kittykitty
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I know this is 'another' in-law topic and I am not looking for advise or suggestions but just need a method of ranting.
My husband and I live in my in-laws garden in a big static home. We moved here 4 years ago with the intention of just staying here (and paying rent) for a few months whilst I got settled in to a permanent job but my husband got made redundant only a couple of months later when his boss retired and closed his specialist company down so with the full support of both our families we started our own business doing what he did previously.
We naturally put all our money in to our business to make it as successful as possible, which meant us moving out to our own place impossible as we could not afford to.
We shut our business down at the very end of last year due to the recession catching up on us and my husband decided to rejoin the navy. We have been lumbered with a number of business debts which has meant now my husband is earning a decent salary we cant move until next August. We hate living in their garden as although it is our own space etc we are going to be bringing our first child in to the world living in a caravan!!
Anyway, that is the background to the situation.
My husband is entitled to travel warrents home with the navy (paid for 2 trips a month to drive home which equates to £110 ish a month so a lot of money with a newborn due). The Navy are being really strict and saying to get this they need evidence of his address and will only accept a council tax bill with his name on. Now evidentally he isn't on the bill as it is his parents property.
I spoke to the council who have confirmed my husband could be added to the bill, but never gave any specifics to our address etc. I have just approached my FIL who said "I am not paying any more money, I already pay for you two". I asked if he was receving any discount due to both in-laws being retired and he confirmed they aren't. I did try to explain that the property is banded and it doesn't matter how many people are living here but he switched off listening and started saying he should get himself on the electoral roll. I tried to explain the electoral roll and council tax are 2 different registered but there was no point. Complaining he 'pays for us' is also in my eyes incorrect as he would pay the same if we had moved out.
I have to be patient with him, and I know he is ill at the moment (has a big lump under his eye which the hospital are testing on Wednesday to see if it is cancerous, and it is making him very miserable, but beforehand you still had to time things correctly anyway when asking him questions) but I still don't feel he is being reasonable.
Grrrr if it was my parents they would suggest we go research it and if it was correct and it didnt affect anything they would be all for it as by the time we are looking at moving we are talking an additional £1.5k in the 12 months which is a lot of money to us.
I have spoken to my husband who is stressed out that he might not get the money in the first place and he has suggested speaking with him mum alone as his father is very stuck in his ways but I feel like I am constantly battling with them.
Oh why can't we move out now
My husband and I live in my in-laws garden in a big static home. We moved here 4 years ago with the intention of just staying here (and paying rent) for a few months whilst I got settled in to a permanent job but my husband got made redundant only a couple of months later when his boss retired and closed his specialist company down so with the full support of both our families we started our own business doing what he did previously.
We naturally put all our money in to our business to make it as successful as possible, which meant us moving out to our own place impossible as we could not afford to.
We shut our business down at the very end of last year due to the recession catching up on us and my husband decided to rejoin the navy. We have been lumbered with a number of business debts which has meant now my husband is earning a decent salary we cant move until next August. We hate living in their garden as although it is our own space etc we are going to be bringing our first child in to the world living in a caravan!!
Anyway, that is the background to the situation.
My husband is entitled to travel warrents home with the navy (paid for 2 trips a month to drive home which equates to £110 ish a month so a lot of money with a newborn due). The Navy are being really strict and saying to get this they need evidence of his address and will only accept a council tax bill with his name on. Now evidentally he isn't on the bill as it is his parents property.
I spoke to the council who have confirmed my husband could be added to the bill, but never gave any specifics to our address etc. I have just approached my FIL who said "I am not paying any more money, I already pay for you two". I asked if he was receving any discount due to both in-laws being retired and he confirmed they aren't. I did try to explain that the property is banded and it doesn't matter how many people are living here but he switched off listening and started saying he should get himself on the electoral roll. I tried to explain the electoral roll and council tax are 2 different registered but there was no point. Complaining he 'pays for us' is also in my eyes incorrect as he would pay the same if we had moved out.
I have to be patient with him, and I know he is ill at the moment (has a big lump under his eye which the hospital are testing on Wednesday to see if it is cancerous, and it is making him very miserable, but beforehand you still had to time things correctly anyway when asking him questions) but I still don't feel he is being reasonable.
Grrrr if it was my parents they would suggest we go research it and if it was correct and it didnt affect anything they would be all for it as by the time we are looking at moving we are talking an additional £1.5k in the 12 months which is a lot of money to us.
I have spoken to my husband who is stressed out that he might not get the money in the first place and he has suggested speaking with him mum alone as his father is very stuck in his ways but I feel like I am constantly battling with them.
Oh why can't we move out now
It is so horrible not being able to do what you want xx 
