Sounds like an infection hun, i would rather go through labour than get toothache or earache
Worst thing to do is clean ears with a cotton bud, i learnt the hard way when i got a major rollocking from my nurse as i went deaf in one ear and was all compacted
If you have been prodding too much it could be a perforation as well, did it start not long after you last cleaned them??
You deff need to go to docs either way or your hospital walk in centre