You're right. I didn't know the situation.
From your post it seemed like you were just being an ungrateful brat.
I'm not "picking on you". I was expressing an opinion that it seemed that you were being quite hard on your sister-in-law for no apparent reason. Everyone else on this thread has been fine with saying "thanks, but no thanks" to stuff people want to give them. You're the only one who took it as a personal insult. I found it insulting that you seem to think that anyone who takes gifts for their children doesn't want "the best" for their child. Or is so stupid and ignorant that they wouldn't know better than to just keep it in a bin in the backyard.
I gratefully accepted a bassinet from a friend. That does NOT mean (as you imply) that I otherwise would have kept my child in the back yard.
You could easily have said that you don't get along with your sister-in-law, because she is legitimately horrible, and that is why you didn't like her offering you things. I get that. I don't take things from my MIL because she is horrible. She told me I was "barren" because God knew that I would be a bad mother. She has abused and neglected her children for their whole lives. She gets things out of dumpsters and gives them to my husband. Anything she gives us goes straight to the dumpster (where it came from). You could have said ANYTHING that implied that there was a personal reason for not accepting her things.
That's not what you said. All you said was that you refused perfectly good, useful things, from your sister-in-law because it was her "old shit" and you felt insulted by her even offering.
So, sorry for interpreting your comment as I did. I did so because that's all that was written. Clearly there are other issues at hand that I couldn't have known about.
I really really don't know why you'd call a complete stranger an ungrateful brat or say that you "thought she was being one".. I think you are being a judgemental twit - I'm sure that's ok with you since you think name calling is appropriate. Since we are being honest and all..
You don't have to know the "whole" story behind her not accepting clothes from people.. That's what this thread is about - do we or don't we like hand me downs ---- not to berate those who don't agree with us.. Maybe she is an ungrateful brat? What's it to you?? Are you the "let's be thankful for all we are offered in life" police? So what - I've seen lots of women around who are plenty ungrateful for the things they have in life and none of it has to do with hand me down baby clothes.. (cars, cottages, homes, diamonds)..
Not used baby clothes..