cranberry987
Mum after ttc 16 cycles
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Hi
This is just a rant really.
I feel like theres nowhere I can talk about issues to do with choosing alternative care throughout my pregnancy, ie refusing induction, having a natural birth and even a home birth.
I cant talk about it with friends as 95% of them say offhand jokes or lecture me about how dangerous it is. I feel like I cant be honest on here as this section isnt closed and people who Im complaining about from other sections may read it. My MW is a total cowbag and my relatives are uninformed and judgemental - for example MIL thinks she birthed in a special safe place because she went to a MLU and every time we talk (even tho I dont bring up HB), she reminds me that SIL needed a c section.
My husband is 100% supportive and I have a doula who is great but Im sure she doesnt want to hear from me every day and husband, well, hes a man, he just says itll be fine.
People who choose to have a hospital birth or wishing that they could be allowed to have an ELCS are allowed to talk about their birth choices and anxieties, wheres our opportunity? How are people allowed to be judgemental about my choices but Im not allowed to for theirs. Or am I allowed, should I be turning the situation around and tell them of the higher intervention stats and risks for specific situations. I kinda feel not as I respect their views. Theyve made a decision based on whats right for them. Wheres the equality?
This is just a rant really.
I feel like theres nowhere I can talk about issues to do with choosing alternative care throughout my pregnancy, ie refusing induction, having a natural birth and even a home birth.
I cant talk about it with friends as 95% of them say offhand jokes or lecture me about how dangerous it is. I feel like I cant be honest on here as this section isnt closed and people who Im complaining about from other sections may read it. My MW is a total cowbag and my relatives are uninformed and judgemental - for example MIL thinks she birthed in a special safe place because she went to a MLU and every time we talk (even tho I dont bring up HB), she reminds me that SIL needed a c section.
My husband is 100% supportive and I have a doula who is great but Im sure she doesnt want to hear from me every day and husband, well, hes a man, he just says itll be fine.
People who choose to have a hospital birth or wishing that they could be allowed to have an ELCS are allowed to talk about their birth choices and anxieties, wheres our opportunity? How are people allowed to be judgemental about my choices but Im not allowed to for theirs. Or am I allowed, should I be turning the situation around and tell them of the higher intervention stats and risks for specific situations. I kinda feel not as I respect their views. Theyve made a decision based on whats right for them. Wheres the equality?