ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[sarahincanada]

I am going to get my HSG and progesterone levels checked in a few.

oooh goood luck!!! let us know how it goes

 

[sarahincanada]

I'm here.... just had a few days with little internet activity... mostly because I've been ill. Had a gastro bug that my darling daughter passed on!

Poor Lottie's been so ill... I've done nothing but wash bedding and her clothes. Monday night, she had 4 sessions of getting ill in the middle of the night, all required pyjama and bedding change. for the last few days she's had a runny tummy and each poonami requires a change of clothes as the nappy can not handle that level of explosion. Wednesday she was in 6 different outfits!

Anyway.... I'm resigning on Monday. I'm giving them a months notice and I'm pulling Lottie out of nursery at the end of Easter. I can't have her this ill... it's unfair on her.. it's unfair on me, because I can't go to work, so I feel like a bad employee and a bad wife as I don't get paid if I don't go to work and it's unfair on Mike because on days like today when I HAD to go to work, he had to look after Lottie and have conference calls at the same time!

Anyway... enough about me...

Sarah hope all is okay! Good luck for this weekend!
NDH... so sorry to hear about the spotting! for this cycle!!
Baby.. glad the haematoma is gone!!
Flying..happy 11 weeks hun!
Huggles... good luck for those blood tests today!
Ny... sorry to read about the blob I hope all is okay!!

oh no you poor thing and lottie too. is it common for this to happen when they are in nurserys then? I had no idea. and wow thats a lot of work for you, and then you get sick I hope you all get much better very soon

huggles didnt realizes blood tests were today good luck!

 

[MummyCat]

Some kids struggle with the bugs at nursery... I think Lottie picked up croup once and is now more likely to get it again (which she did as we returned from SA) and then once recovered.. she got the bug after one day back!

Saying that... not all kids have a problem! It's just Lottie was perfectly healthy until we started nursery!

 

[Huggles]

I had the HCG blood tests today, but when i went to get the results they weren't in yet then i had to go for my facial so by the time that was finished the lab was closed, so only getting the results in the morning (hopefully first thing! As soon as i can get hubby to get out of bed and ready to go).

First appointment (I only see my obgyn, no midwives, and get a scan at every app) is 14 April - 8 weeks exactly.

 

[Huggles]

Saying that... not all kids have a problem! It's just Lottie was perfectly healthy until we started nursery!

My friend's daughter is the same. When she's home she's fine. As soon as she goes back to nursery (creche) she gets sick. Last year her grandma came to live with them for 3 months so that she could get properly better and get her immune system nice and strong again. She was fine that whole time. One day back in creche and she was sick again.

They now moved creches and she seems to be better at the new one.

 

[MummyCat]

Problem is, that's the best nursery in our area!

Nevermind... I'll wait till she's three and gets it for free and then send he in again! by then it'll be bigger rooms etc so hopefully less likely to be so ill!

Hope you get the results tomorrow!

 

[flyingduster]

NDH, goood luck for this next cycle! I know you WILL get pregnant soon... it has to be soon...


Baby, the new doc sounds great! I know it'll be hard to wean off the scans, but I think it'll be a good thing to do!!!

I'm of two minds with the NT scan too. The midwife tells us that if we decide on the day we can still go in for the scan and just tell them we don't want the NT check done and it'll just be a normal dating scan... But I dunno, I think if there's a high risk, I would want to know. I don't want to do the blood test that risks miscarriage though, so we'll never know for sure until it's born, but I think I'd like to know if there is a high risk or not... *sigh* we'll see what we decide! lol!


Mummy! Ugh that sounds horrible! Poor Lottie, and poor you!! Sending healing thoughts around the world to you both....


sherylb & Huggles; good luck with the HCg levels! I got a blood test done but never got the results (midwife said she'll only need to talk to me about them if they're abnormal, so I'm happy they were fine!) and I only got the one test done! lol.


Sarah, I'll be at 13 weeks the day after my scan; 8th April. (Which will be the 7th for you guys) and it's at 13 weeks that I will officially be OUT of the first trimester!

We told everyone cos there was no way we were going to be able to keep it a secret from our parents, and once we told them there was only one other person that really had to hear it from us directly (my boss, who's like a mum to me) so we told her too. And once we'd told all them, there wasn't really any point in keeping it a secret any longer, so we told the world! lol! It's been great though, cos soooo many things have had to be changed and sorted around the fact I'm pregnant, so it's a whole lot easier having them sorted already than having to wait another 2 weeks! Like, I'm supposed to be sitting my masters exam in august this year, but no WAY do I want to go through that stress while 7 months pregnant! But the workshop that you have to attend before the exam, is in only 2 weeks time; and you have to pre-book & pre-pay for it so I had to explain why I wasn't going to do the workshop several weeks ago! lol. And I've been asked to steward a dog show in November. Ahh. no. lol! I'm not spending a whole weekend away when I have a tiny baby! lol! OMG! I'm gonna have a tiny baby in nov!!! lmao

Oh, and my dogs, one is a JRT cross, the other is a standard poodle. And yup, there's one HECK of a lot of people who get a pet rat for the kids, and a year later they don't want it any more and get rid of it. Poor thing is grown up so not as cute as a baby, and they only live for 2-3 years so after one year it's already getting to middle aged and no one wants them!! There is actually organisations for rescuing and rehoming rats, just like a shelter for dogs or something! So I've always got the odd rescue rat around.



I hope all your ladies are doing wonderfully! Sarah & NDH I KNOW you ladies will be pregnant in no time and we'll all have stories to share for a long time to come yet!!!

 

[babyhopes2323]

oh god i just typed so much and it all went away because i pressed a wrong button on the laptop !!! arrrrghhh

sarah, yeah i dont think ill be doing the NT scan , got a different issue now as i am happy and comfortable in dubai what with mum being around and everything and dh had this job interview a while back and we didnt hear from them for a while so we thought it was not going to work out and then i fell pregnant and we thought, all in good timing..

the thing is they have approached him now and its good pay and everything and DH really wants to go..but there is one tiny issue. ...

its in blooming australia !!!

dh loves australia and has been living there for 6 years and gained a passport out of it too.. he always wanted to go back and we were eventually always going to go to oz, but now what with me being pregnant, i dont know how i can cope with 16 hours of flight and staying in a hotel and then finding a house and setting up and everything, all whilst being pregnant into 2nd tri !!!

i thought id have mum around here and everything would go smoothly and we'd have baby and then move, but dh says this oppurtunity wont come again, its for general managers position and the company is paying for all our relocating costs.. everything.

and im in a fix as he spoke to me about this during dinner tonight with such a sad face because he is not enjoying his current job and wants to move, but im thinking, how am i going to go with my pregnancy and then ive got to find a doctor and everything and i was hoping mum would be there here to teach me lots that i would need to know about baby care !! it is my first after all..

anyway i told dh we would talk about it as he needs to get back to them this week.. god its going to be a toughie..

sorry youre going through those cramps and bleeding, hopefully it will pass on real soon..and youll have your bfp by the time you want it, before your family arrives !!xx

i was just praising you so much to dh today on our way out.. saying shes so genuinely nice and is one hell of a nice woman..who is really happy for other people.. he knows you too because ive shown him your pic before on the website.. xx

mummy, sorry about lottie, good decision about the nursery !! fx'd for her recovery !!

yay flying.. cant wait for you to have your scan and then youll be in second tri.. !!! xxx

all the best for your blood work results huggles. xx

im off for my injections tomorrow.. yuck

 

[sherylb]

I wont gey my results back until Monday. Have to go in before work and do bloods again. Cost me 2 x 116.40 today and another 116.40 Monday. They are putting the rest of the bloodwork off til May and hoping Medicaid kicks in.

 

[sarahincanada]

oh god i just typed so much and it all went away because i pressed a wrong button on the laptop !!! arrrrghhh

sarah, yeah i dont think ill be doing the NT scan , got a different issue now as i am happy and comfortable in dubai what with mum being around and everything and dh had this job interview a while back and we didnt hear from them for a while so we thought it was not going to work out and then i fell pregnant and we thought, all in good timing..

the thing is they have approached him now and its good pay and everything and DH really wants to go..but there is one tiny issue. ...

its in blooming australia !!!

dh loves australia and has been living there for 6 years and gained a passport out of it too.. he always wanted to go back and we were eventually always going to go to oz, but now what with me being pregnant, i dont know how i can cope with 16 hours of flight and staying in a hotel and then finding a house and setting up and everything, all whilst being pregnant into 2nd tri !!!

i thought id have mum around here and everything would go smoothly and we'd have baby and then move, but dh says this oppurtunity wont come again, its for general managers position and the company is paying for all our relocating costs.. everything.

and im in a fix as he spoke to me about this during dinner tonight with such a sad face because he is not enjoying his current job and wants to move, but im thinking, how am i going to go with my pregnancy and then ive got to find a doctor and everything and i was hoping mum would be there here to teach me lots that i would need to know about baby care !! it is my first after all..

anyway i told dh we would talk about it as he needs to get back to them this week.. god its going to be a toughie..

sorry youre going through those cramps and bleeding, hopefully it will pass on real soon..and youll have your bfp by the time you want it, before your family arrives !!xx

i was just praising you so much to dh today on our way out.. saying shes so genuinely nice and is one hell of a nice woman..who is really happy for other people.. he knows you too because ive shown him your pic before on the website.. xx

mummy, sorry about lottie, good decision about the nursery !! fx'd for her recovery !!

yay flying.. cant wait for you to have your scan and then youll be in second tri.. !!! xxx

all the best for your blood work results huggles. xx

im off for my injections tomorrow.. yuck

awww thanks, I think you are lovely too

and WOW what a development. let me ask you: if you werent pregnant would you be excited and wanting to move? I know it seems overwhelming....but think about how this might be a really good life you could build for your baby...hubby would be happy and its a good position from the sound of it. where in australia would it be?

my mum is in england so I know how hard it is thinking of being alone, but I plan on having her over for 3 months when I have a baby...can your mum do that or does she work? mine is retired. and even though my mum will be with me things have changed so much since we were babies I wouldnt really count on her for advice! my mother in law is younger but I think she is going to be annoying with the advice...almost too much help is annoying too. I think all new parents struggle through but it all works out in the end, and what a lovely bonding experience.

my best friends hubby is in the army so they move a lot. she was in germany when she gave birth away from everyone but is now in england. they are hoping to go to australia one day too. thing is, you will be fine just the 2 of you if you have to make it work.

if you decided to go for it when would you move, sounds like 2nd tri? im sure most of it could be worked out without you having to traipse around pregnant! my sister came to see me when she was 8 months pregnant, thats an 8 hour flight but she was fine. I think you are more worried because if the issues you are having now, but so many people fly in 2nd tri.

gl tomorrow

 

[NDH]

Sarah, thanks, I really did enjoy having a nonstressful cycle this month. I will definitely try to continue that. This is the first time in years where AF has come and I feel at peace. I know it will happen and as long as we continue doing what we can that's all we can do and worry will not help. Now that I am aware of when exactly it is that I ovulate (until coming to BnB it was really a guessing game for me and I think before that we totally kept missing the window. Anyway, gonna give it another few months of not stressing but making sure we BD at least twice in my fertile window before seeing a doctor to get checked out. I know most people would say to go now, but if we've been missing the window all this time then I want to give my body a chance to prove it before getting all stressed out about the possibility something might be wrong.

Preethi, that is amazing news and it's no wonder you don't know what to do. I'm so glad I wasn't pregnant when we moved here. It really is an incredible opportunity for your DH though... and if he already has citizenship too that's huge. One thing to consider though - you'll have to consider the health care factor. Pregnancy is covered by Medicare, but you have to have at least temporary residency, and I know from experience that spousal residency takes longer than they say (we were told 3 months from Canada which is one of the quickest countries and it took 6 months meanwhile we were separated that whole time as we applied before he came and therfore couldn't enter the country til it arrived). However, if you're already pregnant you can file an appeal to expedite it and I'm sure they will. Also maybe your DH's job will have enough benefits that you'll be covered anyway. But I would definitely advise looking into it as one of the considerations you make. Second tri is the best time to be flying though, so in that respect the timing does work out well. And I'm sure you could fly your mom to Australia to help with the final stages of pregnancy and the baby as well. Visitors can stay for up to three months without any special visas.

 

[flyingduster]

Wow baby!!! What a decision to make!!!! I can't really offer any advice at all, but I agree with NDH & Sarah! If it's something you'd do if you weren't pregnant, and something you want to do with your life, it'd perhaps be easier to move in 2nd tri than to try to move with a young baby...? Hopefully your mum will be able to come over the few weeks before you're due to be with you over that first time of trying to get used to the whole 'mum' thing! But do find out about health care stuff, NDH has given some good advice about that for you; you don't want to be missing out on the care you need!!!

Also, which will you regret more? Moving now and not being with your mum when you need her (if she couldn't fly over), or not moving and missing out on the job and new life? Go with your heart hun.


Very very exciting and scary though! But I wish you sooooooo much luck, and I'm sending prayers that you can make a decision and be happy in your heart with your choice.




AFM, we got the photos back from that photo shoot we had last month!
me & hubby:
https://i80.photobucket.com/albums/j162/flyingduster2/IMG_1498.jpg

me and hubby on the right, my brother & his fiancée at the back/left, and my dad & step mum in the front
https://i80.photobucket.com/albums/j162/flyingduster2/IMG_1497.jpg

so neat to know these pics are when I was 6.5 weeks pregnant! hahaha.

 

[babyhopes2323]

Thanks Sarah and NDH and flying for all your advice.. im sure my mum would be able to fly over for three months.. that wouldnt be an issue.. its just the finding the house and settling in a new place etc.. all while im hormonal and pregnant, just worried it will add stress to our lives.. but it was going to be a part of the plan so.. maybe it would work out.. lets see.. i know its covered by medicare, dh says that his company should cover some insurance costs.. apparently for oz, if you have a child with dh, then it gives you automatic permanent residency.. if not, then you have to wait for temp visa like ndh says.. but he says his work can sort it out for his?

his work place is in castlemaine, an hour and half outside of melbourne and we would probably be staying in the bendigo town region area.. its going to be a huge change, if i agree to do this, i just hope i have the strength to adjust to all this change .. ive lived in dubai city all my life and always in apartments, now to suddenly change to a town type, regional, outskirts.. house type .. i dont know..

mum dosent work so it should be ok, but its also like my dad, brother and sister would not get to meet my first born.. and all my relatives who live in dubai., its like i have one big family and it would have been nice to have their support..

but i guess at some stage i have to be mentally strong.. and make a move because otherwise i would always be dependent on someone for support emotionally..

off to the hospital now.. to get my injections and i had a bad dream last night about the baby.. dont know why im having nightmares every night.. its funny. !!

xxxxx love to all. xxxx

 

[babyhopes2323]

went for my injections today and had a wee scan.. baby's head to toe, is now measuring 9 weeks and two days !! HB of 180.

when i went on thursday to the docs, i was 8 weeks and 6 days and now im 9 weeks and 2 days, how is that possible? and this is all by measuring the baby from head to toe. CRL measurement.

guess ill be changing my tickers more often until 12 weeks !

 

[babyhopes2323]

I think whats actually happening is that the baby is catching up to my LMP ? and then finally i will be able to date my actual last period date on my ticker which is 17th of jan. it has been adjusted from the 26th of jan because i ovulated late and now its catching up so everytime i have a scan and they tell me im further on, then i can change my ticker and now ive reached upto the 20th of jan so probably soon by 12 weeks i will be able to date it as the 17th.

 

[Huggles]

Babyhopes, they measure Crown to Rump length, not head to toe. They only start measuring head to toe after about 20 weeks. Interesting how the dates keep changing though.

Sounds like quite a big decision you have to make re moving to Australia. I hope you make the decision that you are happiest with and that it all works out fine.

Sheryl - why are you having so many blood tests?

flyingduster - nice pics!

AFM - got my results back today - 1802
(same day last pg was 1363)

 

[sherylb]

I am just having the 2 tests. I am not sure what they usually do for the 8 week appointment but my doctor's assistant told me they usually do a full workup at that appointment. Now that I have had my two tests I probably won't want to see the dr until 12 weeks when hopefully the appointment will be paid for by medicaid. I would say the difference is our different countries and it's just how they do things here.

 

[sarahincanada]

flying awww you guys look soooo cute!!! they are really nice photos.

preethi yay for everything growing!! you definitely have a hard decision, but try not to think of the 'what ifs' and think of the positives. I also left my whole family to live in canada as the standard of living is so much better over here and I loved the lifestyle. Im often sad thinking about how I only see my nieces once a year or dont talk to my sister that much. but I just make an effort (perhaps more effect than if I lived near to them) and we are still all really close. when my dad died 8 years ago I felt bad I hadnt seen him that much the previous years as I was in Canada. But ultimately you have to live your own life and do your best.
you have to focus first on your own family....you, hubby and beanie. everything else will fall into place.

huggles that is great news!!

hope everyone else has a lovely weekend. Im still taking it easy, still a little bit of bleeding. Im soooo hoping I dont get a smiley face tonight, Im not sure if Im ready to BD. going to go out with hubby for lunch and start spring cleaning

 

[Huggles]

Sheryl, ok, that makes sense. I think the full work-up they're talking about is probably what i had at 10 weeks last time which is where they check rubella immunity, bloody type, rhesus antibodies, and a various other things.

The HCG & progesterone (the two you're having now) is probably just done slightly differently cos of the different countries as you said.

Hope you get onto medicaid before your first appointment!
I have to pay for everything here and i must admit it does add up to an enormous amount, especially since i will need even more appiontments this time around. Oh well, as long as I get to take my baby home at the end of it I don't mind.

 

[babyhopes2323]

yes huggles, i know they measure in CRL, i actually thought maybe others wouldn't know so thought id mention it as head to toe and thats why i also added in CRL.


yep, its definetely a big change but nothing is decided yet, ill leave it upto hubby to get back to them.. theres going to be another meeting if he accepts to push it further so we will take it from there, based on how everything goes.. xx
sarah.. im sure the bleeding will go away soon, put your feet up and relax instead of cleaning etc, apparently thats supposed to stop bleeding ? they asked me to do that when i had the hematoma.. so maybe it should help?

i totally understand what you mean and i know i now have to think about the three of us, so lets see how it goes from here


nice pics flying.. its lovely to see you and put a face to the people we are talking to everyday.. xx
xxxxx