Oh I'm confused

[Desi's_lost]

So I have this friend who I used to be friends with before I met FOB and we had a really rocky friendship...i just wanted attention and he knew it so you can imagine it wasnt a very good 'friendship' we never did anything together though. So fob knew about that and hated him for it so i wasnt allowed to talk to him or even be near him (we worked at the same place) and what not but anyway now we are friends again, and in a more healthy way.

Well he asked me to come over today so I did. He keeping poking me and trying to tickle me and things and i didn't really mind much and it was fun all though worried me a little because I didnt want to hurt the baby or anything but he never hit my stomach or anything so i'm sure it was fine and all. Anyway I'm so confused now. He knows very well that i think of him as a person who would be good for me as he's almost through college, a nice guy though has his quirks but just generally he's a really good tempered person and everything.

I really dont know what to make of it.

edit: I asked a mutual friend and she said thats just him...but if so, I'm kinda creeped out lol.

 

[LoolaBear]

to me that sounds like he was flirting, but not knowing him as a person i wouldnt know if it was just his general behaviour. xx

 

[Horse&Heart<3]

I agree with LoolaBear, it does sound like he is flirting. But he might be that kind of guy who does do that with everyone. Are you still with the father of your baby?

 

[Desi's_lost]

Deff not with FOB. He ran away a long time ago. knowing him, he'd call me all sorts of names if he knew i'd hung out with this boy.
Its really not very convenient because my friend is the type of person a single pregnant girl would dream to find. He's sweet, polite, hard working, all those nice things. And a few years older so closer to a college education which is also nice. But even though FOB turned out to be a snake there is a decent chance he'd come crawling back once the baby is born and reality dawns on him. And the him i knew would not take well to my friend being anywhere near the picture.

oh and i explained his behaivor a bit more to my friend, and she too was very confused as to what his deal was. She wants me to talk to him about it, but i just cant be sure thats the right thing to do.

 

[pinkribbon]

It does sound like flirting... but if that's his personality who knows?

 

[Lydiarose]

Sounds abit dodgy to me - why dont you just concentrate on your baby.

 

[Desi's_lost]

Oh of course I am concentrating on the baby. I haven't even talked to him since then. The friend that I was talking to told me I ought to figure it out (cause even she thinks he's a great guy) but I dunno its all so freakin complicated and such. I was just so 'wtf' afterward idk. Wish everything wasnt so complicated.

I dont want to pass up a good oppertunity just because i'm worried about FOB either though. It isn't fair for me to have to live my life around his expectations when he isn't even in the picture, you know?

 

[Lydiarose]

Id really just leave it if i wasnt with my Oh i definetlly wouldnt be starting a new relationship or even seeing anyone else because IMO it would just feel wrong and strange In no way am i saying dont start dating again in the future but pregnancys stressful enough without starting a new relationship IYKWIS?

 

[Desi's_lost]

I understand, its just that he has been there in the place that FOB should have. He'll ask how the baby is, wanted to know the gender as soon as i found out, is there for me to talk to when i need to. Of course it wouldnt be a serious relationship but it would be nice to have someone there to support me like that.