Ovulating- too soon TTC?

[kerri28]

I'm feeling super guilty this morning... I started ovulating on exactly the 1 month mark of losing Hannah. I took it as a sign we can and will have a rainbow baby. I told the doctor and he didn't say anything like don't try so we didn't the day I had OV pain ... But last night I was just so depressed and my hope for a rainbow baby is all that's holding me together right now. We meet with my OB next week ten the high risk group.. Is it bad that we tried already? I feel guilty now like if it worked and something happens early on like MC it will be because we didn't wait long enough.

 

[Mumtodogs]

I'm so sorry for your loss....

I still stalk these threads trying to offer a bit of hope that you can have sunshine after rain... I believe it is fine that you dtd. We caught this little bean 10 days after an early mc. My doctor told me your body wouldn't accept the pregnancy if it wasn't ready, and if I miss carried it wouldn't have anything to do with it being too early.

I hope you get your bfp from this. X X

 

[kerri28]

Well I've been spotting and he did an internal today and said it's probably the start of a period. So I didn't even bring it up... He is taking the high risk groups recommendations tomorrow and he said that info wasn't meeting with them he would recommend waiting 6 months. We also discussed the use of an antidepressant and he is going to have the high risk group determine the use of that tomorrow in terms of it affecting future pregnancy. His 6 month wait recommendation is based on my emotional well being more so than m physical.. Dh told him I haven't eaten since yesterday morning so .. Yeah.....

 

[Mumtodogs]

I can understand waiting for emotional reasons, I obviously couldn't comment on any medical reasons but I'm sure your GP knows what's best.

It must be a terrible time for you loosing your little girl, I can't imagine.

I had a loss in January time 2013, we were told the pregnancy probably wouldn't be viable when we were 9 weeks, it took another 4 weeks to confirm it definitely wouldn't be (worst 4 weeks of my life). We had medical intervention at 13 weeks which failed and we finally passed everything at 17 weeks. After that I couldn't face ttc for a couple of months, but then I just got the strongest urge to start again.

I think you will know mentally and emotionally when is best for you.

I'm so sorry to hear you're not eating. I hope you're on the support sections of this website, you need to allow yourself to feel however you're feeling. Don't berate yourself, or try and pretend you're better than you are. You've been through some life changing shit, you're bound to not be right. Keep talking, keep crying and keep leaning on those who love you. In time you will start to look for some sunshine again, although at the moment I appreciate you maybe feel like darkness will never end.

X xx

 

[CastawayBride]

Your body will go through a lot trying to recover, it is best to work with your doctors and you will get your rainbow.

I lost our son at 32 weeks, sadly, due to a Doctors mistake. I took my 6 weeks post pregnancy to heal and then had ankle surgery, we *thought* we were being careful and stopped being intimate 5 days before ovulation....I still became pregnant. We were excited, but nervous, as I had been knocked out for surgery and so soon from my last pregnancy. Sadly, that pregnancy was a blighted ovum. My body took a long time to recover from that, 4 months. BUT, after a real period we conceived this little miracle, so rainbows DO happen even after the saddest losses.