People complaining about their children...

[S_Dowd]

Okay, so I know children can drive a person crazy. I've worked as a nanny/at a daycare.

But, ever since I started TTC, it really bothers me when I hear ppl complaining about their kids. My sister has 3 kids under the age of 4, so I totally see how she feels overwhelmed. At the same time, I feel like she's constantly just complaining about how hard it is to be a mom and the hassle of having kids. She loves her babies and is a great mom, but she uses her experience to try to get me to wait to have a baby. I'm all for alone married time, but even when I'm pregnant, there's still 9 months till the baby actually comes out lol!

I just don't understand. I know kids can be difficult, but I love HER babies soooo much! I can't wait to see how much more I'll love my own. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Does it make you feel upset... at least a little bit?

 

[princess_1991]

i have to agree with this, how can people complain about having kids, if they were to go even a week with the emotional torment we have to put up with, i think they would definatly stop taking their kids for granted xx

 

[Hena]

YES!!! I see posts almost every day with people either complaining about how hard it is to be pregnant or about their children. It makes my blood boil....they have the one thing I want the most in the world, and can only complain?!

I know it's not fair to judge them on those comments, I'm sure they're just expressing momentary frustrations and are usually thankful for their children, but it's SO hard to read!

 

[princess_1991]

hena i wish this forum had a like button in stead of a thanks button cuz id be liking you comment lol, true words! xx

 

[MissBabyFace]

I'm the same hun. I recently babysat for my cousin who always complains her baby is 2 months old and he sleeps most of the time;

6pm he has a feed and is asleep until 2am and then he wakes up at 8am

She's always moaning how "I never have a lie in" I get up every morning at 6 for college and she's saying 8am is too early? She has THE perfect baby, easy to wind, hardly cries and she always complains that hes grizzly or doesnt take his milk tidy, doesnt wind good etc it's sad!

 

[PlainBoppli]

I feel the same way as you ladies...

I am sure we all made our moms and dads want to pull their hair out with us when we were younger, it's a circle of life of sorts. =)

But, these complaining parents should really evaluate their words and treasure their children before opening up to complaining, etc.

If they had to walk a mile in our shoes of infertility and see our struggles, disappointments, hopes, each month, they would realize what a precious gift they have been given....motherhood.

I guess when one doesn't have to struggle to get pregnant, they don't realize the preciousness of their fertility.

I do cut moms some slack though...they may be dealing with a special needs child and just have to vent, ya know?

 

[overthemoon]

I agree with all of you, they would take their children for granted less if they could see what we go through.

What makes my blood boil even more is that I have a male friend who cannot stand children. He calls them things I don't want to repeat, and gets really angry even when he hears babies squeal from excitement. He constantly tells me not to have children.
He doesn't know I am TTC.... once I am pregnant, that will probably be the end of our friendship!

 

[Hena]

Ugh, that is so sad!! I hope he isn't a father, and that he never says these things where children can overhear him!

I went on Facebook this morning for the first time in days, and sure enough, three long diatribes on how hard it is to have children, two is worse than one, etc.....

I've already made a pledge to my DH that when I finally get pregnant I will never complain about the bloating, sore feet, stretch marks, and that with every run to the toilet I will give thanks for my blessing! (he's to hold me to it, hehe)

 

[princess_1991]

hena ive had exactally the same thought!!

not matter how hard a pregnancy, the bad side effects, the sleepless nights when there born etc, i will cherish every single moment and i will never complain about a child weve worked soo hard and spent so much time trying to conceive, they really will be my everything! i got soo much love for a child that hasnt even been concieved yet,

i hope it works out for all us TTC ladies

millions of baby dust to you all, and hope that you'll get your happily ever after one day!! xx

 

[Sparkles237]

i have to deal with this every single day at work as i work in a nursery, i get parents saying they need a break cos they are fed up with them, complaining about everything and anything to do with them, i so really want to say to them you should of spent the last 13 months in my shoes then you'll realise how lucky you actually are to have a child

 

[mrsrof]

S_Dowd, I completely agree with you, my sister has 2 gorgeous boys, 2 & 5, and I know she loves them, but she just forever seems to be complaining about how much work they are, how she can't cope etc. She chose to have children (well, the first one, possibly not!), but still makes out like it's the worst thing in the world sometimes!!

The other thing that really gets me about her sometimes is her complaining about her pregnancies, saying she hated it etc. Here I am ttc, and this is what I hear from her, the only one of my siblings who has children!

 

[wantanerd]

I have two SIL's who CONSTANTLY complain about their kids. Everyday on facebook it seems one of them is wishing their kids would take naps or they moan when the kids don't. I wish I had the guts to say shut up, you at least have kids. When I get pregnant and have a kid, I WILL not post negative stuff about my kid or my pregnancy!

 

[overthemoon]

I definitely am pledging to remember all of this, and be grateful when I finally conceive. I can't wait for all the bloating, morning sickness and etc. I really can't wait, because all this worrying about whether I'm fertile or not really gets me sick sometimes. I will be so grateful to finally have a LO

 

[wantanerd]

I definitely am pledging to remember all of this, and be grateful when I finally conceive. I can't wait for all the bloating, morning sickness and etc. I really can't wait, because all this worrying about whether I'm fertile or not really gets me sick sometimes. I will be so grateful to finally have a LO

I am with you there! As long as there is a healthy baby at the end of it, I am up for whatever! I can't wait!

 

[dreamer1978]

You are all so strong and amazing. I'm reading this thread, and I know that you will all be such incredible mothers. I'm a teacher, and I see parents that don't give a crap about their kids...parents that neglect their children, etc. It fires me up. It makes me sick.

 

[wantanerd]

You are all so strong and amazing. I'm reading this thread, and I know that you will all be such incredible mothers. I'm a teacher, and I see parents that don't give a crap about their kids...parents that neglect their children, etc. It fires me up. It makes me sick.

I am a former teacher. I have seen the worst of parents when I worked with emotionally handicapped teens. I have also seen parents not care about their kids and they were the kids who were failing, got in trouble all the time, etc.

Thanks to my teaching experience and my observations of the mom's around me, once a baby happens, I have a good idea how I want to raise kids.

And with teaching high school, one of the last schools I taught at had 28 different girls pregnant. That made me sick and jealous.

I really hope I can be a good mom one day =)

 

[overthemoon]

You are all so strong and amazing. I'm reading this thread, and I know that you will all be such incredible mothers. I'm a teacher, and I see parents that don't give a crap about their kids...parents that neglect their children, etc. It fires me up. It makes me sick.

I am a former teacher. I have seen the worst of parents when I worked with emotionally handicapped teens. I have also seen parents not care about their kids and they were the kids who were failing, got in trouble all the time, etc.

Thanks to my teaching experience and my observations of the mom's around me, once a baby happens, I have a good idea how I want to raise kids.

And with teaching high school, one of the last schools I taught at had 28 different girls pregnant. That made me sick and jealous.

I really hope I can be a good mom one day =)

I am sure you will be!

 

[wannabemummyb]

I completely agree with everything said. I have friends who are pregnant and all they do is whinge all day on facebook. It really gets to me after a while. One of the girls had a baby, then got pregnant again when the baby was six weeks old!

I have said elsewhere previously, i strongly believe that the struggle to have a baby, all the hard work, heartache and pain will eventually make us all wonderful mothers! Let's face it you appreciate something much more if you have had to wait for it!

Baby dust to all

 

[LilLeafyLea]

I may be very unpopular for voicing my thoughts here but I'm sorry girls, I completely disagree. I think it's hard on all of us who have been ttc for some time now with no success (I've been trying for 15months with no joy) but that doesn't give us the right to comment on other people's parenting skills when we have no idea of the difficulties life brings when pregnant or with children (or women who are pregnant with children).

I babysit for my nieces and nephew on a regular basis and yes, they are great children but I would never compare it to having them 24/7. They are golden when they are with me, or other family members but when they are at home they may fight and argue and test my sisters limits to the brink! She has every right to complain but that doesn't mean she regrets them, or somehow doesn't deserve to have them (or doesn't deserve to have them as much as other people may do). She loves her kids to bits and like many things in life, parenthood isn't always a smooth ride.

Many parents who have been TTC for some time and are finally successful may also, at times, rant about being pg or moan about their children, many people even look forward to the opportunity to moan about these things to feel a part of the pg game! Everyone needs to blow off steam at times just as we all do here.

I haven't been subject to the emotional, physical and mental changes (and often traumas) that take over pg women throughout carrying, labour and then a quick succession of typical emptions such as insomnia, no social life (or bombardment of family and friends), depression when the baby arrives and so on. Who knows how we will cope with these changes that take grip of our bodies? If you think you can happily sail through this time then I think that's great! But you'll never know how you'll feel until you're experiencing it. Everyone is different not necessarily better or worse.

I'm sure we'll all be fantastic mothers but to say we will appreciate a baby more than someone who may have taken less time to conceive and may whinge occasionally about being pg or a parent, isn't fair.

I really hope I haven't upset, offended or outraged anyone. That wasn't my intention. I just wanted to air my thoughts without R&R'ing from this thread as it would pick away at my conscience!

 

[pola17]

Okay, so I know children can drive a person crazy. I've worked as a nanny/at a daycare.

But, ever since I started TTC, it really bothers me when I hear ppl complaining about their kids. My sister has 3 kids under the age of 4, so I totally see how she feels overwhelmed. At the same time, I feel like she's constantly just complaining about how hard it is to be a mom and the hassle of having kids. She loves her babies and is a great mom, but she uses her experience to try to get me to wait to have a baby. I'm all for alone married time, but even when I'm pregnant, there's still 9 months till the baby actually comes out lol!

I just don't understand. I know kids can be difficult, but I love HER babies soooo much! I can't wait to see how much more I'll love my own. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Does it make you feel upset... at least a little bit?

Ooohh!! Ive seen this before... I couldnt care much when I was younger... now that I feel ready to have a baby, I do get upset when people only complain, or dont treat their kids the right way. When I was visiting someone, and her baby boy (4 years old) was crying because he didnt want to sleep, all she wanted to do is punish him, but I approached to him, and he told me, he likes to hear a tale before going to bed... he stoped crying, got his tale, and fell asleep. Sometimes, we adults dont listen to kids, and I just hope I dont end up being someone like that!!

Thankfully, in my case, my sister, who is a single mom to a boy, encourages me to have a baby, and she says even tho is hard, she would never trade this experience!