People forgetting this is not my first pregnancy

[jess_smurf]

People question me when i first said at 12 weeks can feel movement i got questioned off a friend as if i didnt know what i was talking about

people will say to me this will happen and that will happen and they know i had kristian, just because he wasnt breathing, I went through a whole pregnancy and birth and labour, but people think that my labour was not real IYKWIM

I kinda feel they dont acknowledge he was real in a way ?

 

[Archies Mummy]

This must be so distressing for you, some people are just ignorant. Here if you want to chat hun.

XxX

 

[Mum2bewaiting]

 

[Drazic<3]

That is terrible hun. You went through a pregnancy and a Labour and a birth and you are every bit as much a Mummy. Sending

 

[jess_smurf]

think i am being over sensitive atm hormones!!! lol x

 

[Mum2bewaiting]

over sensitive or not, people need to remember where u have been and be more sensitive to ur needs... it was one of the things that worried me having mc at 11 weeks, so I can only imagine how u feel

 

[AP]

xxx

 

[Cariad_bach]

Hugs hun,

Every time someone tries to tell you something just say "yer i know because when i was pregnant with kristian ect etc etc"
People will soon get the message xxxxx

 

[JASMAK]

 

[maybebaby3]

how horrible! people can be so insensitive, esp after what u have gone thru

 

[meldmac]

I have this too Jess it's so frustrating. It's like they have completely forgotten about our angels

 

[im_mi]

to be honest, i think people LOVE to impart pregnancy/baby advice and knowledge on whoever will listen, regardless of whether you have actually been pregnant or not

I'm sorry it is so upsetting for you darling maybe say something if it is bothering you? or work it into the conversation, like "Yes, well, i know that from when i had Kristian...."

 

[cleckner04]

I'm so sorry hun. It can't be easy and people can be so ignorant about feelings of others sometimes. I agree to just say something like 'yeah with my first pregnancy...'

By the way. Kristian is absolutely beautiful hun.

 

[Jellyt]

I'm so sorry people are so bloody insensitive! I get spoken to like i've never been pregnant before too. It's like because I don't physically have my daughter with me, she was never here at all. I know ignoring things that people say is a lot easier said than done but I do find that mentioning her when people are being pushy with their advice etc usually shuts them up!