tell him you will only be doing things people do in a relationship if you are actually in a relationship! Dont let him take advantage, you will be fine without him as scary as it sounds :hugs: xxx
 
If he wants to be 'seperated' tell him you should actually BE seperated. He can't have his cake and eat it i.e. sleep with you but not commit to you. It's just not fair. :(
 
Couldn't have said it better tha aliss. He wants to sleep with you with no commitment. Sounds like a complete loser. Isn't there a huge age gap between you also?
 
sounds like he has to grow up!! He should have really thought through what he wanted than what he said to you, really does sound like he wants some sort of relationship with you but without being tied down if you get what i mean. And when you talk to him you should be strong and explain you wont be a pushover either he stays with you and work out your problems etc and not just run away from them or yous split up and be civil for the sake of your baby, believe me havin no strings relationship with someone you love is hard and will only end up in tears and you being hurt, you have to be strong now, and good luck x
 
I also agree that you should make up your mind before he does. Partially because of your huge age gap, not to be rude but things like that hardly ever work out. A guy who still wants to say I love you and call you sweetie, is to make sure that you still think he has feelings for you. Not seeing each other, and no title though, that means hes interested in sleeping with someone else. Lots of guys are pigs, so thats based on that. Your OH may be different, but its not very likely. :blush:
 
I really agree with what the other ladies are saying, he is being selfish by saying he wants a no strings relationship, well you can't have a relationship without commitment or responsibility, it sounds like he's trying to bail but still have fun at the same time, don't let him walk over you, do whats best for you and your baby. :flower:
 
Oh yeah, I've heard those lines before hun. :hugs:

Sounds like he is only after one thing!
x
 
Yep I agree with everyone else. Tell him it's either a PROPER seperation with minimum contact or a proper relationship, he can't have the best from both x
 
It sounds like he is calling all the shots hun, wanting to have his cake and eat it too so to speak. I think you should take a stand, be strong (even if you don't feel it) not answer any of his calls or texts, and refuse to act like you're still in a relationship without the label - you will soon see how much he values your relationship. Seems like text book controlling behaviour to me and you shouldn't stand for it hunny. xxx
 
Thank you guys all so much! Your advice was really great and I took it! :flower:
I told him that I wanted to be in a relationship with him, but it's either a relationship or a split and that I didn't want anything to be unclear or cloudy. He basically said that he wanted to be with me and he just wanted some space but he did miss me, so we are back together :D
Thanks so much, again!
 
do you guys not live in different states tho? how much more space can you want?

i dont mean to offend i just think it is a wierd situation. If i lived hours from Oh and he still wanted more space id be questioning things
 
do you guys not live in different states tho? how much more space can you want?

i dont mean to offend i just think it is a wierd situation. If i lived hours from Oh and he still wanted more space id be questioning things

He meant emotional space and tbh I could see where he was coming from. A lot went on in amount of time and he needed to be alone but now were working on things.
 

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