PND Support Thread

[ALY]

Thanks hun

I no what you mean about keeping to a routine as im the same just cos it helps me and the kids

 

[Shifter]

Elm hun, I've never heard that about talking over birth bringing on PTSD, but I suppose it's possible as you are confronting it and possibly seeing it in a new light. But ultimately, talking through something that has upset you can NEVER be a bad thing in the long run

Aly - hugest for you. What a nasty piece of work to make up such a horrible rumour, and about someone she doesn't even know! I know it's hard, but you have to focus on other things and remember that no one who knows you well will believe the lies.

Well I'm a bit down today. I thought I was generally ok, still upset about the birth but not generally depressed. But when I've had depression in the past I've had anxiety about entering unfamiliar situations and well I seem to have that now. I have told everyone that I'm taking Jack to baby massage for the first time today and I really meant it, but I've woken up having had an anxiety dream about it (being late and Jack screaming) and now really don't want to go. I keep making excuses, like that the weather is a bit crappy so we can't walk up there (I don't drive, so not an option). But I recognise the trend so I know what it means.

 

[ALY]

Shifter
am the same i said i was going to take sam to baby sign but i didnt go for the 1st session
as i got myself all worked up and convinced myself that something was going to happen i made myself go to the 2nd one and we had a really good time and it wasnt half as bad as i tho it was going to be xx

 

[ecossaise74]

I don't think I have Pnd........ There's days where I feel really happy, great and peaceful but there's days (less frequent) where I panik and wonder if I'm a good mum if my baby is happy and healthy. Those days I usually cry for nothing
I don't think I'm depressed as most of the time I feel good. I would say it's just postnal feelings as I'm a young first time mum and I have no friends here and feel lonely without my family.

Tell me what you think?? and share your advises if that happened to you and you beat it naturally!! xx

 

[pinkmummy]

Eco hun.

With Caitlin I was exactly the same as you, I felt down a few times for a few weeks then I was ok. I think you should wait a few weeks and see how you feel if you are having more bad days than good then get yourself straight to the doctor coz the sooner you admit it to yourself the sooner you can get help xx

 

[ALY]

Hun
Is there anyone you can talk to ie mum and dad or even HV
I dont want to say u have got it hun but on the other hand i dont want to say you havent got it

 

[Shifter]

See how you go eco, it's early days yet and as a first time mum you are bound to have difficult days without PND, it's a huge lifestyle change

 

[Jkelmum]

damn that hv what a bitch made me feel like shite lily as put on 5 oz in days so i dont care wat she says and i have just rang docs to cancel nxts wks appt with her and asked for my proper hv to ring me

 

[elm]

wd Serina, you don't have to put up with her making you feel like that - she's supposed to be there to support you so she's obviously not doing her job properly. Hope your proper hv rings you soon

Aly people will see your beautiful children and how you are with them and not believe some stupid rumour. Have you thought about trying some counselling? Know it's not for everyone but it might be worth considering. My tablets are levelling me out most of the time but I don't think just taking them will get me through all this and it feels like looking at why I'm depressed now and the thought processes will help with other aspects of my life too xxx

Hi ecossaise - I was teary etc too in the first couple of weeks and then felt better before the pnd started proper, maybe talk to your mv / hv about how you've been feeling just so that the lines of communication are there and it'll be easier to ask for help and support in the future if you need it.

Did you make it to the baby massage Shifter? I'm going to start a new one on Friday and not looking forward to it. It's that initial bit of going in and everyone else will know each other because it's been running for ages. The first massage course (it's finished now) I went to I was half an hour late for because I'd been told the wrong time and Elliot did scream through it but it was still fine and I went back the next week!!! It's great you recognise the pattern so you can stop yourself falling into it. If you didn't make it today though don't beat yourself up, you can go next week xxx

Having a bit of a down day today myself but OH has been really lovely. DS have been crying loads, wondering if he's crying because I'm down or I'm down because he's crying??

xxx

 

[pinkmummy]

Elm hun my HV told me that Thomas was upset and crying all the time coz I was.

Are you on any tablets or anything hun?

Serina so glad you got that HV away from you! Theres nothing worse than having a HV or MW who treats you like shit xx

 

[Shifter]

No I didn't go. The weather really was pants, it's not easy trying to push a pram and hold an umbrella at the same time lol! When my parents were here earlier I told them I wasn't going if it was still raining and they agreed that was best and that at least it's on every week, so I don't feel totally like I was just making excuses now lol!

Jack's been a tired little thing all day, boob was the only thing that would soothe him but then he'd only sleep for 20 minutes and wake up still tired. Eventually I got him to sleep in his pram rocking him back and forth. It's getting to be the only place he will settle for a proper nap, not good. But I feel better for having a couple of hours to myself

 

[Jkelmum]

Now ive calmed down i,ll explain bare in mind i have 2 9oz bags of milk frozen plus 6 3oz tubs in fridge which is what lily is taking at the moment 3 hrly...still tday i get

it wont be long before your milk supply wont keep up with her ...then stated that shes still a little yellow which is cos shes on breast milk

Breast milk is meant to be best yet she seems determined to make me feel its not enough ive now to take Lily tomorrow for a blood test cos shes over two wks and still a little yellow bare in mind friday the mw said she was pink and the yellow had gone i am sure its gone its this damn fussy hv

 

[Shifter]

Now ive calmed down i,ll explain bare in mind i have 2 9oz bags of milk frozen plus 6 3oz tubs in fridge which is what lily is taking at the moment 3 hrly...still tday i get

it wont be long before your milk supply wont keep up with her ...then stated that shes still a little yellow which is cos shes on breast milk

Breast milk is meant to be best yet she seems determined to make me feel its not enough ive now to take Lily tomorrow for a blood test cos shes over two wks and still a little yellow bare in mind friday the mw said she was pink and the yellow had gone i am sure its gone its this damn fussy hv

That's a load of rubbish. Jaundice is common in the early days with both BF and FF babies. You need to report this HV as being poorly educated and not supportive. A stern letter should do wonders, but I'm not sure who the HV superior is

Exclusively expressing IS hard and often can't be sustained for long, but ultimately it is what you have decided to do and your HV should be supportive and encouraging, acknowledging the positive effort you are putting in.

 

[Jkelmum]

I wouldnt mind if i didnt have a clue but as a mum of 4 who as Exclusively expressed twice b4 for between 4~6 months I dont understand what right she thinks she as telling me my milk will soon not be enough

 

[elm]

I wouldnt mind if i didnt have a clue but as a mum of 4 who as Exclusively expressed twice b4 for between 4~6 months I dont understand what right she thinks she as telling me my milk will soon not be enough

everything you say just makes what that woman's saying to you worse I'd def. complain about her to your regular hv if nowhere else.

Don't blame you for not going Shifter - it's horrible weather here too. Have you thought about babywearing (I'm a sling pusher ) you could carry an umberella then too

I'm on tablets and having a cognitive behavioural therapy assessment Kelly, started with one to one sessions with a nurse but didn't feel it was helpful.

xxx

 

[ALY]

Elm my doc doesnt seem to think counciling will do me any good so he wont even send a letter to see if they could asses (sp) me

Shifter like you said there is always another time and the weather as been crap here aswell so i ant even got dressed today all iv done is been in the bath and put clean pjs on

Serina ignore the silly bitch you no wats best for your baby with out some jumped up HV trying to tell you diffrent

 

[Jkelmum]

Girls ...Off to my friends iam that far ahead with my milk i can have a few :drink: and pump and dump tomorrow tho god help my head ive not drank in 10 months

 

[ALY]

Have fun and enjoy yourself you deserve it hun

 

[Jkelmum]

Think i shall have 2 or 3 glasses of wine mixed with lemonade as i dont know that am in right state on mind to get drunk ...nobody wants me crying into my drink lol ...x

 

[lillysmum]

hey everyone, i seem to having a good day and yet i only started my sertraline yesterday??? I really didn't think it would work this fast and am a bit worried that this is like the calm before the storm