Partner is a cheat!

[elles28]

I would dump him FAST...If he can do this to you when your pregnant what else is he capable of....I hope you have loving family & friends with you & they will be able to help you.......Good luck at your docs app

 

[ladymilly]

You poor thing. I agree with the others. I would definitely dump him. he can't be worth much if he would do this to you. You need to talk to a close friend or someone you can trust. I'm thinking of you

 

[vickilouise]

awwwww i feel for you hun i really do.

its down to you at the end of the day but from the sounds of it you can do so much better.... drop him like he's hot. its not like the age old excuse could be used here "i was drunk... didnt know what i was doin" not that it makes any difference but to go on the internet and arrange meetings with these women.... no get waaaaay out of it. premeditated crime...

might be terrible to think of yourself on your own but what would you prefer to be confident on your own or constantly 2nd guessing where he's goin and what he's doin?! i know what i'd prefer ive been there with an ex and drove myself mental.

anyway if you decided to sling him theres always plenty more turds in the canal!!!!

hope youre ok. xxx

 

[lorrilou]

Get rid of him.

 

[Michele1026]

im so sorry hun , My Ex husband cheating and it did lead to our divorce that was something I could not deal with , I hope you have a great support system. Its hard enough being pregnant. But you dont need someone in your life who is going to treat you this way. You need to worry about you and the baby
Just my opinion.

 

[Samantha]

Hi,

DUMP HIM NOW

A leopard never changes their spots. Its of course only my opinion but if you stick with this guy then you are in for lots more heartache. Better to get rid now and get the hurting out the way than to go on hurting. This man is having sex with other women. If you even start to waiver and think about taking him back then have this image in your mind. If he can do this to you whilst pregnant then there really isnt any hope for your relationship anyway.

I am sorry to be blunt but this guy won't change and as everybody else says you deserve so much more than this.

You have the support of your mum and I know it must be scary right now with the prospect of having a baby on your own, but Id be even more scared of having a baby and staying with this dispicable man.

Good Luck with everything.
Love
Sam

 

[xarlenex]

Its horrible you have to go through this at all, but more so when your carrying his baby Just take time to make the right choice for you and baby x

 

[Lara18]

Had the tests done yesterday and just waiting for the results. Have'nt spoken to the cheater yet, he has rang a few times and sent a substancial amount of texts and voice messages. I know i cant forgive and forget this but he needs to be apart of our childs life therefore he will always be apart of mine in a way no matter what. I dunno he has just completely wrecked everything. Its like he picked up my life and shook it until it all fell apart, we were meant to move in together next month and get married early next year. This baby was unplanned but I knew it was what i wanted and partner came round in the end and was actually getting excited, mean while he's been putting it about.
But i guess the fact is that I love him, I cant help it. Sure I hate what he's done, but I dont hate him. Its going to take so much time to get over him, I thought he was my soulmate, my destined other. My life for the last year and a half has revolved around him, he was the centre of my universe and now it feels like such a waste of time. sorry for the essay, just venting i guess. I just dont know how its all gonna turn out. Cause the thing is me and my Mum do not get on so I know i cant be here longterm, thats why I was meant to be moving out in the first place and now i cant do that so its back to square one. xxxxxxxxx thanks xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[pinkmommy]

You definately need to talk to a family member and tell him you know all about what is going on and leave, all you have to worry about is you and your child.

Hang in there

 

[bellazucca]

It is obvious you do not want to let him go. Have you tried going to marriage/relationship counseling? Find out why he is doing this? Does he desperately want something you can't offer? Does he have commitment issues? I do think some (not all) cheaters can change. Maybe he knows what he is about to embark on and wants to get all the freedom he feels he has left out...which I have to admit is a terrible way of doing it AND personally, I think he gave up his freedom when you got engaged and preggo. I think you two should have some serious talks and if it is that he doesn't want to be a father and a husband then I think you should dump him and find a guy who appreciates you. Good Luck!!

 

[Lara18]

Ok I still dont know what im going to do at this point but I have texted him saying that he can ome round tomorrow, but until then I dont want him calling me. I just need to sort out my thoughts and what im going to say and him calling me will just mess me up even more. He text back that he will come tomorrow and he says he wont contact me unless I say it is ok to do so.Bit worried cause tomorrow is the day I finally make such a HUGE decision, I mean what the decision i make 2moz will mean my child have a full or part time dad. I want to believe he can change but i just dont know if he can or if im even willing to give him the chance to.
I dont believe in the once a cheat always a cheat thing because I myself am a reformed cheater. My boyfriend before this one broke up with me because I kept cheating on him, and i cheated at the start of this relationship but seeing what I could have lost made me change and now I know in my heart that I will never be unfaithful to anyone again. I guess we have a lot of talking to do, will fill you in tomorow. thankies xxxx

 

[Tishimouse]

Oops! I see I've posted twice by mistake, so please ignore this post and read the next one.

 

[Tishimouse]

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. Only you have the answers. I hope you make the right decision and find some peace again in your life.

If it was me, before making my final decision, I would speak to someone about it who is not involved and not a family member. I would phone RELATE. Perhaps you should do the same as it is a free service and you have nothing to loose. If nothing else, it may help you think clearer.

Here is the link: https://www.relate.org.uk/

 

[Always&4ever]

I think you need some time to think this all through, its not a nice thing to go through and you have to think has he actually slept with other woman or is it all talk? and would you still be able to trust him, as far as im concerned even talking about it is just as bad as the idea is in his head. I'd agree with wobbles tho, I wouldn't sleep with him again until he has been tested, either that or i'd do what my mate did and send him on Jeremy Kyle, to do a lie detector, I feel for you honey

 

[Linzi]

not sure if i agree with the others or not. I agree you need some time out, but dont burn your bridges. He's been asking for sex...but did he do the deed?

And involving the internet doesnt make it any worse than going up to girls in a bar in my book...in fact it makes it less bad....maybe if it was all just talk? I mean, maybe he wouldnt have really dared to do anything? People can be who they want in an email...but it really depends on if he's been meeting the girls.

Take time out, talk to him....maybe he needs a big think about exactly what he's doing!!! Perhaps it's just been an online game. A game that isnt acceptable but that isnt quite full sex...
Men can be fools. They take a long time to grow up sometimes...a long to time realise what they really want..


I'm not saying to forgive him, or to dump him, just to take your time. This is horrid. Dont react suddenly. Go stay with family for a while.
Good luck

I agree with this.

Dont make any quick decisions but Im notn saying forgive him like that either.

Maybe take some time away from him for a while to sort your head out.

Good luck hun

xxx

 

[Lara18]

He did sleep with them, I found emails from the girls saying stuff about how good the sex was and that they should meet again soon. some of the emails were so disgusting as well, but it was clear that he had met them, and when I asked him about, ca and just lled him and the first thing i said was "have you been cheating on me", he didnt say anything for a moment and then said yes really quietly. So yer he defo shagged them xxxx

 

[poppy]

I'm sorry to hear that Lara. You must be devastated. I can't believe he made out that you were blowing it out of all proportion - how did he think you would react???

Normally, people would just say to dump him, but obviously with a baby on the way you must be more confused about it. However, if he is doing stuff like this now when you are pregnant, is he really the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with?

I wish you the best of luck, I hope things work out for you.
xxx

 

[Carolina]

good luck sweetheart just take your time making your decision. My friends oh was cheating on he and she found emails but he has reformed!

 

[Always&4ever]

I'm sorry honey, it must be awful for you

 

[tb42]

it happened once it will happen again. Talk to someone you trust most and i'm sure they will help you go through this. i think without him, you and your family can bring up this baby better. Sorry to hear what's happening with you. Be strong, you are not alone.