On the verge of being a single mom ;(

[NewMom2be5]

Hi everyone,

I am new here, and am still techinically with my FOB but, he does not want me to continue my pregnancy and isn't ready and so on, and I hands down refuse and know that termination is not what i want or the best outcome. Anyway, so although we are not currently officially split up , I know it is coming...Things have been so up and down with us after finding out that i am pregnant and in the end, I am truly willing to carry on with being a mom by myself. His mom/dad and sister are on my side and i haven't yet told my own parents, but have told my close friends and cousins and so on and everyone supports me....all cept the FOB. I am just feeling very low right now because he has flip flopped from 'i will be a good dad' 'we can do this' 'i'm happy' etc to no , i'm not ready , it'll be bringing a kid into a broken home' stuff and saying colorful things to me...I have the support, and I know I can do good by my future Son/Daughter. I am ten weeks and 2 days along and in the end hope i am not being uber selfish for standing my ground and refusing to terminate. I have weighed out the options and have been objective and open and not firmly without thought said No way....Sigh, i am trying to remain as less stressed as possible, for the baby's sake and hope no harm has come to him/her from this few weeks of stress. Anyway, i am ranting now, but just really need someone to talk to and feel quite alone. thank You.

 

[AbbynChloe]

Hello!!

I am so sorry you are in this awful situation at this timeXX I am here if you need support. I am so proud of you standing your ground. It seems a common theme here of some of men wanting to pressure women in to terminations, when they don't realise the impact it has on a womans life.

Anyways rant away and if you wanna talk I am here xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[NewMom2be5]

Thanks It means a lot....I just never ever thought i'd be having a baby and quite possibly doing it on my own as far as support from the FOB...I really hope things pan out in the end and I can be the best mom to my baby.

 

[LittleMadam]

Hi NewMom2be5,

Welcome! I have to say though that don't be without hope regarding your relationship. I'm no expert but FOB sounds very scared (and definitely unsure). I am not excusing him because I know he needs to be giving you his full support right now (and not be selfishly acting up) but he may pull through for you. Unfortunately, it may take the next 30 weeks for him to grow up. On the other hand, should he not, you will be more than fine going solo. As a single mummy myself, I actually quite like it for the most part.

Anyway, all the best and feel free to rant away.

xxx