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First of all I very rarely ever get upset with DH. Let alone get me to the point I'm almost in tears. Anyway background story cause this involves the mom that gave birth to him. Anyway, that mom (we'll call her J) got preggy with him at 16, gave him up to her Uncle to keep him in the family. So DH's Great Uncle raised him along with the mother that raised him. (we'll call that mother L). Anyway J very rarely even saw DH while he was growing up (maybe once a year if that). As he grew up to high school years when I started to know him as friends, she hadn't visited him at all. So that would be starting year of 2003 roughly. Anyway he and I started dating 2005 and got engaged 2008 and we planned for our wedding in May 2011. You'd think during this time J would want to come up and meet me since she 'claims' she is so in love with her son though she never sees him. She never came up. She did however come up for the wedding (she lives two states over and she has relatives here that offer her to stay with them so hotel costs isn't a problem it's just the drive and even then the cost isn't horrible for her).
At the wedding she refused to wear the 'mother of the groom flower' (since DH wanted her to have a flower). That pissed me off but fine whatever. (She also has another son whom at that time I think was 8 (maybe 10). Well at the wedding she was just partying (didn't say much to me at all! Minus the congrats and it's nice to meet you and that was it). She got pissed drunk even!!! And the dress she wore was not appropriate for a mother her age. So she still hasn't grown up basically.
Well we are now in the year 2013 and I still haven't heard another word from her! DH once in a while talks to her on phone or texts her. That's it. Well, she wants to come up to see the baby when the baby gets here. Fine, I don't care. However, DH says she can stay with us! WTF NO NO NO! I don't want a woman I hardly know staying with me and telling me that I'm doing this wrong or that wrong. Or having her freakin coo over my baby the entire time she's here!!! My baby my responsibility as well as DH's responsibility. I don't want anyone here to stay even one night! (She'd be looking at a week). And if other relatives wont offer their place (which I'd be shocked) then I'll put up the damn money myself to put her in a hotel less than a mile away from us for her stay.
And DH wasn't planning on taking off during the time his real mom was here (J) I said BS. You better take off because I'm not hanging around a female I don't know, nor do I even want to get to know since she still parties hard core (from what I can tell on FB). Let alone I'm pretty sure she could care less about getting to know me after may failed attempts over the years from me to try to talk to her. I gave up a little before the wedding.
Am I just being completely unreasonable?
At the wedding she refused to wear the 'mother of the groom flower' (since DH wanted her to have a flower). That pissed me off but fine whatever. (She also has another son whom at that time I think was 8 (maybe 10). Well at the wedding she was just partying (didn't say much to me at all! Minus the congrats and it's nice to meet you and that was it). She got pissed drunk even!!! And the dress she wore was not appropriate for a mother her age. So she still hasn't grown up basically.
Well we are now in the year 2013 and I still haven't heard another word from her! DH once in a while talks to her on phone or texts her. That's it. Well, she wants to come up to see the baby when the baby gets here. Fine, I don't care. However, DH says she can stay with us! WTF NO NO NO! I don't want a woman I hardly know staying with me and telling me that I'm doing this wrong or that wrong. Or having her freakin coo over my baby the entire time she's here!!! My baby my responsibility as well as DH's responsibility. I don't want anyone here to stay even one night! (She'd be looking at a week). And if other relatives wont offer their place (which I'd be shocked) then I'll put up the damn money myself to put her in a hotel less than a mile away from us for her stay.
And DH wasn't planning on taking off during the time his real mom was here (J) I said BS. You better take off because I'm not hanging around a female I don't know, nor do I even want to get to know since she still parties hard core (from what I can tell on FB). Let alone I'm pretty sure she could care less about getting to know me after may failed attempts over the years from me to try to talk to her. I gave up a little before the wedding.
Am I just being completely unreasonable?