PND Support Thread

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Hello everyone - I've been popping in and reading how you're all doing but it's been while I've been expressing so haven't posted for a while.

What a stupid hv you have Serina!!! You're doing really well expressing, she should be supporting you x

Happy Birthday for tomorrow snettyb, hope you're having a good day tomorrow and can enjoy some of the things that are planned for you x

Hello Lilysmum, Shifter, Kelly & Aly

You're all so lovely

I started an assessment for cognitive behavioural therapy, cried all the way through but it was really good, she helped me see how things might be linked that I've never recognised before and I'm really positive about it.

She said that discussions about birth are client led (or initiated or something) because of the NICE guidelines and it can cause PTSD where you wouldn't otherwise have had it? Has anyone else heard that? I really do feel the need to go over what happend so that I can avoid feeling the same way if I have another baby...

 

[ALY]

Ohhh why does it always happen to me
ok av heard a rumor that is going round and its about me its not very nice and id rather not say cos i dont want to be judged x
but just as i tho i was getting there this comes out and all iv done is cry i dont really no y im posting this as i no none of you an help me but i just wanted to write it down

 

[Jkelmum]

the rumor mill is a bitch BUT remember that soon they will be talking about someone else xx we wouldnt judge u either if u need to chat to somebody pm me xxx

 

[ALY]

the rumor mill is a bitch BUT remember that soon they will be talking about someone else xx

I dont think they will hun cos this is really BAD
i just dont no wat im going to do i no i DEFINATLLY ant done the things they av said but how the bloody hell do i convince people
sorry none of you need to hear me whine you ahve all got your own probs

 

[Jkelmum]

Dont be silly we are all here to support each other ....I am so sorry these rumors are getting you down ...I dont know what to suggest other then tho easier said then done ...depending on my mood i would be tempted to find the source of the rumors and go have it out with them but that prob wont help xxx

 

[ALY]

I have been out to try to find her but couldnt but then again its a good job i didnt as i would have been locked up
ok il give an explanation but PLEASE dont judge me
today hollys grandma brought her home and said a woman in her shop as asked how im feeling since the social workers av been x
she said wat are you on about and the woman replied dont you no that your own grand daughter and her other 2 kids av been put on the at risk register as she (me) as been beating them up
this is NOT TRUE i would never do anything to HURT my kids and the social services HAVE never been to my house x
So now am scared that everyone thinks iv been hurting my kids and dont no how i will be able to convince them other wise

What am i going to do can i just say that this person doesnt even no me or my family am just so scared that social service will TAKE MY KIDS AWAY FROM THE ONE PERSON WHO LOVES THEM THE MOST

 

[Jkelmum]

Firstly Now I am gunna tell ya sumat that not many know but it was yrs ago and i dont mind who knows ....Jake was about 7 and a boy had been upsetting him allday and he lost his temper was laying to the other boy i had to phisically get jake off and i slapped his bum in front of everyone at the park and at 10pm the poilce came and i admitted to slapping his bum they reported me to social services who came out and basically asked me lots of ? and i was very honest about it and i never heard from them since ...basically i was guilty of hitting my child and they still didnt take my children ...Your not guilty of anything and even if and a big if they do come which i doubt they do as this is based on rumors they will see for themsleves that u are a fantastic mum NOBODY Will take your kids off you it doesnt work like that they would have to go on the at risk register first which they wont do without proof then they would work with you to keep your children with you plz believe what i am sayying i grew up in foster care from the age 4 and have been in the system long enough to know how it works xxxxxxx

 

[ALY]

Have you just reported my post hun
i saw you wanted to report a post and i really hope it wasnt the one i made cos its all true i can even give you hollys grandmas number if you need to check this out x
am sorry to ask but i just need to no as i dont want to sit here and think im in trouble for telling the truth x

 

[Jkelmum]

Nope i havent just been drivin me mad since yesturday i cant see where the hell to report post ...stop worrying why would i report your post ya plank

 

[ALY]

Nope i havent just been drivin me mad since yesturday i cant see where the hell to report post ...stop worrying why would i report your post ya plank

Am sorry but i HAD to ask am just so bloody paranoid all the time
i just dont no how much more i can take everyone seems to HATE me and i really dont no y yeah ok iv got a temper and yeah i lose it and hurt people but NEVER MY KIDS
now am just sat here crying as im sooooooo scared x

 

[Jkelmum]

Nope i havent just been drivin me mad since yesturday i cant see where the hell to report post ...stop worrying why would i report your post ya plank

Am sorry but i HAD to ask am just so bloody paranoid all the time
i just dont no how much more i can take everyone seems to HATE me and i really dont no y yeah ok iv got a temper and yeah i lose it and hurt people but NEVER MY KIDS
now am just sat here crying as im sooooooo scared x

I am sure your paranoia is part of pnd ..how long have u been on your meds do u think they are working for you ? ....Nobody will take your kids your there mum and the best person them to be with

 

[ALY]

Abot 4-5 weeks but it may be a bit longer
god you really dont need this right now am sorry you have enough probs of your own
i used to be soooo confident and now am just a nervous wreck

 

[Jkelmum]

Abot 4-5 weeks but it may be a bit longer
god you really dont need this right now am sorry you have enough probs of your own
i used to be soooo confident and now am just a nervous wreck

Like i said we are all here to support each other ...I would go back to docs ....when ive been on meds in past ive always been told 2~4 wk for u to feelk effect .....I dont wanna speak out of turn but imo i dont think they are working very well as u seem to be down more then up iykwim

 

[ALY]

I was staring to feel a bit better untill all this happened tonight
i just want to give up but i no my kids need me your right about going back to the docs tho hun av got an appointment for the 24th of this month so hopefully soon i will start to feel a bit more like my normal self x

 

[Jkelmum]

Hope so ....plz try and forget these nasty bitches that have been saying such awful things i know its easier said then done BUT you know you are a great mum and you know you would never hurt them and thats what matters hold your head high ...plz dont worry unfounded rumors will not get your children taken off you i promise you ...Right am off to bed takecare hun xxxxxx

 

[ALY]

THANKS HUN
sorry iv been so much trouble tonight

 

[Jkelmum]

THANKS HUN
sorry iv been so much trouble tonight

Dont be silly xxx

 

[FEDup1981]

Whoevers started the rumours - what a bitch! Completely ignore it hun. It will all blow over in a while. I know its easier said than done, and id be fuming too, but there isnt a lot that can be done, unless u take an advert out in the paper!!!
As long as ur kids are well looked after then you can walk with ur head held high, and fook everyone else.

I seen what a brill mum u r with sam. You never once lost ur temper or got frustrated when hes was off into everything.

Dont worry hun xxxxxxx

 

[ALY]

TOYAH THANKYOU
I would never hurt my kids and i no that my family and friends round here will say the same as you but that doesnt stop me worrying av been up all night crying and just staring into space but i just need answers as to why hollys grandma is going to put her straight cos she told me not to lose my temper and go for her as THAT will look bad xx

 

[pinkmummy]

Aly hun, some people are just pure nasty! Ignore them hun, I know its easier said than done, but you don't need all the worry and stress right now

As Serina said we are all here to support each otehr and rant all you want hun we all do it

Sorry to hear you have PND Elm hun but its good too see you back, haven't seen you in ages, hope you and Elliot are ok

How is everyone today? Today is usually my bad day as Chris works until 9pm which means I have both kids to get bathed and put to bed and I like to keep to my routine of both being in bed by 7.30pm! xx