Pls advise. 2M/Cs?? - What to do?

[Lotus77]

Dear all,

I'd like some advice and opinions from those who have had the same experience :

I started TTC in June 2008, and got a BFP in Aug. The HPT was positive twice during the next week. However, I started having just little smears of brown spots for a few days. I thought they were just breakthrough bleeding. Then I started having cramps on and off. Three days later, the brownish discharges (looked like old blood) were starting to increase so much that I had to use pads like I was having a normal period. I was 5W3Days along. AFter the abnormal bleeding stopped, I did another HPT and it was negative.

I rested in Sept for one cycle, then TTC again. I got a BHP in October. Wow!!... I was so happy, but I didnt tell ANYONE about my positives. Somehow I was so sure deep inside that I should wait until I am at least past the 8W mark before telling anyone, coz I'm sure that I'd die if I were to have to suffer the kind pity and sympathy which will always remind me of my loss and make me feel like an inadequate/incompetent female (infertile and unable to bear children).

My 2nd BB lived a short life. I got my BHP at exactly W4, and one week again I was bleeding. MC started with little cramps which came on and off. I convinced myself its normal and baby is implanting and uterus is growing, etc etc..... Cramping got more severe within 5 days, followed by heavy 'period-like' bleeding with lots of little clots. I refused to take painkiller to soothe the cramps that came with the bleeding. I just let it happen to me, being very sorry that I couldnt hold on to my BB, and that I deserved the pain.

I'm now in my first cycle after my 2nd MC and I'm already TTC (can you believe it?) I'm not stopping this time. I feel empty inside. I've bought my maternity dresses and bras for my 1st and 2nd trimester. Oh gosh... I cant tell anyone about my 2MC. So thank God for this forum.... and thank god for BnB for letting me get it all out (sorry for long post).

Big question now - I havent seen a doctor after my two MC (5W3D and 5W). I'm scared. Should I have seen a doctor?? Do I need a scan?? I'm scared of having to go through a D&C. I'm worried coz I think I can be pregnant again this cycle and I dont want to compromise any (potential) pregnancy.

What do I do ?????

 

[mrs.beanz]

Im so sorry about your losses. In my opinion I would go to the doctor. After I had my miscarriage in July I had an ultrasound and there was some remaining tissue left. Incomplete miscarriages can cause infection and infertility....better to be safe.

 

[Rumpskin]

Sorry for your loss darling.

I would definitely go to your doctors and get checked out. I have had 2 this year, one completed and one missed. I had a d&C the 2nd time around.

Best to be safe just incase an infection sets in.

Rumps x

 

[Barneyboo]

Hello sweetie, I agree with the girls I would go to the DR,s to get some advice its better to check everything out.....Hope everything works out for you x x x x

 

[Lotus77]

Thank you so much, girls!! Muaks xxx

Guess I'm just too scared to go, but I'll have your words in my mind when I go see the OBGyn. You are all angels. God bless. I definitely WILL go early next week. Cheers!!

 

[Rumpskin]

Thank you so much, girls!! Muaks xxx

Guess I'm just too scared to go, but I'll have your words in my mind when I go see the OBGyn. You are all angels. God bless. I definitely WILL go early next week. Cheers!!

Good luck sweety, give us an update after you have been x

 

[Drazic<3]

Wishing you loads of support for going to the doctors. Im so sorry for your losses. I really hope you find the answers you need asap and you have your little one

 

[JLS]

sorry for your losses. I agree with the other girls go and see your doc xx

 

[morayo]

sweetie see the doc and find out if there is anything u are overlooking!

 

[sam76]

hello i had a m/c in feb this year, i lost it naturally.then i got pregnant again and i was so happy, and i had a missed m/c on the 30th oct and had a d &c , i would advise that u talk to your doctor on this one xxx goodluck and keep us posted xxxxxx

 

[Sash13]

I would definitely say see your doctor. I'm sure they would have good advice and would make sure that YOU are healthy. Take care of yourself.

 

[charliesmom]

Three ifs:

1. If you do not get pregnant this cycle and want to see your doctor, you may, but most doctors will not send you off for testing until you've had 3 or more miscarriages. My doctors refused, telling me I do not classify as having recurrent miscarraiges (one at 12weeks and the other at 5.) I don't know if you could be classified as having recurrent miscarriages since both of them ended around the same time. If you are classified as that, then you have better chances of getting testing done. Be prepared though, some of these tests require several months to complete and requires that you NOT be pregnant. Some people with only 2 m/cs choose to take another chance rather than wait to do these tests because sometimes the tests may indicate there's nothing wrong.

2. If you are currently pregnant, there's nothing the doctors can do at this point to improve your chances of not having another miscarriage. The only thing is they can test you for pogesterone levels, which if it is under a certain number, you may get prescripted pogesterone supplements to increase your hormones. However, a big controversy is that there is no positive research suggesting that the supplements actually helps prevent a miscarriage. But it also does no harm, so people do try it.

3. If you DO have another m/c (pray to god you don't), you should definitely get all tests done. Especially if it happens again during the 5th week. That is an indication that something is wrong.

Good luck to you.

 

[logie68]

Please go and see your doc. It sounds like you are m/c about the same time as me. I have had 7 now. I have had loads of tests which all came back negative but I am now on 1 aspirin a day and face heparin injections if i get to 6 weeks. If you have had 2 m/c you should be getting these tests. you wouldn't need a d/c at 5 weeks but the doc can order an ultrasound to check your womb etc to see if shape has settled back down again. you sound like me after my 2nd mi/c - i just decided to keep trying without a break but i should have waited for tests etc. Take your time. Your body may need a rest. It will happen - i do have one gorgeous little boy and I know you will have a baby one day. My sister had 2 just like you before her 1st one and she went on to have 2 beautiful boys.

 

[Lotus77]

Thanks for all that wealth of information and advise. Yes, I'll have to wait to see if I get a BFP on 30th Nov (coz I BD during this month's Ovulation), if no, I'll take a break and have the doc run some tests. If yes, I'll still see the doc and run some tests. Hehehe....

You all have my utmost gratitude. May God bless you all.

 

[Hevz]

babe....good luck.

I phoned the Dr's when I had a miscarriage at 6wks and they said as long as the pain wasn't severe and I wasn't bleeding too heavily or for over 10days then not to worry and try again when I was ready. Took another 9months of trying but eventually we got pregnant and we now have a wonderful little brother for my 2 daughters.

I'm currently pregnant again, it was a twin pregnancy but I miscarried one at about 7wks. I'm grateful for the one baby I am carrying though

 

[Lotus77]

Dear Hevz, hoping you are blooming and well with your precious little one.

I went to the Dr's last Friday (DPO12) to discuss my previous 2 M/Cs... and to run a blood test coz I was feeling weird - I suddenly developed difficulty sleeping at nite and woke up feeling hungry.

My Dr's reply to the previous MCs - Maybe its not a 'real pregnancy'. She looked really really worried and questioned me about how long the bleeding was after the MC and how the blood was like..... She looked more worried than me, so I didnt ask her further about what she meant by 'not really pregnant'... I am thinking maybe she meants I had failed implantations coz both incidents happened at 5W.

My blood test taken at DPO12 showed that I have a HCG level of 116!!!!! OMG, I'm PREGGERS!!!!.... I'm so happy and over the moon. Thanks to you all and your good wishes xxx

I'm due for my first scan on 23rd Dec .... I think I'm going to have a great Xmas this year, with a very special present for all my friends and relatives. Cheers!!

 

[JLS]

WOW! That's brilliant news!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

 

[Sash13]

Congrats!!

 

[Lotus77]

Thanks to you all too!!! U girls made it so much easier for me to get through the days when I was so down from losing my beanies.

May God bless you all, your BBs... and your families.

 

[Hevz]

WOWEE



Good luck babe...I'm so pleased for you