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People that complain they not getting pregnant, and only been trying for few months

Miaw

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Am I the only that really gets annoyed by this? Seeing someone complaining they are not getting pregnant on the first month or winning ''everyone around me is pregnant'' ''we can't get a baby ourselves'' and they have only been trying for a few months.... less than a year of course.

And I always try and be nice, but inside I'm so sad and angry, like give yourself some damn time please?

They are always complaining that other pregnant girls complain about their pregnancy too and that it not respectful of their emotions? Do they not realize that complaining to someone that has been trying for almost two years or more when they have been at it for 3 months or 5 or 7 is just as bad?

Am I a horrible person for feeling like this? Is it even justified? It's probably just because the lack of baby is making me so bitter inside :(
 
I totally agree with you. It also irks me when friends act like they understand my issues when it took them a whole 6 months or so to get pregnant.
 
Amen to that. 6 months is a very short time, I wish they would realize that.
 
I totally feel the same way!!! I have been trying for about 2 years now, and my cousin has been trying for 3 months, and shes complaining that its taking forever, and its not fair...ummm excuse me??? Taking forever?? Try waiting 2 years hunny...it really pisses me off!!!
 
Infertility has made me ashamed of some of my thoughts, but they are natural.

Whiners annoy me too. For the first 6 months I was happy thinking, a little playmate for my baby, up to a year I was ambivalent and nearly 2 years in I've blocked people off my Facebook.

You can't help how you feel, I've found all you can do is manage to be proud not shouting at people!
 
Hi, girls, I can understand this more than anyone. For me even 2 years or three look like nothing. I have been waiting for a baby for 6 years now. It does hurt....it really hurts.....
 
three yrs here and i cant stand when people cry and whine and they have not even hit a full yr of trying...
the doctors usually say give it a good yr..there is lots to factor into it..timing and what not...lots of people on different schedules..

people dont want to think about that just whine whine whine...oh its no fair i been trying two months and i see others with babies and its not fair...(rolls eyes)
 
Wow I'm glad I'm not alone in my situation. I mean even I realize that I have not yet reached to 2 year mark, and so some people have been trying much longer than I am. I don't want to complain too much. And I did not either when I had only been trying for a few months.

I think you can feel sad no matter how long you have tried, but some people should know better than to complain, and research a little before, may even make them feel better.
 
I deleted my facebook a few months ago. I think I get jelous a lot by seeing everyones happy families. I think I'm a happier person without facebook.
 
I don't think i ever posted it on BnB but i did grumble a bit when ttc wasn't working after 7 or 8 months. Yes it does upset me when i hear people now, that's why ltttc forum is so much better! Even when i am trying to be sensitive, i still manage to put my foot in it without realising and back then i didn't realise how upsetting it would be for a lttc person to hear a 7-months-in ttcer complain. People should be told!
I am already composing my facebook rant for when it finally happens for us. Just to let everyone out there know to be a bit more sensitive to people ttc. It will include things not to say to newlyweds or couples that have been together for 2+ years without a baby and a guide on who not to moan about your pregnancy symptoms to.
Enough scan pictures already! With 17 nieces and nephews, five since we started ttc two years ago i've seen a few. Grrrr!
 
Yes it's bloody annoying...

My mate after month 3 said "isn't it difficult seeing pregnant people" errr 3 months love...come back to me in 3 years...

She got pregnant that cycle
 
I know it's frustrating but remember we were all there once....as soon as you decide you want a family it's all you think about especially at the start when it's all new and every month you think you're pregnant....it's easy to look back now as we get used to bfns and the pain of waiting, but don't be too harsh on new ttcs...x
 
people that seriously moan on there 1st or 2nd even 3rd month annoy me... I have friend that have been in a 3 week long relationship and moaned they're not pregnant yet :wacko: but I just ignore it

I got pregnant with my son the first time so I know we where fertile and very lucky before and despite issues we where told there would be no chance of infertility due to damage so when we started trying I was pretty relaxed for the first 5 months and didn't even really think about it let alone moan about it, then I started recording and tracking so Ive tracked 12 cycles over 14 months

pretty much ALL my friends got pregnant at the same time last year (really like 80% of my friend) so now they all have 5/6 months old, they all talk about how there kids will be best friends and go to school together etc... (and a side not on this, I killed me to see my friend smoking and drinking etc... during pregnancy which most of them did - do you even have any idea how lucky you are?)

sorry this has turned into a self pity post even though I know im lucky compared to others so ill stop now
 
I admit that I complained when DH and I had been TTC for 6 cycles. It felt like FOREVER. It was twice as as many cycles as it had taken pretty much everyone else I knew who had been trying. Most girls were pregnant in the first 3 tries! Shortly after that my irregular cycles became non-existent and we started on this crazy fertility journey. And you know what, it still seems like it's taking too long! :winkwink: I try to remind myself when I see some of those posts that for the average fertile person, six or seven month is a very, very long time- especially nowadays when we're all brought up being told that getting pregnant is the easiest thing in the world.
 
Hello, I have to admit that since I was a child I thought there would be a problem with me getting pregnant. I don't know why. I just felt in this way. So when with my husband decided not to protect I was not surprised that was not getting pregnant. But I started feeling very worried. I remember I was telling my mum that there was something wrong. She was telling me that may be it was just stress, to relax and it would happen (she still thinks like this :shrug: ). The time was passing and nothing..... I did test all fine (years ago). Now we both are testing and I hope we have not very big problem. We are going to understand it on 17 September. Oh, I am so scared. ......
 
Daisyprencess- I was the same as you growing up. I always had an intuitional feeling that I would have trouble-and I am. Good luck to you with your testing and we have to remember to stay positive!
 
Daisyprencess- I was the same as you growing up. I always had an intuitional feeling that I would have trouble-and I am. Good luck to you with your testing and we have to remember to stay positive!

Hi Itrip84, I can't believe there is somebody else like me. Have u ever thought it can be very big part psychological?
 
It has crossed my mind that I might have jinxed myself. I thought I would have trouble getting pregnant, therefore I am.... But I dunno. It's hard to be positive. Some months I am down in the dumps and some months it doesn't bother me AS BAD. It just seems unfathomable (if that's really even a word), that I will some day get to experience a pregnancy and give birth to a healthy child. It all just seems like a dream to me.

I can tell myself to be positive and that it will happen, but how do we change that internal negative way of thinking? It is a possibility it could be psychological, but I don't know how to change it. :(
 
DAISYPRENCESS and ltrip84- I also had that same feeling growing up! It was never a negative thought or anything, just a feeling that I would need IVF. And now here I am in my first IVF cycle. So funny. But in some ways I think it's good, because now that I'm finally doing IVF I feel so positive about it working. it just feels right.

I distinctly remember, when I was about 14 years old, sitting in the school library and reading all about IVF. The process just sounded so cool. Somehow then I knew I'd end up here now, and at the time it just seemed so neat. Women's intuition? I actually wanted to have to do IVF. I didn't realize all the heartache and pain that would lead up to it, and gosh there has been LOT of that, but like I said, now that I'm here, I don't know, it just feels right. Does that sound crazy?

And ltrip84, don't worry yourself too much. The reason that RE's wait a full year to treat IF in because after a year it is not possible that it is due to stress or just psyching yourself out. Yeah, negative thinking can slow things down, but it can't cause straight up infertility. If an RE says you need treatment, it can't just be stress related. I think trying to force yourself to be happy is stressful all by itself, so instead of worrying about feeling negative, just try to do ore things in life that make you happy. <3
 
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I really wouldn't mind knowing I had to have IVF if it wasn't for the expense. Whatever I need to do to have my own child is what I will try. I feel like at this point, I won't ever be completely happy until I get pregnant. I know I will have to live with it if I can't, but it feels like something is missing. Good luck to you with your IVF and thanks so much for being understanding.
 

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