On the road again graduates

[Topanga053]

Starry, every pregnancy is different. A lack of stretching pains in this pregnancy doesn't have to mean that something is wrong, even if it did before. I didn't have any stretching pains to speak of until last week, nor did I have any in the pregnancy that I miscarried. So in my case, the absence of early stretching pains had NO correlation to whether the pregnancy was healthy or not! The fact that you're still experiencing any sypmtoms, especially intense MS, is a great sign. Try to hold on to that hun.

 

[RedWylder]

Oh Starry, I know how scary that can be. But to be honest your uterus has already done this dance before so maybe all the stretching won't hurt as much this time. Hang in there.

 

[Starry Night]

DH went on DR Google and found the same stories as you have said. It's good to hear over again though. I keep trying to tell myself that. It's just tough because with my son's pregnancy I felt them all the time. And even the pregnancy before him I felt them until I lost it at 12 weeks.

I just have to hope. I am starting to be pregnant in my dreams so I like to see that as a positive.

 

[Left wonderin]

Starry its almost impossible not to worry , I think I worried every second of every day !!! I was sure I was going to end up on anxiety medication !!! However it did really help me to take it one day at a time and tell myself " today I am pregnant and all is ok " ...... I tried stay in the moment and not think beyond that . ( to the point that me and oh didn't even talk about the baby ) I wouldn't let him plan beyond the day ahead !!! When I started to worry about what could happen I stopped myself and reminded myself " today I'm pregnant and all is ok " .... Big hugs to you xxxxxxxx

 

[Starry Night]

I really am trying to take it day by day but it's still tough at times.

 

[Left wonderin]

I really am trying to take it day by day but it's still tough at times.

Oh Starry I am sure you are. you doing amazingly for all you have experienced in this journey . Wish I could take some of the worry from you , hang in there xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[skyesmom]

sending a massive hugs to all you ladies!

Starry you are doing great!! hang in there! you are so brave! i second what all these ladies said: your uterus has already stretched before and may have just learned how to do it "better" without causing you pain.. you know, like when you do yoga and you stretch for the 1st time and you wanna die.. and then later it's a piece of cake!

Ray - sorry to hear about your GD but sounds like you're managing it as a trooper!!! congratulations on your strength and determination!!

i am sure all of your beans are doing just fine!

red your video made me so emotional!

and then topanga's dopler-kicking story finished me off!

been away for a while and updated my stalking on you all

 

[Topanga053]

Great to hear from you, Skyesmom!! How's everything going with you???

 

[skyesmom]

all good here, working too much now so ttc will be postponed to 2014 but...

...at least 18 months after my mc my body started functioning like before got my periods back almost like i knew them, which is a relief! it took AGES, but i don't complain since it all feels in tune!

 

[Starry Night]

skyesmom - I'm glad your body has returned to normal. I hope it is making an nice, comfy home for your future rainbow.

afm - had a bit more brown spotting last night. It was dull brown and mixed with cm and only when I wiped. But it definitely put the scare into me. I'm getting loads of pains too but it could be stretching and my sickness picked up again. Dh and I had had some sexy times yesterday morning so that could have aggravated things, I suppose. I really hate having to take it so easy. Dh can only do so much and I want things to be somewhat presentable when my parents arrive tomorrow.

 

[Left wonderin]

Starry I'm thinking its definatly the sex ! Irritated cervix ! Is your scan this Tuesday ?

 

[Starry Night]

Yeah, my scan is on Tuesday. We didn't actually DTD but I did, er, enjoy myself and I do know that orgasms can aggravate things. With my son I was on complete pelvic rest so no orgasms. Made it tough because I kept getting preggo sexy dreams where I would orgasm in my sleep. I'd wake up with horrible cramps and fresh bleeding.

I really have this sinking feeling that things are not going well. I can't shake it.

 

[RedWylder]

Starry I can't tell you how many times I had that exact same sinking feeling. I know you want to trust your instinct and just call it another failed pregnancy but I have been wrong every time this pregnancy. I can't say for sure if you are wrong as well but try to stay positive and believe in your baby.

afm: I'm almost to 13 weeeks but I can't figure out when exactly I am out of 1st tri. If I go by "what to expect" then I'll be out on tuesday. If I go by other calendars, I'll be out the second I hit 14 weeks, ie. a full week later. I guess it doesn't matter but I wish there was some agreement.

 

[Starry Night]

Red - you're probably right. It definitely feels easier to just give up and say things are failed. Hope takes work. I just wish I felt more pregnant (besides feeling sick). Though I have to say that my sickness is definitely going down. I still need Gravol to control it but it's more like sea sickness with some gagginess now. No more death wishes. Of course, I worry about the easing sickness even as I am relieved. But my sickness left really early with DS too.

Yeah, it's hard to tell when second tri starts. With my son my doctor started counting at 14 weeks and so did the hospital. 13 weeks is such a grey zone in pregnancy.

 

[Topanga053]

I second Red. It's amazing how much we want to trust our instincts as mothers and think we know what's going on with our babies and our bodies, but oh my goodness, are we wrong so often! How many times in the TWW were you convinced that that was the month, just to have AF show up? Or been convinced that you were out, just to get a BFP? It's crazy that there aren't alarm bells that go off when we're pregnant or when the pregnancy isn't going well, but there aren't. And so often those "feelings" are just the product of our own fear! Like Red, I've been convinced that things were going wrong, only to get to a scan and see a healthy baby! I pray the same is true for you, Starry!! You've got all of us rooting for you and that little bean!!!

 

[Topanga053]

PS- complete pelvic rest might kill me. I think I would be a basket case if I had to go months without an orgasm!!!!

 

[Starry Night]

Complete pelvic rest is really, really hard and dh and I broke that every once in awhile though we never technically DTD. Even so, it was still really tough on the marriage. DH was very understanding and in agreement because he was just as eager to keep our baby alive but not being able to take that time for each other made us start to feel like roommates and not partners, if that makes sense. We did get lifted off of pelvic rest but only a month later I was so big and swollen nothing was getting in there. lol

My parents are here now so looking forward to the visit especially as I"m not so sick day and night anymore. And last night my mom pointed out I didn't know what a normal pregnancy felt like because I haven't had one yet. Really, I have no real reason to think it's over other than my previous history. I don't have any negative signs outside of the rare, minimal brown spotting and even that is barely a reason to be concerned.

How is everyone else doing? Anyone starting to work on their nursery yet? We already have a nursery so our project for this pregnancy will be to get DS' "big boy" room ready for him.

 

[Left wonderin]

Well I gave in and bought 2 pair of maternity jeans today with some tee shirts and a sweater I'm so comfy right now and they show of my little growing bump quite nicely lol!!! Will get oh to take a photo later and post . Tried to do,it myself but disaster all I ended up with was fingers !!

I'm thinking navy, cream and duck egg blue for my nursery , will get cracking on it after I've reached the 24 weeks mark ! After Tuesday only one week to go I'm very excited thinking about it I need to start writing a list !!!!

 

[Topanga053]

Aww Left, what pretty colors!!! And maternity clothes are awesome. I switched to maternity jeans quite awhile ago just for comfort. Now I'm in mostly maternity office clothes too because my regular clothes don't or barely fit anymore. I didn't realize how many tight dresses, skirts, and pants I wore to work until I got pregnant!

DH and I are building, so we painted Lauren's room a light salmon pink. The nursery theme is going to be the Lion King and my mom has already bought her some Lion King stuff.

 

[rayraykay]

Starry- I am looking forward to your scan on Tuesday. I think it's going to go very well.

Red- I wasn't sure when to call myself officially in the 2nd trimester either. 13 weeks tho... that's awesome. You've come so far and I am so happy for you!!

Left I am so glad you got some maternity clothes! Once I started wearing them I was SO MUCH more comfortable. I will actually miss my maternity clothes when I am done wearing them. All my co workers say they miss their maternity jeans when they are back in their prepregnancy ones. I believe it. Maternity jeans are commmmfy.

I love the Lion King Topanga! We didn't go with a Lion King theme but there was a Simba blankie at babies r us so we registered for it as one of the extra blankies and we got it at our shower yesterday. It's so soft and nice.

AFM- I went to my dietician and my doctor last week. Both told me my numbers are very well controlled. Almost too controlled. They both told me to loosen up and treat myself more. Since I started monitoring it, they haven't been over 110. So yesterday at my shower I treated myself to some m and ms and a mini cupcake. Still, an hour later my number was 78. I even tried to raise it! I guess I can relax a little, this isn't an extreme case of GD whatsoever, and it really is just my placenta that has made this happen. My doctor said she would be shocked if I had type 2 after this. I can now be thankful for what this has taught me, a healthier way to eat that will help me lose the baby weight (although I am not at all worried about that now.) I won't end up gaining as much either which, also not something I was ever concerned about. (Just really trying to find positive things about this situation.)

We have started on her nursery- DH painted the walls a soft but sunny yellow with a grey/blue accent wall. We are going with a jungle animals theme. We have the furniture just need to decorate now. It's fun putting it together, makes things more real.