People that complain they not getting pregnant, and only been trying for few months

[tammym1974]

I LOVE,LOVE, LOVE, the fact that someone had the sense to start a thread like this.

I just saw in another forum someone looking for advice because it was there first cycle ttc and af was on the way.

I was going to reply...but couldn't find a way not to come across as completely annoyed with the poster.

I have been off bcp for 5 years, am 39 and still no baby and still have yet to complain. It's very frustrating to have to listen to others who truly have no idea what it is like to try for so long with no success.

Sorry, if I came off as being a little bitchy...but as I type this I hear AF knocking on the door...crampy and cranky. UGH.

See...now I'm complaining!

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

Hi bunyhuny,

I would disagree with u about the stress. It is proven that stress can cause many illnesses. Why not infertility?!!! I really believe that not getting pregnant can be due to stress and tiredness. I don't say that other factors don't contribute. I just think that the cause for the other factors can also be stress.
To be honest I hope this is not my case because I won't know how to cure it .

Good luck with IVF. :* XXXXXX

 

[bunyhuny]

High levels of stress can very occasionally affect ovulation, but not conception or implantation. There are tons of studies proving this. Women in war-torn countries, devastated by famine and disease have children every day. I'm not saying stress is healthy, but that every study ever done has shown that a woman who ovulates or is made to ovulate will not see a decrease in pregnancy odds due to stress. It's not my opinion, it it the published scientific analysis of the situation.

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

https://www.conceiveonline.com/articles/how-stress-affects-fertility

Stress-Related Problems When Trying To Get PregnantThe link between stress and conception is biologically plausible, since both processes begin, and interact with one another, in the brain. One example: The hypothalamus, located in the base of the brain, secretes*gonadotropin-releasing hormone (GnRH), which signals the pituitary gland to release luteinizing hormone (LH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH), triggering ovulation. Under stress, however, the hypothalamus pours out a protein called corticotropin-releasing hormone (CRH), which can reduce or block the GnRH signal to the pituitary, which reduces LH and FSH. “This can lead to not ovulating and irregular or absent menstrual periods,” says Sarah Berga, M.D., professor and chairman of the department of gynecology and obstetrics at the Emory University School of Medicine in Atlanta. Women with a medical condition known as stress-induced anovulation, for example, have a dysfunction in their GnRH signaling system.Stress has other reproductive ramifications. It “can increase the frequency of uterine contractions, which may interfere with implantation, says Sherman Silber, M.D., director of The Infertility Center of St. Louis at St. Luke’s Hospital in Missouri and author of*How to Get Pregnant*(Little Brown & Co., 2005). And it may also affect sperm quality.

 

[bunyhuny]

That's from 2009. There have been several new studies since then. The biggest one, a meta-analysis done in 2011, finds no connection. https://www.amandabears.com/7/post/2011/10/stress-not-causing-infertility.html#.UhTmP-_FDDk “The results showed that stress had no impact on whether a woman became pregnant or not, with women who were stressed becoming pregnant at the same rates as those who were not.” This was the largest sample ever taken.

The article you posted says:

"Before and after her first IVF (in vitro fertilization) cycle in January 2007, she underwent acupuncture and felt surprisingly relaxed, both during the procedure and up until her blood test two weeks later. The results seemed too good to be true. One of the two implanted embryos took, and after more than a decade of trying, Gina was pregnant.

“When I look back, the only thing that seems different is that when we did IVF I was very relaxed,” she says. “If I was still under all the stress I used to be, do I think the procedure would have been effective? Probably not.”"

No the only thing she did that was different was that she did IVF, which has a much higher success rate than any other infertility-managing procedure, and which most likely bypassed whatever the unknown issue she and her husband had. She also did acupuncture, which increases healthy blood flow.

You can't say I had cancer and non-aggressive treatments didn't work, probably because I was so stressed, but when I finally decided to do strong chemo and radiation the cancer went away. It was probably because I wasn't stressed. No. It was because of the chemo and radiation.

 

[Kittymommy]

My family doesn't know how to talk to me about our situation because they are all super fertil. They always refer back to the one sister in law that took 8 months to get pregnant...pause for gasp. I would have loved it if it only taken me 8mths! On the other hand I did get a very heart felt message from my sis saying she was sorry that it's taking us so long and that it must be so hard. Thankyou! Sometimes you just need someone to acknowledge that it sucks what you're going through.

 

[ebonymama]

hello ladies,

i get soo sad when i see post like this for ladies who are waiting years for their bfps.....

i to can relate......OH and i been togerther since 2004 and only ever get a bfp in 2011.............that sadly sadly ended in a stillbirth in early 2012.....

so i jus wanna encourage yall to just hang in there......maybe not focus on it too too much.....

would like to also suggest not be on FB or even on here unless really necessary......it will just make you more sad and depressed

do something fun and happy everyday to keep your mind off it...ya know....

i wish i had more encouraging words though.....

remember yall are truly blessed no matter what....

 

[Hatethewait85]

ltrip84 and DAISYPRENCESS and bunyhuny - I also had the same thoughts!! Although, I didn't think much about it until I was older. I very vividly remember saying to a couple of co-workers that I had a gut feeling I was going to have a hard time (this was over 2 years before I even started ttc!!). Who knew a woman's intuition could be so spot on! Or perhaps it is a jinxing thing, who knows?! Either way, I would much rather that my intuition have been wrong! As awesome as the science is that allows this to even be possible (and I am totally grateful it exists!), this is super stressful!

Good luck on your journey's! I hope a BFP is right around the corner for each of you!