oh no

[clairebear]

right i posted the other day that my c section stitches were weeping and felt like they were burning. welli woke up this morning to find a hell of a lot of smelly puss all over my knickers. i rang the out of hours doc who suggested i go to the walk in centre and get seen.

it turns out that they are infected and i have been given antibiotics. but also wound is slightly open on both ends and i have to go back to docs everyday for cleaning and redressing.

this is all i need i feel like shit they really hurt and now they are weeping why me.

and to top it off Dh is back to work tomorrow and they are just upped his hours so he will be out of the house from 6-7 and im still in a lot of pain and cant move very well. I feel like a crap mum and a crap wife. i cant even take care of my own baby properly

 

[KarenLV]

Wow,thats terrible.Dont be so hard on yourself.Having a c-section is a major abdominal procedure....I had normal birth and I am also still struggling being a new mommy.Take care of yourself and ask others for help.Good luck!

 

[VanWest]

I had this happen to me after my c-section, you need to be very careful, and not lift anything heavier then your baby. If you do it could open more. This is what my doctor told me, I under went wound care for 6 weeks, every 2 days I had to go and have my wound cleaned out and packed. Good Luck, just please take it easy!!

 

[VanWest]

It's not your fault..I just wanted to say that also

 

[oOKayOo]

I also had this, didnt clear up with first set of antibiotics ti start with but then had to be giving stronger ones, so i hope it all clears up fast.

Its awful to have but your not a crap mum or wife , you have just had major surgery your limited in what you can do! But it will get better in time and you wil be back to normal

 

[coz]

ouch! youl get through it hun dont beat urself up about it its a major op it was bad enough when mine was sore cant imagine what its like when its infected, just think a few more weeks and youl feel alot better when your more healed up xxx

 

[clairebear]

im just so scared of moving now incase i rip it open even more at the mo its only got to little openings less then half a cm wide but im scared that if i move they will open more x

 

[PitBullMommy]

I'm sorry your incision got all infected, I hope they heal up quickly and don't cause you too much pain!

. I feel like a crap mum and a crap wife. i cant even take care of my own baby properly

I have TOTALLY felt like this since I delivered Charlotte cause of all the crap that's happend. I know you're not a baby Mama or wife, we've just gotta keep telling ourselves that!

 

[Samantha675]

Oh hunny I am so sorry to hear this! Is there anyone who can come and give you a hand when your husband is away at work?

you are not a crap wife or mom because of this!!!

 

[welshcakes79]

your not a crap mummy or wife hun, youve gone through a huge emotional change and physical one. From experience i know how frustrating it is to want to get on and do things for your LO and around the house as i had a c-section, mine also started to go weapy but best advice MW gave me was to stop the weepy going on my underwear get a santitary pad fold in half so sticky sides stick together the lift belly and place it over the scar,,also got told to make sure i rinse all soapy water off me in shower and try to lay in bed with my scar free of clothes to get air at it..XXX

 

[Linzi]

You arent a crap mum OR wife at all honey. Im struggling to get used to being a mummy to, and I haven't had the complication of a c section wound either so I cant imagine ow Id be able to manage with that, it must be very hard.

Do you have people around who can come and help you? I would offer myself if I lived closer!

I hope you feel better soon

xxx

 

[clairebear]

i havent been on much recently as i have been over my mum and dads. (my mum has just had a hysterectomy) so we are both sitting around and letting my dad help both of us and hes cooking dinner for my DH in the evening to but i still feel like i should be the one doing things its hard relying on others xx

thank u so much for all ur kind words u girls are the best xx

 

[sam's mum]

Glad you're being well looked after - you deserve it!! And I'm sure you're a wonderful mum - I found it hard at first just with my stitches so I can't imagine what it must be like recovering from a c-section while trying to look after your baby.

Hope you're feeling better soon x

 

[dizzy65]

aww i am sorry to hear that, hope you feel better, and get better soon

 

[clairebear]

still infected and weeping and having dressing replaced daily being relying on my dad todo somuch for me cant wait to feel more independant. stillfeeling low to but i know i have to give it timexx

 

[Vickie]

I just saw this post, sorry you are still feeling poorly. You aren't a bad mother though, don't ever think that. Hope you start to heal soon

 

[Nikkinoonoo]

Claire I didn't know I just saw the thread hope u feel better soon xXx

 

[lady3]

Glad that you are being well looked after. We all have such strange emotions going on at the moment, I can understand why you would feel so crap. You are not a crap mum or wife though, and you have been through a lot. Let yourself be taken care of without feeling guilty (if you can). In the long run it will mean that you can get back to your healthy self and look after your little Jack. Feel better hun.

 

[Samantha675]

I am so glad to hear you are being looked after. It is really hard, but it will only be a short time and you will be back on your feet. I promise in a few weeks you will feel much better!

 

[x-amy-x]

Hey hun,

How are you doing? Feeling any better?



xx