CapitalChick
Mommy to 1 and preggo!!!
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I was wondering if anyone else managed to crush the dreams of their parents and/or inlaws with their birth wishes. It seems these days that whenever my Dh and I tell our parents how we want things at the birth of our child, they get so angry because it's not how they pictured it. My in laws told DH yesterday that they wanted to know AS SOON AS anything happened so that they could come to the hospital and be there for the birth. DH told them that we didn't want anyone there until after the baby was born, and they were upset. DH explained that we want the first 2-3 hours for ourselves and the baby only. We didn't think this was unreasonable.
DH told them that I am extremely stressed by the idea of having family wait in the waiting room for the birth. I know it's insane, but I will feel very rushed and I'll feel guilty if it takes long. I do not want anyone waiting for me. Initially I really didn't want to tell anyone I was in labour until after we had the baby. But now that doesn't seem to be possible.
I'm just so upset that whatever I want makes them so upset. I hate upsetting our parents like this...but what can I do??
Am I being unreasonable?
DH told them that I am extremely stressed by the idea of having family wait in the waiting room for the birth. I know it's insane, but I will feel very rushed and I'll feel guilty if it takes long. I do not want anyone waiting for me. Initially I really didn't want to tell anyone I was in labour until after we had the baby. But now that doesn't seem to be possible.
I'm just so upset that whatever I want makes them so upset. I hate upsetting our parents like this...but what can I do??
Am I being unreasonable?