Please help!!!

[furr76]

Hi all! Just a quick question - My husband really loves the name Stanley but my family have made it perfectly clear by unthinking comments that they dislike the name. My mother has gone as far as to say she thinks we are giving him a disadvantage from birth calling him Stanley! I am very happy for my Hubby to give our son the name he prefers but he keeps on changing his mind because of other peoples comments

Please can you give any advice on what to do!!

Also can I have some honest opinions on the name - Stanley Benjamin Francis.

Thanks xxx

 

[amethyst77]

There's nothing wrong with Stanley at all. If hubby loves it and you're happy with it go for it.
xx

 

[Belle]

I LOVE Stanley!!

 

[someoldgirl]

It's a great name and I for one think your family sound incredibly rude! I always take issue with people who are openly negative about names that they know people really like.

Personally we wouldn't change our LOs name no matter what people said.

I really love the name!x

 

[fairy_gem]

It's cute, go for it!!

x

 

[CedarWood]

I am not keen but i do say if you like the name - use it

 

[LunaRose]

If you love it, use it! People will get used the name when baby comes

 

[bethanchloe]

I wanted Stanley if I was having a boy but my partner has a son called Oliver so I couldn't have had it
Stan and Olly? Haha no way!
It's a great great name xx

 

[kiwimama]

If you and your OH love it, then use it. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. I'd tell you're family to butt out and if they can't say something nice then just don't say anything at all.

 

[1sttimemama2b]

Sounds great! My advice, stop telling people your name until baby comes. Everyone has an opinion and it's hard to make everyone happy. Once the babies been named people will keep their opinions to themselves. When people ask just say, you are keeping it a surprise. This is what we plan on doing I think Also I think it's good to keep a couple of name options open. Maybe LO comes out and doesn't look like a Stanley at all Good luck!

 

[moomoo]

My nephew is Stanley!! I love it!!

 

[Savannah11]

Don't let anyone else tell you or hubby what they like and don't like.
Its your choice.

Alot of people think our name choice is a little weird but we've made our minds up now and won't let anybody change them

Stanley is lovely x

 

[discoclare]

I LOVE Stanley!!

this!

 

[LoraLoo]

My advice is pick a name that you both like, sod anyone else, its not their baby and there will always be someone that doesn't like the name you pick. I like Stanley, its a good,solid name! xxxx

 

[kerry1904]

Hi

I am in a similar situation, my OH has decided that the baby will be Sidney after his Grandfather with whom he was particularly close to.

I dont mind the name, I think I have gotten used to it now but other peoples reactions are just plain rude - my Mum doesnt like it, said she told someone we will name the baby Sidney and they laughed, my brother said its a horrible name and cant believe I will call my child that and alot of people dont even need to say anything - the disgusted face they pull and the awkward silence generally says it all!

I am worried my child will come up against this and I dont want him embarassed of his name or to be in anyway disadvantaged by it either, so Im really struggling. I dont know how to approach it with OH or if I should at all?

Who ever thought it would be this difficult? What also makes it difficult is our neice and nephews have very modern cute names: Eden Tommy and Willow Rae! And our LO is going to have the old fashioned name!

Good luck with the name searching/picking ladies

xxx

 

[furr76]

Thanks for all your replies x

Just an update - my mum actually got worse, she apparently even did a poll with everyone she came across about the name Stanley and absolutely no-one liked it. She then told me that she wouldn't be calling him Stanley, she would call him Lee!! I replied that if she did he wouldn't know who she was talking to as it wasn't going to be his name. Her reply was that he would know as she would tell him that it was the name Grandma called him and tell him why she was doing it!! I really just couldn't believe what she was saying. Anyway I just left as didn't trust myself to say anything to her. But all of a sudden she has stopped being a complete cow about it and referring to him as Stanley and being very nice. The only thing I can think of is that my sister has had a word with her but I haven't had a chance to ask her if she has or not yet!! I just can't believe that my own mother would be like she was but you just don't know people sometimes.

But me and my hubby love the name so it is going to stick! Just can't wait to meet Stanley Benjamin Francis now!!!

 

[berniegroves]

I think it is a lovely name.
I don't think we will be telling people the names we deicide on if we get pregnant as there will always be someone who says something negative!

Use the name if your hubby loves it. At the end of the day it is your choice and not anyone elses!

 

[moomoo]

I cannot believe your mum is being so selfish!! She had her turn choosing her kids names?!

 

[someoldgirl]

So happy you decided to stick with it! It's lovely!! x

 

[shelleney]

I think it sounds cool. No one likes the name we have chosen for our future son, especially my mum and sister. but we arent changing our mind either. good luck in the future with baby Stanley!