over 3 and a half years down the line should I just give up?

[mamadonna]

Hi everyone,I hope everyone is well and getting ready for santy coming!!

Anyway just as the title says really,I'm getting a little fed up and was thinking it's maybe time to call it a day!!

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

Don't give up. There us always hope .

 

[mamadonna]

Thanks daisy,it just gets harder and harder!

 

[ERosePW]

Don't give up! I've seen others TTC for that long, and they eventually got prego! I'd hate for you to lose out on that. And since you've had m/c's (so sorry for that, btw, really truly am!), you do know that you CAN get pregnant. So don't give up.

So, what have you tried over the years? I'm assuming OPKs and temping for sure... any meds, treatements, etc?

 

[mamadonna]

I've tried all sorts,temping opks I've had 2 clearblue fertility monitors,I've had CD3 and 21 day bloods taken,hubby has had sa done,haven't been given any meds tho,I've been told next step is hsg(dye put through tube(only have one))

 

[mamadonna]

My gyne told me to ditch the thermometer and opks

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

I advice you to do hsg. Just for a piece of mind. I did this and I am starting clomid next month. I did tried without meds but for 6 years I had just chemical last June and maybe another two two years ago .

 

[Loup89]

Hi,

I really hope you don't mind me posting as I technically don't belong in the section anymore but I still pop in because it's where I feel 'safe'

I was ttc for 3 years by the end of last year when I was given clomid to try and got pregnant first cycle, I couldn't believe my luck seeing as I have PCOS and since found out I have endometriosis too. Sadly I miscarried at 7 weeks. I remember people on here who had had losses and thinking 'well at least you've got hope it can happen' which is true but the pain it caused me will be with me forever and I wouldn't wish anybody to go through that.

Anyway more to the point I had everybody telling me that if it worked first time it had to happen 2nd or 3rd...well no it didn't nor 4th, 5th or 6th and I was finally told I wasn't allowed anymore clomid I cried my eyes out when I got my last period it had been nearly a year since my miscarriage and I felt like all my dreams were over and we were about to look into adoption. I had a lap & dye booked for 29th Oct so though I may as well go for it anyway to see if anything else was wrong with me which by the way was a hell of a lot less painful than imagined, I was back to normal about 2 days later. Turns out now I was in fact pregnant when I had the lap done and I got pregnant my first cycle off clomid just when I was giving up all hope, my doctor is pretty gobsmacked by it all.

I obviously don't know this will all work out for me as it's still early days but I wanted to give you some hope. I hope I've not upset you by coming on here as I'm not ttc anymore but honestly 3 and a half years by no means says it's not going to happen for you. If you're not ready to give up then don't but make sure you try and enjoy your life as well because the last thing you want to do is look back and realise you spent years making yourself miserable thinking it would never happen when really it just meant waiting a little bit longer.

 

[Emmi]

Sorry that you have been through so much.....But don't give up until you have exhausted everything. Talk to your fertility consultant about IVF etc - would anything help?? Keep asking questions and keep going - I know how hard it can be.

 

[mamadonna]

Ah Loup a massive congratulations!!!!!I did mention Clomid but was told no I couldn't have it

I've kinda stopped all the obsessing and symptom spotting,just taking it easy,but it's hard lol!!

I'll have the hsg done although I'm not looking forward to it but anything to help and time isn't something I have a lot of,I'm almost 39 so no spring chicken!!!

I do appreciate all your kind words ladies it means a lot!!

 

[ERosePW]

Loup89, congrats to you, and good luck!!

mamadonna, its good you're not obsessing and symptom spotting, as I know from experience that is stressful (and I still haven't really moved beyond that, lol!). And it was probably good advice to throw away the therm and opks. I'm a year into TTC (I assumed that was considered LTTTC and could join this forum, but realize now there are others who have been trying much longer than I have), and I tend to obsess over my temps and opks. So your doc probably had a good point! I agree that you should do the hsg. You just never know whats going to help you! I'm wondering why they wouldn't let you try the Clomid? Maybe they felt you were already O'ing with good quality eggs and that wasn't the issue?

 

[mamadonna]

Yeah not looking forward to the hsg but I think it needs to be done,then I suppose I'll just see where we go from there!

 

[xxshellsxx]

I have been trying for 12 yrs and eventually i was offered HSG in May this year, results came back as inconclusive. All my blood tests are fine and nothing could be found except short cycle and LPD which my Fs wouldn't take seriously. I then had laparoscopy in August and once again nothing wrong could be found however.... i got my first ever BFP in September (i'm nearly 36) - the first month we tried after my surgery! Think it blew the cobwebs away so to speak lol Devistatingly it ended with an early miscarriage in October and we're still trying, but now with clomid (that i have had to fight like you wouldn't believe for!) but Never give up sometimes miracles do happen... i'm just hoping i get a second chance for mine xx

 

[tubs]

Don't give up! I was TTC for 4+ years, failed IVFs, 4 miscarriages. Got pregnant naturally last November and have gorgeous baby boy now. The losses and disappointments were so hard but I always had hope! My first two pregnancies were IVF. We did 2 frozen transfers that didn't work either. We decided I needed a break. Next two pregnancies were natural, but early miscarriages. I decided to just focus on myself for a while, exercising, eating well and going out and enjoying myself. Regarding TTC, I decided to ditch all the opks, charting etc and to just keep an eye out for the ewcm as the only way of knowing when my body was ovulating. The final pregnancy was a success! (So nerve-wracking though!!). I don't why and I don't know where I got HOPE, but I did and it kept me strong. I know every LTTTC situation is different and complex so hard to compare but stay strong.
Also, after my second miscarriage (12 wks) I saw a counsellor. She encouraged me to focus on planning nice things to look forward to with my husband or friends. I took this on board and planned little trips away here and there as before that we had put our lives on hold TTC which is not a good thing. I also took a break from the internet! I was reading too many TTC blogs and forums everyday which meant my mind was on TTC all the time...again, not a good thing.

 

[taboo]

i met my wonderful husband in 1999 and we tried for a family straight away
after 2 years of unsuccesful ttc we went to see a consulatant at my local hospital and was told i would never concieve as i have pcos and was too fat!!!!!!
so after having a heart attack in 2005 and been allowed to have gastric band in 2007 because of my severe asthma i lost nearly 8 stone went from size 24/26 to size 14
and the unexpected happen in may 2010 got a positive pregnancy test only for it to be taken away so cruelly at 11 weeks due to me and my dog getting attacked
after that it was like a military routine to get caught again bought the soy tablets,preseed,charting,ovulation sticks,clearblue fertility monitor you name it we had it and to be honest now looking back on it sex had become a chore x
in april 2011 we moved house and we made the decision that ttc was gonna take a back seat i wanted to make love to my husband again nnot as a chore so everything was binned i bought a couple of horses for me and hubby and spent everything on them
In april 2013 this year something really strange happened i was working days as a taxi driver and i would come home and just pass out for no reason never thought anything about it this happened for a couple of days and to be honest i just thought it was cos i had gone on days and my body clock was knackered
i made an appointment for the doctors telling them and they explained it could be early menopause or maybe a water infection so i gave them a sample on the wednesday and left it at that
wellll after 14 years of ttc as you can see from my signature the menopause was my precious son im carrying im currently 4 weeks from giving birth and i thought i would never ever see this day xxxx
i wanted to tell my story to give some of you some hope
NEVER EVER GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
as soon as me and hubby started to relax it seemed to have happened
I WISH ALL OF YOU BABYDUST XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

 

[mamadonna]

I have been trying for 12 yrs and eventually i was offered HSG in May this year, results came back as inconclusive. All my blood tests are fine and nothing could be found except short cycle and LPD which my Fs wouldn't take seriously. I then had laparoscopy in August and once again nothing wrong could be found however.... i got my first ever BFP in September (i'm nearly 36) - the first month we tried after my surgery! Think it blew the cobwebs away so to speak lol Devistatingly it ended with an early miscarriage in October and we're still trying, but now with clomid (that i have had to fight like you wouldn't believe for!) but Never give up sometimes miracles do happen... i'm just hoping i get a second chance for mine xx

12 years my word!!I have absolutely everything crossed you get your bfp very soon!!and I'm so sorry for your loss hun it's so hard,I've had 3 this past 3 and half years

 

[mamadonna]

Don't give up! I was TTC for 4+ years, failed IVFs, 4 miscarriages. Got pregnant naturally last November and have gorgeous baby boy now. The losses and disappointments were so hard but I always had hope! My first two pregnancies were IVF. We did 2 frozen transfers that didn't work either. We decided I needed a break. Next two pregnancies were natural, but early miscarriages. I decided to just focus on myself for a while, exercising, eating well and going out and enjoying myself. Regarding TTC, I decided to ditch all the opks, charting etc and to just keep an eye out for the ewcm as the only way of knowing when my body was ovulating. The final pregnancy was a success! (So nerve-wracking though!!). I don't why and I don't know where I got HOPE, but I did and it kept me strong. I know every LTTTC situation is different and complex so hard to compare but stay strong.
Also, after my second miscarriage (12 wks) I saw a counsellor. She encouraged me to focus on planning nice things to look forward to with my husband or friends. I took this on board and planned little trips away here and there as before that we had put our lives on hold TTC which is not a good thing. I also took a break from the internet! I was reading too many TTC blogs and forums everyday which meant my mind was on TTC all the time...again, not a good thing.

Congratulations on your little boy,I know patience pays off in the end!!I think me and hubby could do with a few trips away,it would be nice

 

[mamadonna]

i met my wonderful husband in 1999 and we tried for a family straight away
after 2 years of unsuccesful ttc we went to see a consulatant at my local hospital and was told i would never concieve as i have pcos and was too fat!!!!!!
so after having a heart attack in 2005 and been allowed to have gastric band in 2007 because of my severe asthma i lost nearly 8 stone went from size 24/26 to size 14
and the unexpected happen in may 2010 got a positive pregnancy test only for it to be taken away so cruelly at 11 weeks due to me and my dog getting attacked
after that it was like a military routine to get caught again bought the soy tablets,preseed,charting,ovulation sticks,clearblue fertility monitor you name it we had it and to be honest now looking back on it sex had become a chore x
in april 2011 we moved house and we made the decision that ttc was gonna take a back seat i wanted to make love to my husband again nnot as a chore so everything was binned i bought a couple of horses for me and hubby and spent everything on them
In april 2013 this year something really strange happened i was working days as a taxi driver and i would come home and just pass out for no reason never thought anything about it this happened for a couple of days and to be honest i just thought it was cos i had gone on days and my body clock was knackered
i made an appointment for the doctors telling them and they explained it could be early menopause or maybe a water infection so i gave them a sample on the wednesday and left it at that
wellll after 14 years of ttc as you can see from my signature the menopause was my precious son im carrying im currently 4 weeks from giving birth and i thought i would never ever see this day xxxx
i wanted to tell my story to give some of you some hope
NEVER EVER GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
as soon as me and hubby started to relax it seemed to have happened
I WISH ALL OF YOU BABYDUST XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

So sorry for all the bad stuff,but a massive congratulations on your pending birth,good luck I hope it goes nice and smoothly for you!!will look forward to seeing pics off the little one x

 

[Melbram]

Wow your stories are amazing and give me hope!

OH and I have been TTC for a little over 3.5 years now. 1 failed IVF, 1 IVF which didnt get to transfer due to OHSS, and 1 FET which didnt get to transfer due to rubbish embryos. I have consultation tomorrow to see about lap and dye. We have male factor which is why we proceeded to IVF but with IVF not an option now due to cost I want to make sure my tubes arent blocked and there are no hidden issues. Also praying like others it might help things along a little once they've had a bit of a clean.

We have decided to take a step back from trying to think too much about ttc, book a holiday to have something to look forward to that will actually result in something and generally get back to being us. You can never switch off completely though I dont think even more so with everyone around us getting pregnant.

Regardless of all that we have been through I still truly believe we will fall pregnant naturally

Best of luck to those still on their journey x

 

[mamadonna]

Good luck MelBram,me and hubby have decided to not think about ttcing but concentrate on getting fit,and hopefully it will happen along the way,I lost a bit of weight during the summer but it's almost all back on now!!so need lo shift a stone!!I was following slimming world which was working great but I'm trying to cut out aspartame out of my diet and most things diet/low fat contain it so not sure what to do for the best!!

Oh and af arrived this mornin,I wish my cycles would sort themselves out,I've always been a regular 28 days but this past 6 months or so I never know whether i'm gonna have 28,29,31 or33 day one,it kinda makes it hard to pin point ovulation,which we need cos hubby doesn't have the biggest sex drive!!!,which I think is another factor we are finding getting pregnant difficult!!does anyone know of anything he can get off the doc??