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[pinkribbon]

Yeah I do. Because I've found stuff that shouldn't be there in the past out of chance when I looked at it when he was asleep. If I hadn't have checked I wouldn't have known and I guess I'm a bit paranoid it'll happen again.

 

[tasha41]

I don't really look through his phone, if he has a message I'll check it and tell him what it is, then sometimes have a little look through, but I trust him.. I know he's not up to anything bad really.. it's just boredom mostly lol. I'd say maybe 1 time per month.

I've never caught a cheating BF looking through their phone. I caught my ex on his MSN... a girl popped up he promised me he blocked & deleted and said hi, then I read his chatlog and it was really brutal.

 

[JellyBeann]

Every so often I go through hubby's phone, not beccause I don't trust him, but because I'm either bored, nosey or a bit of both lol!

 

[Kailynnsmommy]

i still go through FOBs phone because he lies to me a lot and thats usually one of the ways i can find out if hes lying or not

 

[amandad192]

I don't go through my OH's phone. There would be no point. He has a cheap piece of crap that will only hold about 10 texts so he deletes every text as soon as he's read it. He never has credit because if he needs to make a call or text he will just use my contract phone. I know his facebook password, his msn password and all the details to get onto his online banking, but I don't go on any of them unless he asks me to look at something for him. His ex (of about 2/3 years ago) has been getting a bit jealous of us because we have Liam. She wanted his babies but he said No. ( ) She made a comment to him about how "that could have been us." He saved the whole convo and showed me it. I trust him 100% and don't feel the need to check up on him.

However I had checked exes phones because I didn't trust them. Coming up to my 15th birthday I decided I ready for "it" and told my bf of the time I wanted him to take my V on my birthday. 4 days before I was told by a mutual friend to read his texts, and that was when I found out that he was cheating on me with about 6 other girls. And another ex, the one I did actually loose my V too, I checked his phone once and found texts saying "Good night my sexy teddy bear. I love you loads."

 

[Abigailly]

I have once, and if I knew the password I would again. I know he would give me the symbol if I asked, I just don't want him to think I'm still paranoid!

His ex was still almost stalking him, me and him were having an awful patch, he stayed one night, I had a look at his phone and I found things that were worse than him cheating. He'd pretty much told her to back off, but they were still discussing his family and how they would react to me (as I'm 11 years younger than him) and that his mum would be giving him a piece of her mind etc. But the owrst bit was, she asked if he loved me, he never answered she asked her again and he replied 'NO'. The capitals and everything. Honestly broke my heart. But we're getting back on track, but I don't want to see that again.

 

[amandad192]

I have once, and if I knew the password I would again. I know he would give me the symbol if I asked, I just don't want him to think I'm still paranoid!

His ex was still almost stalking him, me and him were having an awful patch, he stayed one night, I had a look at his phone and I found things that were worse than him cheating. He'd pretty much told her to back off, but they were still discussing his family and how they would react to me (as I'm 11 years younger than him) and that his mum would be giving him a piece of her mind etc. But the owrst bit was, she asked if he loved me, he never answered she asked her again and he replied 'NO'. The capitals and everything. Honestly broke my heart. But we're getting back on track, but I don't want to see that again.

Ouch. That would hurt much more than being cheated on! Glad things are getting better though.

 

[Katumz]

Well my bf is what you call a pretty boy and he is also a little flirt. Needless to say girls just follow him around. Luckily I know that he loves me and yes iv read his texts before and most of them are about magic the gathering or video games lol. I don't worry about him and he doesn't gave to worry bout me.

 

[lily123]

If i had an OH then i definitely wouldn't go through his phone, and i haven't with any of my exes. I could understand a person doing it if they had genuine suspicions, but i personally would HATE it if my OH went through my phone... Not because i'm hiding something, just because it's MY phone and i would possibly see it as an invasion of privacy, so i wouldn't do it to him.

Not saying that my opinion is right or wrong, it's just my opinion xx

 

[AngelzTears]

I think I may have once before. He doesn't really text very much, maybe once or twice a day and usually I can see who it's from if I lean over.
Though I have gone through his computer on several occasions. Never found anything bad, the only thing that ever made me feel bad was he looked at a bunch of pictures of one of my friends from facebook. She's extremely pretty, perfect body and all that. It made me feel awkward, especially since she's my friend and he doesn't even know her. But that's nothing really, I'm just glad I didn't find anything that was actually bad lol.

 

[KrisKitten]

i dont on principle..but i have to admit once or twice its got the better of me lol.
i never ever ever used to, but the first time i did was when there was a lot of flirting going on with a 'friend' (needless to say ex friend now)..and it was to check up on her more than him honestly.
I didnt do it very discreetly though, and it was an accident. I was at his house and bored while he was playing a game so i asked if i could look at his phone and he properly snapped back 'why??'
Now my original intentions was to look at his pics and see what he had taken (innocently) maybe play a game or something..but the way he snapped at me (lol hes none too bright sometimes) struck my alert button so i asked him what he was hiding, the useless liar tried but i amde him gimme the phone and i looked through the messages to find a ton from this 'friend' discussing what would happen if and when he broke up with me etc etc.
i was not a happy bunny, and he only got away with it because he didnt actually flirt back...he got in major trouble for not telling her where to go though!
Then since he cheated in november iv had the odd peek...and once i found an upsetting text (that was later sorted)
It totally screwed me up though...i was so pissed and wanted to ask im wat it was about but i couldnt coz i didnt want him to know i was looking through his phone!

OH knows (i think) that i dont though...i have only once or twice more out of boredom than anything..im 99% sure hes looked through mine..though not now, lol who the hells gonna be interested in me now
Hed be screwed if i ever caught him doing something without having told me...he knows that the worst thing he could possibly do to me is not tell me hes done something lol.
I hate not knowing things, and they always find a way of coming out in the end...and its always a million times worse to 'find out' than be told...makes you feel like a total idiot.
He shouldnt be making that mistake again xxx

 

[daniellelk]

I used to look through my OH's phone, when I was still having trouble trusting people after my EX, but that was mainly to see if he had added any more pictures of lasses (big issue we had when we first got together) in next to nothing. But I can honestly say I haven't looked in his pictures/message's or phone book in months!
Think i'v surprised my self, as he's just started a new job and met loads of new people :S


I didn't used to check my EX's phone until we split up and got back together, then I only started to check it because I answered his phone one evening (even tho he liturally faught with me to stop me getting it), and it was some lass who he'd been and stopped at one weekend (told me he was in skeggy) while we had been split up, and she said they had slept together (fair enough we wasn't together) and she sent me pic's of him in her bed. He told me he had been in skeggy with his mate, not in some lasses bed.
Then one night when we was baby sitting, he turned his phone of, so I turned it on while he was in the toilet (He never turns his phone off!!!) and this other lass was texting about meeting him the next day (while I was working), he admitted he met her once when we split up but tried to deni the text in his sent box that asked her to meet him the following day.
I text her, and told her that we was back together and she wouldn't accept it! We split up a few month's later, even tho these lasses/women had stopped texting him.
He admitted a few day's after I left him that he'd still been seeing one of the lasses and sleeping with her while I was working, and reason why I didn't know with his phone was because they had been texting his mum + dad's phones!! Sly twat.

 

[Maddiee]

I have gone through OH texts accidentally. Kinda.
I was going through his games and apps and a message popped up from his mum so I read it, replied to it which in turn opens up the inbox. I didn't go through it or look at it. I trust him and I know he doesn't text girls or his friends because he never has his phone, I always have it

 

[AP]

I have.

And when I couldn't , I checked phone bills. But I always had my reasoning. And god, I was right. I would never have found out otherwise

We have an agreement now where the phones are open to each other, so there is no reason not to trust each other. But that is down to behaviour in the past, otherwise it would ever have got this far.

 

[hopeandpray]

i know that he's not cheating on me and never will, seriously at the start of our relationship when it was long distance and not very serious i told him i didn't mind if he dated other girls but he said he couldnt do that to me. he was horrified lol i look through his phone, but given the chance i would look through anyones, im just super super nosy. he understands that! as a present once he gave me a diary he had kept for a year. it was amazing

 

[leoniebabey]

I wouldnt even go there because if on the chance i did find something i wouldnt want to admit i'd been snooping about and i'd not know how to go about bringing it up

so what i dont know wont hurt me ...

 

[AP]

Sod having to own up to snooping if his crime is worse!!!!!!!!

 

[katekatekate]

I want to say I don't look through my OH's phone, but I do - because we share a phone. He's on contract so when I need to text people it's cheaper to use his instead of mine. I have a really cheap phone for emergencies that I keep in my bag incase I ever go out without him. Saying that though, I don't read his texts. If his phone goes off and I happen to have it, I just read the name that comes up and if it's for him I let him know. I could snoop if I wanted, but I don't see how he could even try and hide anything from me considering that I can have access to it whenever I want (I take all of my photos with it so I always have it when Robyn is awake just incase something amazing happens lol). We also have each others passwords for everything and we share finances (income, bills, everything). Infact right now I have his bank card in my purse because I took it to go food shopping. We're two people in a relationship and we share everything. I have no reason to not trust him.