ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[sarahincanada]

Urgh... you're poor friend! as much as Mike and I have our moments (which you do in relationships) we are very much happy together so I can't imagine the pain and heartache of him cheating! I hope she finds someone who treats her like she deserves!

xxxx

yeah we all have our moments, and what you describe sounds like typical man/woman disagreements! When she told me about the cheating thing I felt so bad for her. For me, that would be devastating, not so much the sex but the lying. My hubby was brought up catholic and took our vows in front of a priest very seriously (more so than me, as I am not catholic) so I really cannot see it ever happening. However I am realistic and know how men can be, so I have told him if he ever has a feeling that he wants to be with someone else to please tell me. I think that open communication really helps.

I have had a lot of close guy friends and sometimes I do wonder if they are physically meant to be monogamous. Sounds awful, but so many men feel the need cheat it does make you wonder. But thats a whole other subject!

 

[babyhopes2323]

my darling sarah.. DH was with me when i read your post and i said to him, she is such a sweetheart and such a genuinely wonderful woman that even if she did think about it before typing it, i couldnt be mad at her !! i dont think i could ever get mad at you for what you say because of the type of person you are !!

you dont have to be sorry about anything !! i know you didnt mean it the way you said it.. but i can imagine how it must feel for your friend when she is 50..

actually im not imagining that thats what they may be thinking because when we went out to this big dinner do, his boss well not boss but this guy jon was his boss for a few months.. his wife mandy was at our table and didnt look or speak to me even once throughout the whole dinner do.. and then jon said that thats how women feel.. so coming from a man.. i would think in a way it could be insecurity.. and it has nothing to do with how i look or anything, it could be general.. i dont think im fantastic looking or anything.. infact ive grown fat and im very normal in comparison to so many other beautiful women out there..

but i can totally imagine how it must be for your friend and it must feel like a direct hit to her and i feel so bad for her.. hope he gets his deserved punishment in life for treating her that way !! xxxx

 

[sarahincanada]

my darling sarah.. DH was with me when i read your post and i said to him, she is such a sweetheart and such a genuinely wonderful woman that even if she did think about it before typing it, i couldnt be mad at her !! i dont think i could ever get mad at you for what you say because of the type of person you are !!

you dont have to be sorry about anything !! i know you didnt mean it the way you said it.. but i can imagine how it must feel for your friend when she is 50..

actually im not imagining that thats what they may be thinking because when we went out to this big dinner do, his boss well not boss but this guy jon was his boss for a few months.. his wife mandy was at our table and didnt look or speak to me even once throughout the whole dinner do.. and then jon said that thats how women feel.. so coming from a man.. i would think in a way it could be insecurity.. and it has nothing to do with how i look or anything, it could be general.. i dont think im fantastic looking or anything.. infact ive grown fat and im very normal in comparison to so many other beautiful women out there..

but i can totally imagine how it must be for your friend and it must feel like a direct hit to her and i feel so bad for her.. hope he gets his deserved punishment in life for treating her that way !! xxxx

dear ms kitten

haha thata good you could never be mad at me!!! but when I re-read it I could see how you would have thought it was meant the other way and I wanted to make sure you didnt think that.

Im sure karma will come back to bite him...the cheating thing is obviously not great but its more the way he is treating her. since he checked out of the marriage he has been quite mean to her. she has been walking on egg-shells for 6 months worrying about upsetting him. So good riddence I say!

I think it would be very tough to be cheated on with a much younger woman, even if you are a confident woman it would still hurt. Its hard getting older and seeing wrinkles and sagging skin!

forget those women, they are probably insecure and even if they are not they are shallow minded in general. I never judge anyone I meet, regardless of their skin colour, sexuality, weight, age etc, Just take the person as they are, and some people you click with and some you dont. I always feel that as long as someone is not hurting anyone just let people live the life they want

love ms cougar xxx

 

[nypage1981]

Preethi- women who act like that are just jealous! Totally. Even without you around, im sure they fear their hubbys leaving them for young, beautiful women.

Im even freaked out now because OH is leaving me TWICE this month for work travels and im scared to death. It's not that I dont trust him particularily, its just men in general. I know that no matter what type of guy or who you are it can happen so it scares me when he goes. Especially since he is in the fitness world so working with beautiful, fit, young women all the time and here I am fat and pregnant. Nice!

 

[sarahincanada]

Im even freaked out now because OH is leaving me TWICE this month for work travels and im scared to death. It's not that I dont trust him particularily, its just men in general. I know that no matter what type of guy or who you are it can happen so it scares me when he goes. Especially since he is in the fitness world so working with beautiful, fit, young women all the time and here I am fat and pregnant. Nice!

awww dont you worry about that, you think of yourself as fat and pregnant and he is thinking of you as a glowing, beautiful woman who is creating his child! you do hear of celebs cheating on their pregnant wives (mainly footballers in england!) but I think thats the lowest of the low and not many men would ever do that.

you mentioned you are scared of marriage, I always thought that you were married. I thought OH was 'O_____ Husband' but I guess its 'other half' then? and while Im here whats LO that I see people write.

do you think you will ever get married? I have quite a few friends who are happily together not the slight bit interested in marriage.

 

[Dew]

LO I think is Little One/baby

 

[sherylb]

Yep

 

[NDH]

Thanks all who have wished me well this cycle. I'm either 4dpo today (according to my ticker) or 6dpo according to when I usually ovulate. Didn't have my telltale cramps though so I have no real clue (good thing I'm starting to temp next cycle).

I've had niggling cramps almost AF like all cycle long - even before AF though they have eased somewhat the past few days. Yesterday I had pink tinged CM. And I've been hyper emotional crying over inconsequential things (having a mental block and being unable to do simple addition in my head for example made me burst into uncontrollable tears for 10 minutes, my DH telling me he wasn't going to make a phone call about an apartment I wanted to see (I don't like making phone calls and he wanted me to do it myself) set me off as an emotional trainwreck on Monday and I went out and sat in the car (after parking it halfway down the block) and sobbed cause I didn't want anyone to see me cry. Lol.

Sarah, so sorry about your friend's marriage ending.

Amy, what an awesome scan pic!

Huggles, so pleased about your scan as well.

Welcome Kylie!

 

[Dew]

Sarah, do you want to change thread title....2011/2012....?

 

[Dew]

NDH, that spotting could be IB....?? Good luck girl!!

 

[NDH]

Thanks Dew. As always, I'm remaining hopeful but being realistic. Even hopefully expecting a due to promising symptoms the day it actually happens I will be gobsmacked because I'm so used to

I can't remember if it was this thread that I was asked if I test or wait for AF.

I used to wait for AF - in two years I tested maybe 4 times when I was absolutely convinced and thought I may have been late (I didn't keep precise track of my cycles but always had a general idea when to expect AF). But with coming here and discovering ICs I'm afraid I became something of a poasa for a while... the last two months I've done better and managed to test only the day of AF before she arrived and that was it. We'll see how much resolve I have this cycle lol. Last month I wasn't going to test til I was two days late but I caved.

 

[flyingduster]

NDH, I have my fingers crossed for you hun! I sooooo wasn't 'expecting' my BFP either; I think it's a good way to be! I was HOPING for it of course, but not expecting it. I tested the morning that AF was due, and I ONLY tested cos my temp was still high that morning. In fact I'd spent the morning in bed visualising a stark white BFN and being ok with it, just to keep my hopes in check! lol! It's all worth it in the end, cos it IS disappointing to get BFNs, but being ok with that makes it easier. And you WILL get a BFP, and then the emotions will take you on the biggest roller-coaster of your life!!!!


Yup Sarah, OH is 'other half', I tend to use 'DH' 'darling husband' though! And LO is 'little one'. If ever you're stuck on an abbreviation, go to the home page, and under the 'forum help & testing' area is a link "BabyandBump Lingo & Abbreviations" which lists them all!!! I've had to go there a few times to work something out!!!
https://www.babyandbump.com/forum-help-testing-area/730-babyandbump-lingo-abbreviations.html



I hope everyone is doing ok? My emotions are still really really up and down. I'm not unhappy, but I can cry at the drop of a hat! Literally!!!!!!!! I dropped my hat, and cried over it!! Sheesh. The best one was last night when we were making muffins; I was trying to measure a tablespoon of baking powder, but the box was being awkward and every time I pulled the spoon out it either had a mountain of powder on it (too much), or had emptied itself on it's way up. I cried like a baby cos I couldn't measure out a tablespoon. wtf!? I actually sobbed and cried over it.... the thing is, I KNEW it was stupid to cry over, I KNEW it wasn't a problem, but knowing that only made the tears worse cos then I felt stupid for crying as well as for not being able to make it work! LOL!

But like I said, I'm not feeling sad overall, I'm still very much 'over the moon' about the whole thing. Oh! And I've been definitely thicker and firmer through the abdomen lately, even in the mornings when I've been to the toilet so it's NOT bloat OR a full bladder! YAY! It's not a bump at all, but it's thicker and firmer, and THAT makes me excited!

 

[MummyCat]

oooh... Natalie, that sounds promising hun xxx

I shall keep my fingers firmly crossed and send loads of sticky for that little egg!! xx

 

[MummyCat]

@ Flying...

Bless you honey... I'm sorry your emotions are all over the place but you made me laugh at the literally crying at the drop of a hat!

I hope that you take it easy and that when things start to frustrate you... just take a step back and then try again... hopefully it'll stop the tears... a little at least!

 

[babyhopes2323]

ms. cougar... rowrrrr dont you love that nickname !

its completely fine .. i know what youre talking about.. hope youre doing better and raring to go for the next cycle !!!

Nyp, i dont think you have to worry about your DH at all.. i mean the poor man is sooo involved in your pregnancy, he wants to get you a mini van and an ultrasound machine.. you cant get any luckier i would say !!

im in tears arguing with my DH because my car started playing up and over heating today and it is a shitty 2003 model that i really have to give away because of all the problems its causing.. he'd rather i dont have a car at all !! he snaps so easily at me these days its horrible.. plus every time i talk about how sick i feel hes like oh god are you going to be doing this for the next 6 months ! im at my wits end with him right now..hes awful to me and it maybe because he is tensed about his job or other things but he cant take it out on me like that.. where as im pregnant and emotional and over the top about everything.. its ridiculous.. i dont want to give up my car and my driving freedom, id go nuts in the house if i was stuck with a baby and no car to go out with it.. he dosent understand that.. hes got an amazing dodge durango 2009 excellent model and he dosent face any problems.. im the one with the broken down car that pplays up all the time.

so count yourself lucky !!

flying.. what youre feeling is soo normal.. i could cry over anything at the moment.. too

hope you feel better soonxxx

NDH.. wishing you all the luck for your next cycle.. that scan pic was mine.. flyings being great and helping me out with my picture issues !

hope everyone else is doing great.. 12+ 3 or 12 wk scan tomorrow 11:30 am.. yay !

 

[sarahincanada]

Thanks all who have wished me well this cycle. I'm either 4dpo today (according to my ticker) or 6dpo according to when I usually ovulate. Didn't have my telltale cramps though so I have no real clue (good thing I'm starting to temp next cycle).

I've had niggling cramps almost AF like all cycle long - even before AF though they have eased somewhat the past few days. Yesterday I had pink tinged CM.

hey do you think you could have ovulated yesterday due to the pink tinged CM? I had that last cycle a day after a positive OV test. Or it could be IB, but might be too early depending on when you ovulated. Even though I find temping a real chore Im only doing it to try and know these things a little better, so thats good you are going to try next cycle.....IF theres a next cycle!! Im glad you are in the 2WW, will be cheering you on for the next couple of weeks

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah, do you want to change thread title....2011/2012....?

what do you think? if we change it I guess we would get more people joining in, or if we leave it then its just the original thread which i dont mind either.

 

[sarahincanada]

I'm not unhappy, but I can cry at the drop of a hat! Literally!!!!!!!! I dropped my hat, and cried over it!!

LOL thats too funny!!!!

and thanks for the lingo info, I did check that out when I first joined the site as it was as if people were talking foreign on here, Id forgotten about it!

Im also in a really bad mood, terrible pms. But the good thing is I only had 3 days of heavy bleeding and today is lighter. Some months Ive been really heavy for longer, so I think Mr P was causing that.

I think Im mainly depressed that the warmer weather is coming and Ive not lost any weight. I hate summer clothes as Im always trying to cover my pasty pale skin and fat arms lol. (I dont mind the pale, if Im thinner). I have so many clothes I dont fit into, and refuse to by nice clothes at this weight, so I end up not having much to wear! Ive started back working out, I think my mood has been bad as I havent worked out for a while and feel like a stiff blob.

my family is coming in august which I think I mentioned, and Im going to try to plan a trip for us all to miami for 4 day cruise. Its pricey as I have to pay for everyone, but Im hoping to be able to afford it. The thought of the vacation should get my butt in gear with my workouts.

 

[sarahincanada]

ms. cougar... rowrrrr dont you love that nickname !

its completely fine .. i know what youre talking about.. hope youre doing better and raring to go for the next cycle !!!

Nyp, i dont think you have to worry about your DH at all.. i mean the poor man is sooo involved in your pregnancy, he wants to get you a mini van and an ultrasound machine.. you cant get any luckier i would say !!

im in tears arguing with my DH because my car started playing up and over heating today and it is a shitty 2003 model that i really have to give away because of all the problems its causing.. he'd rather i dont have a car at all !! he snaps so easily at me these days its horrible.. plus every time i talk about how sick i feel hes like oh god are you going to be doing this for the next 6 months ! im at my wits end with him right now..hes awful to me and it maybe because he is tensed about his job or other things but he cant take it out on me like that.. where as im pregnant and emotional and over the top about everything.. its ridiculous.. i dont want to give up my car and my driving freedom, id go nuts in the house if i was stuck with a baby and no car to go out with it.. he dosent understand that.. hes got an amazing dodge durango 2009 excellent model and he dosent face any problems.. im the one with the broken down car that pplays up all the time.

so count yourself lucky !!

flying.. what youre feeling is soo normal.. i could cry over anything at the moment.. too

hope you feel better soonxxx

NDH.. wishing you all the luck for your next cycle.. that scan pic was mine.. flyings being great and helping me out with my picture issues !

hope everyone else is doing great.. 12+ 3 or 12 wk scan tomorrow 11:30 am.. yay !

awww sorry to hear that preethi....does he outright say no to a new car? wait till he sees his baby...he will change his mind and want you in something safe Im sure. hopefully you can talk things over with him so he knows that you are not in control of your emotions, so he doesnt get too annoyed at you. men are strange creatures, my hubby is my soul mate but sometimes we just do not get eachother and I do not understand how he can not understand!! that whole men are from mars women are from venus thing is true!

 

[NDH]

Oh whoops Preethi - thanks for correcting me. I did know that too, but I guess I had a mental block. Been having a lot of them lately. Also for what you're going through with DH. Mine is not going to handle pregnancy hormones well when I am pregnant. He's so logic driven and hormones are anything but. I know he'll be involved though, but I can already envision lots of tears and arguments when I'm pregnant.

Sarah, it's possible, though ovulation yesterday would give me the longest cycle of my life at 29 days. My longest cycle was 28 days and I'm pretty sure that was a chemical/early mc more than two years ago. Haven't had a cycle over 26 days since or previously. We'll see though whether AF comes on the 21st or not though.

And if she does, then I'll have a thermometer and a replenished stock of OPKs to know for sure next time.