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just miscarried, trying
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1. please can you tell me about your expereinces of medically induced miscarraige?
2. AND ESPECIALLY the likleyhood of conceiving again quickly?
3. i've heard women are at their most fertile within 6 weeks-3months of delivery? i want to try again straight away.
I was so excited at the news of my first pregnancy- i didn't even know i was preganant until 13weeks. i can't bear the pain of the loss of my baby boy at 20 weeks. It's true that i've only known for 7weeks but i've fallen in love with my baby and desperately want him back. i was told he died at about 16-17weeks and had to have a medically induced miscarraige on Thursday (less than 48 hours ago). i'm so sad and have been up since just after 4am this morning crying.
Here is what happened on to me for those of you who would like to know about medically induced miscarraiges:
i returned yesterday (Fri 11th Sept 09) from the hospital after induced labour of my miscarried baby boy at 20 weeks. I had a scan, which i was so excited about on Tues 9th Sept, which was my 21st week of pregnancy. The consultant was quiet and asked me if i noticed anything different about the baby. i said i thought he was a bit still, since he was rolling over and moving around at my last scan abroad at 16weeks. He told me the fetus had demised. I covered my face and just could not stop crying for ages. An hour later, I moved to a ward and took a tablet. then 2 days later, i was given 4 vaginal tablets to start off the labour and paracetelmol via a drip. 20 mins later the pain began. I had agreed by prior arrangement with the doc that if i needed it, the nurses should give me as much pethadin as i wanted/can safely take. they shot me with pethadin 5 mins after the pain began. didn't work. i was in terrible pain and was crying. they shot me a 2nd time with pethadin and then another 20mins later another shot of pethadin. it was my 1st pregnancy. i was in terrible pain and crying unstoppably at this point. the pethadin wasn't strong enough for me. my pain theshold for sudden expected pain is great, but with ongoing pain, I cave. my partner was panicked and i had never been to any antinatal classes due to being so early in pregnancy and being my 1st of course. then doc came in and said it was not safe to administer any more pethadin. he was talking to my boyfriend who was an angel and right beside me all the time. then doc came back with Nitrous Oxide (the gas they have in some dental surgeries). i was hysterical with pain, both emotional given that i knew i would have no baby to take home at the end of all this pain, and physical. the emotional pain came flooding back with the intense physical pain of labour. 30 seconds after i started on the gas i was silent and totally stoned. my boyfriend couldn't believe it. i had gone from being in uncontrollable screaming pain to cracking jokes! the pain, both emotional and physical seemed to be there, but so far away from my concious mind. I am so glad for the Nitrous Oxide gas, the pain was maddening. i had no bleeding which is what the nurses were waiting for to indicate the baby was near-ish. they were worried since my pain seemed too great considering i had no bleeding yet. 10-15mins before the baby came, in spite of the gas, the pain began to get more intense and i started to panick and feel it all. There was no bleeding at all (but then my period is very light- only lasts 1 day every 32-33 days- perhaps this has some relation), then the baby came and pain stoppped immediately. the whole ordeal had lasted 6hours by this time from insertion of tablets to delivery. 10mins later the placenta came and it was over. very very sad. one of the worst things that has ever happened to me. they let me finish the remaining gas, since they understood the emotional pain was intense for me. i feel much better for delivering naturally only because i feel good that i could see him which would have been impossible with a d and c procedure, which was the alternative, i realise now. i wasn't told about the alternative, which i'm glad about since natural delivery poses less infection and complication risks and better faciliates future pregnancies, but emotionally it was a ROLLERCOASTER. it's been like a heavy period afterwards and now Im bleeding lightly. I feel a tad sore in my lower abdomen and can't walk quickly since it feels kind of open down there but not cut or torn AT ALL. i've been on no painkillers since the delivery (except the gas that they let me finish- there was only 10-20mins worth left).
To Our Beloved Baby Boy, who will never be gone in our Hearts and Minds.
We were awaiting your arrival in January 2010, with a zest too great for this world. But this we promise, our love for you will keep you immortal until the day we see you again.
Love Mummy and Daddy
2. AND ESPECIALLY the likleyhood of conceiving again quickly?
3. i've heard women are at their most fertile within 6 weeks-3months of delivery? i want to try again straight away.
I was so excited at the news of my first pregnancy- i didn't even know i was preganant until 13weeks. i can't bear the pain of the loss of my baby boy at 20 weeks. It's true that i've only known for 7weeks but i've fallen in love with my baby and desperately want him back. i was told he died at about 16-17weeks and had to have a medically induced miscarraige on Thursday (less than 48 hours ago). i'm so sad and have been up since just after 4am this morning crying.
Here is what happened on to me for those of you who would like to know about medically induced miscarraiges:
i returned yesterday (Fri 11th Sept 09) from the hospital after induced labour of my miscarried baby boy at 20 weeks. I had a scan, which i was so excited about on Tues 9th Sept, which was my 21st week of pregnancy. The consultant was quiet and asked me if i noticed anything different about the baby. i said i thought he was a bit still, since he was rolling over and moving around at my last scan abroad at 16weeks. He told me the fetus had demised. I covered my face and just could not stop crying for ages. An hour later, I moved to a ward and took a tablet. then 2 days later, i was given 4 vaginal tablets to start off the labour and paracetelmol via a drip. 20 mins later the pain began. I had agreed by prior arrangement with the doc that if i needed it, the nurses should give me as much pethadin as i wanted/can safely take. they shot me with pethadin 5 mins after the pain began. didn't work. i was in terrible pain and was crying. they shot me a 2nd time with pethadin and then another 20mins later another shot of pethadin. it was my 1st pregnancy. i was in terrible pain and crying unstoppably at this point. the pethadin wasn't strong enough for me. my pain theshold for sudden expected pain is great, but with ongoing pain, I cave. my partner was panicked and i had never been to any antinatal classes due to being so early in pregnancy and being my 1st of course. then doc came in and said it was not safe to administer any more pethadin. he was talking to my boyfriend who was an angel and right beside me all the time. then doc came back with Nitrous Oxide (the gas they have in some dental surgeries). i was hysterical with pain, both emotional given that i knew i would have no baby to take home at the end of all this pain, and physical. the emotional pain came flooding back with the intense physical pain of labour. 30 seconds after i started on the gas i was silent and totally stoned. my boyfriend couldn't believe it. i had gone from being in uncontrollable screaming pain to cracking jokes! the pain, both emotional and physical seemed to be there, but so far away from my concious mind. I am so glad for the Nitrous Oxide gas, the pain was maddening. i had no bleeding which is what the nurses were waiting for to indicate the baby was near-ish. they were worried since my pain seemed too great considering i had no bleeding yet. 10-15mins before the baby came, in spite of the gas, the pain began to get more intense and i started to panick and feel it all. There was no bleeding at all (but then my period is very light- only lasts 1 day every 32-33 days- perhaps this has some relation), then the baby came and pain stoppped immediately. the whole ordeal had lasted 6hours by this time from insertion of tablets to delivery. 10mins later the placenta came and it was over. very very sad. one of the worst things that has ever happened to me. they let me finish the remaining gas, since they understood the emotional pain was intense for me. i feel much better for delivering naturally only because i feel good that i could see him which would have been impossible with a d and c procedure, which was the alternative, i realise now. i wasn't told about the alternative, which i'm glad about since natural delivery poses less infection and complication risks and better faciliates future pregnancies, but emotionally it was a ROLLERCOASTER. it's been like a heavy period afterwards and now Im bleeding lightly. I feel a tad sore in my lower abdomen and can't walk quickly since it feels kind of open down there but not cut or torn AT ALL. i've been on no painkillers since the delivery (except the gas that they let me finish- there was only 10-20mins worth left).
To Our Beloved Baby Boy, who will never be gone in our Hearts and Minds.
We were awaiting your arrival in January 2010, with a zest too great for this world. But this we promise, our love for you will keep you immortal until the day we see you again.
Love Mummy and Daddy
