PnkPolkaDots
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Hi there,
I'm not pregnant yet this has been on my mind and it's bothering me (it even bothers me that it bothers me!). OH and I are not in a *bad* financial place, but we aren't rolling in the dough either. We pretty much live paycheck to paycheck, but are somehow able to put a chunk each month away (about 20-25% goes to our wedding money, rainy day stash, and general savings). We live very frugally with no government aid and are very careful to live within our means.
A big help has been how affordable rent is... we live in my parents' 2 bedroom rental house and they charge us below market value (we live next door to them and OH is able to let their dogs out during the day while they work and we watch the dogs when they go out of town, sort of in exchange for the lower rent). I work as a reading assistant (I'm a certified teacher but my position pays less) and while I have no student loan debt, I wanted to pursue a reading endorsement. I was turned down for a loan (I have an open loan for my car currently, I owe $4500 on it still) and wasn't going to do the program, but then my parents offered to pay for it (about $5,000) and I could just pay them back. So our total debt is about $9500 - $4500 to the bank, $5000 to my parents.
Now that you have the back story... I'm very self-conscious about my parents thinking we don't make enough to support a baby. I'm a reading assistant as I mentioned, and OH delivers pizza (yes, he has a college degree, but the recession nearly obliterated his field). We both want to be parents so bad and are willing to cut back on even more if needed. I have had two miscarriages and spent the last year NTNP to no avail, but we are on an official break until our wedding next summer. We really want to start trying as soon as we get married, but I dread breaking the news to my parents and having them being disappointed.
While it would be *better* financially to wait until we make more, I don't know when that will happen and I don't want to miss my fertile window to become a mom. I know plenty of people are having kids later these days, but that's just not me. I'm not a career woman, I'm meant to be a mother. Especially since I have miscarried twice and nothing happened during a year of NTNP, I worry it may take a while anyway after we start trying again. We will be 29 and 30 when we get married.
Whew! That's my novel. Thanks for bearing with me ladies If I have the wrong forum please feel free to move my post.
I'm not pregnant yet this has been on my mind and it's bothering me (it even bothers me that it bothers me!). OH and I are not in a *bad* financial place, but we aren't rolling in the dough either. We pretty much live paycheck to paycheck, but are somehow able to put a chunk each month away (about 20-25% goes to our wedding money, rainy day stash, and general savings). We live very frugally with no government aid and are very careful to live within our means.
A big help has been how affordable rent is... we live in my parents' 2 bedroom rental house and they charge us below market value (we live next door to them and OH is able to let their dogs out during the day while they work and we watch the dogs when they go out of town, sort of in exchange for the lower rent). I work as a reading assistant (I'm a certified teacher but my position pays less) and while I have no student loan debt, I wanted to pursue a reading endorsement. I was turned down for a loan (I have an open loan for my car currently, I owe $4500 on it still) and wasn't going to do the program, but then my parents offered to pay for it (about $5,000) and I could just pay them back. So our total debt is about $9500 - $4500 to the bank, $5000 to my parents.
Now that you have the back story... I'm very self-conscious about my parents thinking we don't make enough to support a baby. I'm a reading assistant as I mentioned, and OH delivers pizza (yes, he has a college degree, but the recession nearly obliterated his field). We both want to be parents so bad and are willing to cut back on even more if needed. I have had two miscarriages and spent the last year NTNP to no avail, but we are on an official break until our wedding next summer. We really want to start trying as soon as we get married, but I dread breaking the news to my parents and having them being disappointed.
While it would be *better* financially to wait until we make more, I don't know when that will happen and I don't want to miss my fertile window to become a mom. I know plenty of people are having kids later these days, but that's just not me. I'm not a career woman, I'm meant to be a mother. Especially since I have miscarried twice and nothing happened during a year of NTNP, I worry it may take a while anyway after we start trying again. We will be 29 and 30 when we get married.
Whew! That's my novel. Thanks for bearing with me ladies If I have the wrong forum please feel free to move my post.