Pee'd well and truely off!!!!!

[louise85]

Well it's now been over a week since FOB bothered texting me back despite numerous attempts from me!! The whole situation is stressing me out he didn't even bother asking how my midwife appt went, last time we spoke he said he would be involved with the baby but how can he be bothered if he ain't even showing an interest now or asking if I'm ok etc??!!

I don't even know why I'm so adamant on getting a reply out of him, I'm keeping this baby, I'm just worried the main thing is of having 2 children with 2 fathers I feel like a fool, I don't want to do it all alone again, I'm not saying I want to be with him just a little help, caring and support would be nice.

I know it's early days (8weeks) am I asking too much??

 

[lou_w34]

No, of course your not asking to much, your just wanting what any of us want, and unfortunatley your not getting it.

Dont be afraid to do it alone again, after all, youve done it once, and you know you can do it

Maybe you could stop texting him for a while, since getting no reply bothers you so much. I expect as soon as you stop bothering to text him, he will all of a sudden want to get in contact at some point anyways... It what most FOBs have done on here.

You should be really proud of yourself that your willing to do it again for a second time

 

[louise85]

I'm so trying my hardest not to text him I last a couple of days then thats it

Their such arseholes sometimes!!
Really gonna try not to contact him now, he's also pissing me off bcuz he's making it look like he asn't been on his fb for a week, like he wants me to wonder what he's doin!!

Everytime I go to text him I'm gonna tell myself whats the point he won't reply!!

You've not got long left now have you? Everything sorted ready for scarlett??
x

 

[tinkabells]

No course your not, maybe txt him and say look, you said you'd be involved, well ig you wanna be, i need you to reply to my txts, i will let you know when the appts are etc, or say to him, you said you wanted to be, i need no whether you are or not, as i dont need the stress at this such early stage having to chase you xxx

 

[louise85]

3times 2day I've text him and asked him if he's coming to the scan and that I really don't need the stress I'm feeling awful etc and no response he didn't even text me after I'd been to the midwife, so I don't think he'll even reply if I put that! I'm so pissed off with him. Why say he's gonna be involved with the baby??! I'm sure they think it's ok as long as they show an interest after they've been born, thats 7 soddin months away!! Tw*ts!!!

 

[lou_w34]

I'm so trying my hardest not to text him I last a couple of days then thats it

Their such arseholes sometimes!!
Really gonna try not to contact him now, he's also pissing me off bcuz he's making it look like he asn't been on his fb for a week, like he wants me to wonder what he's doin!!

Everytime I go to text him I'm gonna tell myself whats the point he won't reply!!

You've not got long left now have you? Everything sorted ready for scarlett??
x

How about deleating his number, and giving it to a friend, so that way your not tempted to text him... but if you ever need to get in contact (like when youve had the baby), you can get it off your friend again. But say to your friend under no circumstances is she aloud to give it to you for any other reason! heehee

Yep everything is now finally ready! I got my pram yesterday and that was the last thing i had to do! Eeeeeeek not long at all, scary but so exciting!

 

[louise85]

Thats actually a good idea! I've got so many thoughts going round in my head, has he changed his number, has he changed his mind about being involved etc. Just need to concentrate on getting everything ready for baby and see if he gets in touch, I just get so stressed out but always feel better after getting it all out on here!!

Aww glad you've got everything sorted, how exciting!!

 

[lou_w34]

Yeah me too! Everyone must be sick of me banging on all the time, but it feels so good to get it out! heehee

I would just literally forget him right now. You need to concentrate on you and the baby, and not waste any energy on him. After all, if he wants to be involved, then he should be making the effort to contact you, you shouldnt have to be chasing around after him. It will be hard at first, but soon you will forget about texting him so much, and it will become easier not to want to do it as much aswell. I used to be the same, and now if anything i avoid him when he calls/texts, not that he does it often, but now i just dont care about him, as far as im concearned he can shove it

 

[KaeRit21]

hun, i know it might sound like i should take my own advice but id just ignore him. you are strong enough to cope with this on your own and riht now you have to concentrate on you and your LO.
he'l do what the rest of them have...wake up when its wayyy to late and your over him and his bullshit.

dont get caught up like i have and allow him to upset you, your baby wil be fine...its has YOU and thats all it needs.

be strong darling, hold your head up and take it even one hour at a time. it gets easier but you can do it. ignore him and he'l soon start wondering what YOUR up to.

darling

xxxxxx

 

[louise85]

Why is it they wake up when they realise...Oh yes this is actually happening?!! I know they can't feel like we do and it probably doesn't feel real to them in the early days especially but it's not gonna go away if they ignore it!!

Thanx girls made me feels so much better....and I def agree with "the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world" Love it!! So true!!

xxx

 

[lou_w34]

I think we all need to take our own advice Its so easy to give advice, but harder to do it ourselves. Im always telling people not to let things get to them, yet getting in a right tizz if FOB bothers to get in contact lol

 

[woadie]

I think we all need to take our own advice Its so easy to give advice, but harder to do it ourselves. Im always telling people not to let things get to them, yet getting in a right tizz if FOB bothers to get in contact lol

I couldn't agree more. I can't see the wood for the trees with my own problems Its amazing how emotions get in the way isn't it?

 

[lou_w34]

I know!!! We let our emotions cloud everything! Yet for other people it seems so simple as to what they should do! Yet when it comes to our own problems we suddenly dont have a clue what to do, and when people say what to do it seems so obvious! lol