I was diagnosed at 32 with PCOS after stopping BCP and not having a period for 10 months. I have a milder case with lack of periods and higher than normal testosterone levels. Fortunately I didn't have ovarian cysts, which, despite the name of the syndrome, you don't need to have PCOS.
What helped me manage my symptoms was adopting the PCOS diet and taking lots of supplements to support fertility. PCOSdietsupport.com is a great website. In the end Clomid is what helped me get my BFP, but I think my dietary changes and supplements helped. Good luck and hang in there!