Please, August, do not taunt- it's BFPs that we want!

[morganwhite7]

Morning Ladies

Okay so just pre-planning this TTC cycle as always, and realized I will O next week Tues/Wed/Thurs hopefully. During O week I always go crazy, as I'm sure most of you understand, but this week will be very hard with every BD day in the middle of my work week. Sooo I am going to MAKE SURE this time that I BD morning and night all 3 days. Yes I'm crazy. But I want this baby and am willing to do whatever!!! Lol. Also trying Softcups this time round.. and advice? Just thought they'd be a good idea for before-work sex.. Hehe this is so exciting. I love feeling lucky again

OH YEAH, and we got THANKSGIVING DAY tickets to see the Steelers!!! It's for DH's birthday, which is the 28th. It will be freeeezing! Haha that was my first thought when he told me, I was like wtf but I'll be 4 months pregnant and in a snowsuit?!?

 

[HWPG]

good mornign morgan and all!
i hear you on the bd-fest. in fact, as i've said, OH is going away this weekend and i was like, "starting monday, Sexfest" so we've been calling next week Sexfest. you are ambitious with 2x per day. i think i'll Ov about thurs/fri/sat of next week, so i'm hoping monday- wed- friday saturday, unless a pos opk! i LOVE softcups, i highly recommend them. for new people, best to be put in laying down on your back. then scoop the cup from the back to the front (or bottom to top, however you visualize it) and then use a finger to "lock" it in, in the front, behind the bone/sticky out piece. once it is in place, just leave it, dont try to adjust it or anything, or it will leak. it takes a couples times, in fact you might want to waste one with a practice, but once you get the hang of it, your work day will be completely different, i promise! GL to us both!

 

[NoGreaterLove]

good mornign morgan and all!
i hear you on the bd-fest. in fact, as i've said, OH is going away this weekend and i was like, "starting monday, Sexfest" so we've been calling next week Sexfest. you are ambitious with 2x per day. i think i'll Ov about thurs/fri/sat of next week, so i'm hoping monday- wed- friday saturday, unless a pos opk! i LOVE softcups, i highly recommend them. for new people, best to be put in laying down on your back. then scoop the cup from the back to the front (or bottom to top, however you visualize it) and then use a finger to "lock" it in, in the front, behind the bone/sticky out piece. once it is in place, just leave it, dont try to adjust it or anything, or it will leak. it takes a couples times, in fact you might want to waste one with a practice, but once you get the hang of it, your work day will be completely different, i promise! GL to us both!

What exactly are softcups? Sorry if it's a silly question.

 

[frsttimemama]

Thank you all! As far as it happening again, its as unlikely to happen again as it was to happen in the first place, BUT we will be checking for it via ultrasound, going to a specialist to be checked for it via more sensitive dopplars and ultrasound, and having a scheduled c-section justand in case. Had it been detected the first time, we would have just had a c-section and everything would have been fine. There is a 1.1% chance in single baby pregnancy and about 8% chance in twin pregnancy .. it was just a freak thing unfortunately. We are optimistic that it wont happen again. I started temping yesterday, and started doing OPK's on Monday. I found yesterday that mine are much darker in tje morning, probably because I drink so much (2-3 liters of lemon water per day not counting anything else I have ), and so even holding it for a few hours, it's maybe still too dilute? Anyway, the one yesterday morning was almost positive and todays is lighter. Maybe I missed it on Monday or Tuesday morning and it doesn't show well in the afternoon like I am thinking? Ugh! Either way, I'm a little bit excited because my cycles before getting pregnant were irregular, I'm glad my body may be doing something that it should be! Just have to wait and see I guess.

Congrats, Rachel!! So exciting! I'm sure everything will be perfectly fine.

 

[frsttimemama]

Morgan, good luck!! So ambitious! I seriously doubt hubby would be up for it in the mornings like that. He is SO not a morning person. Lol. I can't wait to be able to plan it though. Right now qe just are trying to BD every other day or so, which is pretty typical.

I was wondering about soft cups, too.

 

[HWPG]

https://softcup.com/
softcups are technically for your period. think of those "livestrong" bracelets with saran wrap in the center. so they are flexible and you push the sides of the circle together (so it makes like an hourglass shape) and you slide it into your body. for your period, it collects the blood and you take it out and throw it away. for ttc, it's supposed to hold the sperm closer to the cervix after sex, especially if you dont have time to lay about afterwards. plus, on the non-ttc front, if you have sex and then need to get up and do something (work, exercise, anything), it keeps all that goo inside an dyou dont have to worry about leaking at any moment or feeling wet/gross/sticky/etc. they are awesome. but tricky. but so awesome.
does that help at all?

 

[HWPG]

and you can wear them for hours. i think like 12 hours or something, so they are not dangerous like tampons. also very good for sex on your period/right after your period, when it's a little more..... the after-effects can be less than desirable.

 

[morganwhite7]

"livestrong" bracelets with saran wrap- Bahaha spot on!! And BD 2x a day is just a wish!! Haha I'm sure that will not happen, but I can try Sexfest for us next week, too. Hope I don't get ahead of myself, I'm usually BD'd out a day before O. Did you use those Softcups this past cycle by any chance?

Here's my dilemma.. Okay so I am just going to go ahead and buy ANOTHER Answer OPK w/ preggo test included ($20) and the Softcups too. But do I need to buy Preseed also?! We both have FINE fertility, no sperm/egg/motility/quality issues. But I'm worried the Softcups will kill sperm. I read that there was a study done and the Softcups w/ Preseed were the only ones with remaining sperm still alive. Lol so just wondering if I'd be better to not use em?? Lol maybe I'll stick to using em when I have to leave in the morning.. half and half. I feel like an experiment.. lol.

 

[HWPG]

yeah, i think half and half will work, morgan. i pretty much always use preseed - and not becuase i dont have ewcm, just because sometimes it takes me longer to warm up, and sometimes he doesnt take that time..... ykwim? plus, preseed doesnt *hurt* so i say "why not?". preseed is expensive; i wouldnt worry about it in your shoes.

 

[asmcsm]

I guess the just needed a little time to warm up. She's definitely hitting full force now. My back is killing me. Onto the next cycle! FX it will be easier than the last one

 

[HWPG]

so sorry ashlee. damn witch! hope you take meds/heating pad and can rest.

 

[NoGreaterLove]

Mirolee - Soft cups sound interesting. Are they disposable?

Ashlee - Sorry to hear about AF.

 

[RobertRedford]

Question: Do you all find using opks helpful or stressful? My husband and I made the decision to start charting my temperatures last month, but that's all we do. I don't want to take the fun out of conceiving, but I would like to know if I'm ovulating and if it's consistent each month.

I have mixed feelings about OPK's. I love them because I get clear positives and have a really good idea of when I O, because I do not temp. OKP's also stress me out because I get this crazy anxiety about ahving sex enough, etc.

Hcg was 47. Is that good for 11 dpo?

Yep. As long as it doubles regularly, then it doesn't matter what the number is. Congrats, lady!

I guess the just needed a little time to warm up. She's definitely hitting full force now. My back is killing me. Onto the next cycle! FX it will be easier than the last one

Oh no! I am so sorry. I really hope your next cycle is normal. we all had wacky cycles this month-- mine was 40 days!!

Nichole, any sign of AF?

Happy Friday, ladies! beta was negative. not surprising. but, my doctor did suggest that we run a hormone panel to see why I am having these symptoms. I just ordered OH herbs to (hopefully) help his little guys. I am also going to use OPK's again this cycle, so I can have an idea of when I O, versus guessing.

 

[frsttimemama]

Happy Friday, ladies! beta was negative. not surprising. but, my doctor did suggest that we run a hormone panel to see why I am having these symptoms. I just ordered OH herbs to (hopefully) help his little guys. I am also going to use OPK's again this cycle, so I can have an idea of when I O, versus guessing.

I hope you get some answers!

 

[NoGreaterLove]

Robert - That's the thing I don't want to be stressed out. Last month I didn't know where I was in my cycle and I loved it!

I hope you get some answers soon. What herbs does your husband take?

 

[Disneybaby26]

Ashlee-so sorry about AF! My first cycle after MC was horrible too but this one was sooooo much better so ill bet everything will be much better now!!

I think I Od yesterday!! So awesome, an so excited for a normal cycle!! Feeling so optimistic!!

 

[RobertRedford]

Robert - That's the thing I don't want to be stressed out. Last month I didn't know where I was in my cycle and I loved it!

I hope you get some answers soon. What herbs does your husband take?

I normally don't mind, but my cycle ended up being realllllllly long (40 days versus the usual 29) so it was reallly frustrating! We're going to try Chinese herbs. The formulas are called :

five ancestors wu zi yan zong wan
you gui wan
jin kui shen qi wen

 

[morganwhite7]

Lol Amanda those names sound lethal!! (Jk but seriously people, say each of those names aloud, I just did it and am LOLing IRL!! Haha)

 

[RobertRedford]

Lol Amanda those names sound lethal!! (Jk but seriously people, say each of those names aloud, I just did it and am LOLing IRL!! Haha)

Lol, I know! I called the local whole foods to see if they carried them and couldnt stop giggling, I knew i was butchering the names, haha.

 

[RobertRedford]

Off topic, but for the ladies on here to run, do you have a favorite pair of running shoes? Mine are getting worn out and I can't decide on a new pair!