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[Jordans_Mom94]

My OH & i Have always had kind of a rocky relationship.
But it seems like all of a sudden i do everything wrong in his opinion.
He gets mad at me for no apparent reason at all.
His excuse is always "because you pissed me off"
im SO tired of feeling watching every thing i say And Do To Prevent from pissing him off.
Even when i dont even do anything to him he will get mad and just blow me off.
But when im mad he says "its my fault i shouldve never made him do that" instead of just taking responsibility for his actions.
its time for him to grow up, He's Having a Freakin Baby..
It just seems like he purposely picks fights with me and i feel like im just getting pushed further and further away
im tired of doing so much for him and not getting anything in return.
&& Him acting all suspicious does not help the fact of how insecure i am.
we used to have the kind of relationship where i dont talk to guys and he doesnt talk to girls then all of a sudden he started coming up with excuses to talk to them (since he does tattoos)
&& he would really get mad at me when i tell him he cant do any tattoos on females that are too close to their girl parts.
Then he starts going through this phase where he suddenly wants to be with his friends instead of me and i understand that because when LO arrives i expect him to be with us all that he can.
The problem i have is his friends are unloyal to their girlfriends and always says stuff like "i control him" & they even refer to me as his "Mommy" and he just laughs about it.
When he's with his friends he makes dumb decisions and acts all wierd like not answering or anything. then he gets mad when i ask what he's doing and im mad that he couldnt even answer.
He accuses me CONSTANTLY of being with other guys and gets mad when i accuse him even if im playing.

idk what to do because i LOVE HIM with all my heart and i want him to be here for LO and i but im tired of being unappreciated. i go out of my way for him and he cant so much as give me a thanks or i love you he claims "he's not that kind of person" when i know he is because he was before

Getting pregnant just screwed up our whole relationship.

im so upset and frustrated i dont even know what to do. Even when i try and talk to him about it he gets mad and claims he isnt doing nothing wrong.

Sorry For The Rant But i Didnt know where else to let it out at.

 

[celestek89]

Aw hun im sorry your going through such a shit time atm!! My ex used to be alot like that...my best advice is to maybe have some time apart...make him miss you so to speak. When he realises how good he's got it, he may change the way he talks to you and treats you. You've obviously told him your unhappy with the way he treats you, so maybe its best to show him. I hope things get better for you, feel free to PM me if you ever need to chat xox

 

[better2gether]

I think one of two things. Either he is "acting out" because he is scared of having a baby or he is cheating.

Do you think he would cheat?

I personally just think he is having a hard time growing up. I've seen it happen to a lot of women, no matter how old their OH is. I've seen guys do the constantly going out thing, being unreachable, etc. Under normal circumstances it would seem like these guys are cheating... But with their women pregnant, it seems more like these dudes are realizing they won't have guy time as much anymore, if at all. That really threatens a guy's identity. Hence why his jerk friends call you "mommy" and your boyfriend laughs along. He has to look cool, calm, and collected to his friends, like he controls what he does, not you and the baby.

However, him accusing you, a 33 week pregnant woman, of messing around on HIM, is really fishy in my eyes. Unless he is a very insecure person himself?

He definitely has no business tattooing girls in any inappropriate places... If he can't stop, he isn't respecting you.

I really hope things turn around and he stops being an ass. You don't deserve this stress.

 

[Ablaski17]

totally agree with better2getherrr !

 

[Jordans_Mom94]

I think one of two things. Either he is "acting out" because he is scared of having a baby or he is cheating.

Do you think he would cheat?

I personally just think he is having a hard time growing up. I've seen it happen to a lot of women, no matter how old their OH is. I've seen guys do the constantly going out thing, being unreachable, etc. Under normal circumstances it would seem like these guys are cheating... But with their women pregnant, it seems more like these dudes are realizing they won't have guy time as much anymore, if at all. That really threatens a guy's identity. Hence why his jerk friends call you "mommy" and your boyfriend laughs along. He has to look cool, calm, and collected to his friends, like he controls what he does, not you and the baby.

However, him accusing you, a 33 week pregnant woman, of messing around on HIM, is really fishy in my eyes. Unless he is a very insecure person himself?

He definitely has no business tattooing girls in any inappropriate places... If he can't stop, he isn't respecting you.

I really hope things turn around and he stops being an ass. You don't deserve this stress.

i dont think he would cheat but then again i cant imagine myself actually admitting reality that it is quite possible seeing how im a huge pregnant cow and he doesnt even see me anymore hardly.
As for his insecurities he is VERY VERY insecure but he even says stuff like what if LO comes out and its not his when he knows very well he is the only person i have ever been sexually involved with.

the more i think about it. it is most likely that he's cheating. im to the point where im done with the emotional distress and if he is he needs to come clean so i can be over it when LO comes.
i dont even know what to do anymore he doesnt listen to anything i have to say and doesnt even care about my feelings. he wont even say he loves me on his own anymore he only says it cause i say it first. i cant believe this is Actually happening to me of all people.
i fell for his lies and his sweet words when in reality he's like every other player guy in this world

i feel really dumb now.

 

[~Mummy~]

Getting pregnant just screwed up our whole relationship.

Awww please don't feel like that. If your relationship isn't working out now then it was probably not going to work out, pregnant or not.
If you've let him know that you feel unappreciated and he has done nothing about it then maybe it's time to consider taking a break. It's not nice being in a relationship where you're treading on eggshells not knowing if you're doing something he considers ''wrong''. If talking doesn't help, maybe a few days apart will make him see what he's missing.
Sending you lots of

 

[better2gether]

A break sounds like a good idea. Would you consider that? Try it and see how it works out. See how he reacts and if his attitude changes at all. And that way you can get some breathing room and do some thinking of your own. You and your little boy Jordan need rest and relaxation!

 

[AriannasMama]

I agree, take a break, I don't know if he is cheating or not, it seems like he is just freaking out that the baby will be here soon and he wont be able to have his "guy time". Im sure it will all be ok

 

[lily123]

Sounds like you need to have serious words with him hun!
He really should be treating you like this, and there's really no excuse. He may be scared about the baby coming, but honestly him acting out like this isn't going to help anything! So yeah definitely let him know how he's making you feel, and encourage him to share his feelings too x x x

 

[cabaretmum2b]

Awh hun, I'm so sorry this has happened. Whatever you do, don't think that your pregnancy screwed up your relationship - he's the one screwing it up, and he needs to realise that. I agree with the others who have said that you should go on a break and see how you both feel after that - it could do your relationship the world of good, or you could decide you're better off apart, in which case you can hopefully leave on good terms so he can still be there for the baby without things being difficult between you.
Good luck with whatever you decide hun x