Please tell me I'm not alone!

[Tezzy]

Is anybody else REALLY scared about going to their dating scan?

Last year I had a scan at 9.5 weeks to be told I'd MMC'd @ 6 weeks and although I've already had two scans this pregnancy I'm absolutely crapping myself about going to my dating scan on July 5th and being told there's something wrong

I just can't get it out of my head. Last time my body showed absolutely no sign of MC until 3 weeks after my baby had stopped growing... I just can't go through that again

I'm literally a nervous wreck just thinking about it...

 

[ButterflyK]

No you are not alone, I have had one scan last week and seen the heartbeat and everything looked good but I am terrified already for the next scan. According to me LMP I am what my ticker says but I think I am a week behind almost as I have a 34 day cycle so baby was a little smaller then the dating below. On top of that I don't go to the actual doctor until 2 more weeks so I paid for a private scan just to see something

 

[Tezzy]

Massive hugs to you I hope the next few weeks go quickly for you x

 

[Nina83]

Of course I'm scared. You're not alone
I saw the HB at 6+4 and the baby stopped developing at 7+1.
Our scan this time is at 7+2 and I'm terrified. I'm afraid to move the scan forward and maybe have the same thing happen, but at the same time I'm afraid this scan will show the same as last.
I'm terrified, I just want to be oblivious to everything and go for the 12 week scan when everything should be OK.
((hugs)) This totally stinks

 

[Tezzy]

Massive hugs... Such an emotional time for us all eh?

 

[WhitheartsQ]

I felt this way. Both me and my dh went in completely stressed and worried. However it all went well! Hope the same happens for you all! Good luck!

 

[Tezzy]

Thanks for your positive story

 

[farmwife25]

You are so not alone. We to went through a MMC in dec. We were SO excited on the 2hr drive to our scan, only to find out minutes in that there was definatly not a 13 week fetus in there. We were crushed. However we got pregnant in January. I was terrified to go to my 1st u/s at 6 weeks. Then at 10 weeks on holidays I had a bleeding episode, we were scared but had no choice but to keep positive till we got home to see our dr. I still had 2 weeks before my 12 week u/s, so the dr office squeezed me in to check me out since I had a mc before. I was 2 early to hear a heartbeat on doppler so I had to wait till my u/s. It took everything in me to stay positive for my dh sake but I was scared. It was a relief when the u/s tech showed us a strong hb! We are now 23 weeks, expecting a ds if the tech was right, and got to hear his hb at todays dr appt. Music to my ears. Its scary I know especially cafter a mmc, but try not to stress its not good for you and bagy. Everything will be good. Just keep positive and try and relax and enjoy. Easier said than done I know!

 

[mlm115]

I'm so worried for the same reason. Last time we found the mmc at 8 weeks. I heard the hb last week at 6+4, now I'm so scared for my next appointment next week when I will be 8+4.

 

[BlueJayBabe]

I'm scared too...I have an u/s booked for when I'll be 7 wks. It's on June 26th and it feels like I've been waiting YEARS for it. I'm so afraid it might be too early and I won't see a hb...

 

[Tezzy]

Hugs to all of you

 

[Nina83]

mlm115,
We also found out the baby had died at 8 weeks (I had some minor spotting, still no idea what made me go check it out).
This time I'm getting the first US at 6+5, and if all goes well, I plan on having another at 8-9 weeks. Just to make sure. I want to pass the 8 week mark and KNOW it.
I think that if I'm freaked out now, probably after I hear the HB I'll be even more freaked out.

 

[SweetPotatoPi]

Yep, completely petrified . Part of me just wants to stick my fingers in my ears and not do anything unless I make it to the 12 week mark (m/c'd in November at around 10.5 wks). But the other part of me wants to have a relationship kind of going with a care provider so that I'm not in the weird place where I was last time when I m/c'd but hadn't gotten around to choosing a m/w yet. Ugh!

 

[dairymomma]

I find that KNOWING there's a hb is what makes me relax, even if it's just minutely. My early u/s have also been able to diagnose the cause of my spotting (something I've done with all but one of my 9 pregnancies). Yes, more often than not, I've gotten bad news or the u/s is just confirming what we already know is happening BUT the knowing what's going on for certain makes me feel better. And the times it hasn't confirmed a mc, it's confirmed a strong steady hb and my little bean's growth.

 

[horseypants]

Me too! I saw the heartbeat but my hcg is disturbingly low. Last time, same thing. Mmc at 8.5. I'm a wreck. Xo

 

[gottalaugh]

I'm worried sick we won't hear a heartbeat at my 7 week 2 day scan on the 29th.

Even though I feel a sigh of relief when each day passes without spotting, I still know that bad things can happen without spotting which I might not find out until the scan. Even then it's a wait til the 12 week mark...then 14....then 16....and so on. Won't relax until I get to take this baby home.

PGAL is so scary. I try to stay calm and remind myself I can't control this.