I am at a complete loss as to how to deal with my oh. I find myself sooo frustrated with him. For the last 10 months I have looked after lo alone whilst he was away on business with a monthly visit. Since returning he seems to be going against what I've been doing with lo discipline wise and his reply when I raise my concerns about it is that he can do what he likes as it is his son too. I end up feeling so frustrated and wonder if it is a bad idea to have any more kids in the future. For instance, I've told oh over and over that I don't agree with physical punishment whether that be a tap on the wrist or smack on the bum or leg I don't agree with it and I do not want it happening to my son. His reply is that it didn't do him any harm and whenever lo misbehaves he always says it's becuase it's my fault and I'm too soft on him. I now prefer to do the childcare myself where possible however oh bathed lo tonight. I overheard him saying "if you do that again I will smack your bum". It breaks my heart and I don't know what to do other than to do everything for lo where possible which leaves me exhausted.
I honestly believe my relationship is excellent with my lo becuae I listen to what he likes and dislikes and we both respect each other. He acts like a normal two year or but whenever he does anything wrong he apologies immediately. He is well mannered and is generally a well behaved child. I do use time out when it's required but it rarely is. So I don't see any need to smack him and would never dream of it just because I care so much about him and don't want to cause him physical pain. So it annoys me to the point where I can't stand my oh when he does it or threatens it but I just don't know how to stop it I've tried talking calmy and angrily and still he insits that this is how he will parent. Anyone got any advice or in a similiar situation?
I honestly believe my relationship is excellent with my lo becuae I listen to what he likes and dislikes and we both respect each other. He acts like a normal two year or but whenever he does anything wrong he apologies immediately. He is well mannered and is generally a well behaved child. I do use time out when it's required but it rarely is. So I don't see any need to smack him and would never dream of it just because I care so much about him and don't want to cause him physical pain. So it annoys me to the point where I can't stand my oh when he does it or threatens it but I just don't know how to stop it I've tried talking calmy and angrily and still he insits that this is how he will parent. Anyone got any advice or in a similiar situation?