Ok facing the facts, what will happen...

[jodse80]

Facing the fact that after 5 years of TTC with all kinds of temping, stick weeing, diets it isn't happening. Terrified about going to the doctors, just scared they will find something drastically wrong. Please can anyone tell me about their experience of going to the docs that first time to say "hey we can't get pregnant, help"

 

[Molae06]

I went to the doctor about 1 yr after really ttc. By that point I already knew it wasn't happening just because of years of ntnp. I was actually estactic that the doctor found something wrong with me. I had been terrified of him NOT finding something. I was dreading the "everything looks good, go try again for another year".

I had actually waited so long that I needed surgery (not that that's what will happen to you! Just in my case) It's been a few years since the surgery and I am still "broken". We are moving into our new house late this summer and I told dh if I still haven't got my BFP we're doing IVF.

I would say to just make an apt with the doctor and go for it. They aren't going to tell you "I don't think you're ready to have kids" or some bs like that. Not sure how old you are, but when I first went to the dr to ask why isn't it happening, I was 21. I remember being terrified because I was on the young side, but suprisingly got told that I am smart for not waiting, which put me at a lot of ease.

 

[Briss]

I'd recommend to start with sperm test

 

[star25]

Hi, I know exactly how you feel, I tried for so many years before I got help as I was so scared of the outcome, I would really reccommend asking for help as I feel so much better now, I feared the worst at every test and appointment and and each time I was worried for nothing and felt better after each time. I'm not saying your wrong to worry as we all know how worrying LTTC is and scary a lot of the time, but thats why were all here to support you

I wish I had gone to the doctors earlier as feel Ive wasted a lot of time as my results after testing were that I dont ovulate enough and now on second cycle of clomid, but at the same time Im more settled and in a better position to have a baby, I'll copy and paste what I wrote in another post about my first appointment and how it went from there, but trust me, you will feel like a weight has been lifted once you start the process of seeking help xx


First GP visit - my GP thought possible PCOS due to long, irregular cycles so had Transvaginal scan (which ruled out PCOS) and DH had SA. We done these whilst waiting for FS appointment.

Had first FS appointment spring/summer 2012 and he said do another TV scan as had been a while since the last one and 'day 21' bloods but do it a week before I thought i would get AF (not actually day 21 due to long cycles this wouldnt show anything for me) so judged it by when my boobs started hurting as always get this 7 days before, DH had to do another SA.

Went back to FS who said day 21 bloods showed ovulation but borderline. Had to do it again but do it on days 21,28 and 35 and keep going til got AF, got AF day 42. Then had to do blood test on day 3.

DH was told to do 2 more SA's 2 months apart.

He said my 2nd scan showed a cyst which could be a sign of endometriosis and as I have long, heavy and very painful periods I also suspected this. For this reason he booked me in for a laparoscopy, hysteroscopy and hsg in one under general anaesthetic rather than doing hsg and hysteroscopy as seperate appointments.

I had this done on 4th Jan this year ( After a 4 month wait as I think the hospital messed up as I was waiting ages for appointment and already phoned to check once and they said carry on waiting but then when after another 2 months I called again they gave me an appointment for the following week so why didnt they send me this appointment in the post earlier grrr!) Anyway, everything was fine after the lap and dye to my suprise, no pcos, endo, cysts or anything.

Had follow up appointment on 25th Jan and last lot of 21 day bloods showed ovulation and day 3 bloods were normal. Last 2 SA's were ok, altogether with the 4 SA's his count ranged from 13-84 million, morphology a bit low on one but high on the others so overall fine

FS concluded I just have long cycles and rarely ovulate which is a relief but at the same time frustrating!

Im now on second cycle of clomid and about 7dpo, sending you lots of luck xx

 

[darcie]

So I went to the doctors as I kept having chemical pregnancies, the first thing they did were blood test to check I was ovulating, which it showed I was. I was then referred to a fertility doctor who started me on clomid and ordered lots of test (bloods, scans, sperm) I was booked to see him 5 months later. I fell pregnant on my fourth and final round of clomid. I now have a 5 month old boy after 2 1/2 years and 3 chemical pregnancies. Good luck x

 

[popchick75]

It's soooo much better to know! We've been 'unknown infertility' for 10 years. I pray for them to find something wrong so they can fix it. I know that sounds strange, but with the 'unknown', you always have a huge amount of hope that 'this cycle will be it,' but it never is. At least if they could find something, we either could correct it and get pregnant or come to terms that it's not going to happen.

Besides, what if it turns out it was something super simple to fix? I wouldn't want to waste years and years hoping if it turns out it is a situation that could be easily corrected.

 

[jodse80]

Ok I have officially booked the appointment to see my doctor on April 22nd. I am terrified, no idea how to tell him about the fact I am struggling to have children without turning into a blubbering mess!! I am a little bit chuffed with myself for plucking up the courage to do it though as I don't find it an easy thing at all.

So stressing about what will happen now, feel like i am heading to the top of a rollercoaster.... but
"If you don't change anything then how will anything change"
This is going to be my new mantra!

 

[star25]

Well done, you will honestly feel like a weight has been lifted after your first appointment,you already seem more positive after making the appointment, we all understand how hard it is, good luck! X

 

[amy8686]

Just wanted to say don't worry about becoming a blubbering mess! I'm sure your doctor understands the difficult emotions involved in these situations and will be sympathetic. (And if he's not, I'd find a new doctor.)

I was feeling pretty emotionally strong at the appointment when I first brought this up with my doctor, but I still ended up crying as the words started coming out. The nurse and doctor were completely reassuring and I left feeling much better that I was finally getting help.

Congrats on taking this step, and good luck!

 

[LoveCakes]

Don't worry baout being a mess. Just bring some mascara so you can sort yourself out in the loos after!

Knowing is always better. It could be something like you need clomid or your thyroid is out which is easily fixable. At this point if there is something wrong at least you will know what and how to fix it. That has to be better than your confusion now.

My first appt with GP she took bloods and told my hubby to get referred to get a SA (he has a different GP).
First RE she took bloods again and did a scan which showed polycyctic ovaries so I found out that day what was wrong and how they were going to fix it. Plus for me it showed my PO had caused other health problems which I really needed to know about so apart from ttc it was really worth me going.

Good luck x