Hi There - Firstly may I say how very sorry I am for your loss.
I know that this is a very late post - considering this thread started in January. Just wanted to share my experience with you.
I went for a scan at 9 weeks as I was bleeding, and it turns out that the foetus died at 5 weeks. I was given the option of either going home and dealing with it myself or having a D&C. I chose to go home.
For over a week I was in alot of pain, and one night I passed the foetus. It was a confusing time, as I had never felt contractions before and I didn't know what was happening to me.
Even after that I had to have a D&C anyway.
No one can tell you what to do, everyone is an individual and our bodies all work in different ways, but if I ever had to go through that again (heaven forbid) I would choose the D&C
I hope that everything is well with you
Best wishes - and sorry once again