people just dont understand

[Jena]

Do y'all ever get ired of hearing it will happen? I mean these women that have had children already keep saying stop thinking about it or god knows when the time is right. I mean I posted on fb that after 3 years of TTC and finding out I have Pecos its hard to hang in there. Does anyone else just want to tell those people to get out your face?

 

[Hope.]

I definitely do! Honestly its super annoying when they start asking you oh are you pregnant after 2-3 years of marriage. I mean if I was I would tell you so shut up! Or don't worry it happen when the time is right! Who asked you to give your opinion, I know I didn't! Me & my husband have been married for 4 years. Trying to conceive for almost 2 years! Its so frustrating! & the people don't help.

 

[Jena]

My favorite thing to hear is that it will happen when god wants it to. I can't help but to think that why do I have to wait and constantly get my heart broken over Bfn every month (doc wants me to test because I have pros and I'm on a few different meds) when all these kids are popping up pregnant or all these women that have no clue as to who they got pregnant by are having kids.

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

Yup. We have only just started TTC but have been married pretty much four years. I get the whole when are you having kids deal quite often. I get the "it will happen when it needs to" or "when the time is right" or "your baby will come to you when they are ready" - all well meaning, but man, not helpful! Keep your positive baby mantras to yourself because they don't help me any! They actually frustrate me more because I know you got pregnant so quickly that you have no idea what it is like to always see the BFN that I have seen throughout our marriage.

 

[Hope.]

Honestly it does bother me when people get pregnant so randomly! I mean HOW? Reading all the stories of hope and struggle on this forum truly makes me mad for the people who dont care for their babies.
Also the people who get pregnant without seeing even one BFN dont have a clue what goes through a woman trying to conceive, everything is taken for granted!

 

[Jena]

A girl I know just had a beautiful baby boy but she did drugs so bad while she was pregnant with him he was born in bad shape. He almost didn't make it. I just ask myself why does she get a baby and I don't. Why is it that she gets blessed with a child so easily and care so little about him when there are women like us that would give anything to have a child.

 

[Hope.]

Sometimes I think that we are put to a test, so that when we are finally blessed with our own little miracle we will appreciate it much more and give it the love and care. If you get things easily you don't value it as much. I hope and pray all of our prayers are answered and we are blessed with our precious babies!

 

[Kkb111211]

Sometimes I think that we are put to a test, so that when we are finally blessed with our own little miracle we will appreciate it much more and give it the love and care. If you get things easily you don't value it as much. I hope and pray all of our prayers are answered and we are blessed with our precious babies!

I totally agree with you! My husband and I have been ttc for just about 2 years now. When we finally do get pregnant I know that we will apreciate him or her all that much more because we had to struggle for it. My mom always tells me that "Good things are worth waiting for, Great things are worth working for." So true in this case.

Sometimes I feel like people just don't know how to act around people with fertility issues. For a while I felt ashamed that we were struggling with this, until I realized that it is not an uncommon thing. So I now speak openly about our fertility issues, no matter what stupid comments I receive. I feel like that's the only way to stop other peoples ignorance.

My aunt actually told me the other day that people who want babies the most end up not being able to have them because they are meant to adopt...I'm all for adoption if/when the time comes.....but seriously? I just felt it was a rude comment.
I wish all you ladies the best!

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

Gosh people say some truly bizarre and insensitive things! What are they like?! People need to engage brain first.

 

[maybababyin13]

It’s the most condescending thing anyone can say to you. We were only trying for 8 months (were currently 10 weeks pregnant) but it honestly felt like 8 years so I can only imagine how you long term try’ers are feeling.

It’s horrible and there really is no answer when people say things like that I know I used to just nod and smile when really I was raging inside!!

And you’re right its always the girls that had zero issues getting pregnant and have no idea what it’s like.

 

[twinkletoes14]

Yes! Totally agree with all your comments! I hate hearing 'just relax, it will happen'. We have been married 4 years and ttc 10 months so far and people are always asking when we're going to have a baby. I just feel like crying every time someone asks me! xx

 

[keep_shinin]

I had someone tell me that they would give me their 3 for a night and I would never want kids again! I was like, REALLY!!!!

Then another person told me, "they are so much trouble though"!

I cannot believe how insensitive people can be!

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

You know what, I think people think that all we want out of this is the annoying kids ten years down the track... that's not what I want.

I want the whole experience: I want the joy of seeing those two lines, the happiness in my husband's eyes when I tell him, the elation from both of our families, I want the excitement of the scans, of the heartbeat, of the baby shower, the anticipation in counting down the months and weeks to the birth of our baby and that pure joy that people talk about when they are born.

I want the whole experience. And having to look after children for a night will NOT make me not want that.

I look after 29 nine and ten year olds all day, every day - that ain't no thang! Haha.

x

 

[cutie_tootie]

Finally some body that understands the struggles of hearing the words, " it will happen sooner or later" or "give it time, even miracles take a little time" yeah yeah yeah i know this, but you arent the ones that has had to wait years for something that you feel as if you will never have right?!. It's so easy for every other person to say when they can have children by "accident"...or they already have 2 or 3 kids and they are trying for another one and it " just wont happen, i think im infertile" uggh people like that just make me a jolly green monster of jealousy, i mean really love and cherish the kids you have and dont come whining to me because you cant have another, when there are people out here who havent even got to experience it once. uggh..sorry i just had to vent...
People just make me so angry...and Finally people understand me..lol...
FingersX for you all and Baby Dust to you, I hope that all of you all get to see your bfp's soon.

 

[vonyu82]

A girl I know just had a beautiful baby boy but she did drugs so bad while she was pregnant with him he was born in bad shape. He almost didn't make it. I just ask myself why does she get a baby and I don't. Why is it that she gets blessed with a child so easily and care so little about him when there are women like us that would give anything to have a child.

I get you!! I watched those documentaries on tv and so many times I have to switch off and move channels.